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  1. I hate it that you have a new girlfriend. I wish you were alone like me still missing me, still trying to get used to life without each other. I hate it that you have someone to distract you from the pain & emptiness... I know she's a rebound because you were so heartbroken, you still wanted me back and but I said no and then you started seeing her 3 weeks later and it stung me so badly. I hate the thought of you having sex with someone else, I'm so annoyed and jealous, she's lucky because you are such an amazing lover. I fantasise about you and hate to think I will never have sex with you again. Did I make a mistake? I dont think I did, you were an a$$hole and you made me cry and I cant see myself with you forever. But I miss you.
  2. I hate it how I was so miserable with you and know we cannot be together because it will never work and we were driving each other CRAZY. So why does it hurt so bad and I miss you all the time? I hate it that you've moved on so we cant have sex anymore, you were a terrible boyfriend because of your insecurities and anxieties but the best lover I've ever had and I'm worried that I'll never have sex that good or love someone again. I'm just so heart broken and dating other people does not fill the void but being alone makes it bigger.
  3. Sometimes love makes you turn a blind eye and put up with more then u really should. If he hurts you unintentionally well thats one thing, but if he does it constantly and without regard for how his actions are impacting you, then he definitely isnt worth your love or understanding. Hold out for someone worth your heart, being with someone like this will only destroy you. xoxReese
  4. What a heartbreaking situation to be in as a mum, seeing your son (who will always be your baby) hurting over what seems to him as rejection from an uncaring father. I could go off on a tangent about what a dropkick his dad is being... but thats pointless, the main thing is your boy. if i were you i would explain to him that his dad loves him and will always love him, but that he's been through a lot and probably suffers a lot of guilt from not being the father he should (and possibly wishes he could be). i would say to him not to expect too much from him and to enjoy the time that he does spend with him and not worry about it too much. his dad will realise one day what he has missed, how irresponsible and hurtful he has been to his son, and that will always be between them. it sounds like he's in a situation where he must be an embaressment to his own self, so how can he be man enough to be there for his children? maybe he dosnt want them to hear or see him in the state he's in. it could be a lot of things, but the main thing is for your son to know he cares. maybe encourage his dad to write him a heartfelt letter so that when he is down and out and doubting whether his dad cares, he has something to hold on to? i hope things work out for the best, my heart really goes out to you. if my ex did this to our boy, i think "i" would be the reason he's gone under the radar, i may have him tied up in a basement somewhere getting sense kicked back into him only joking. xxReese
  5. didnt work the first time... but here's my tag of my little prince. i guess the other thing i wanted to say is dont let anyone else try tell u what u think u should do. its ur life, and u have to be happy. i guess i was trying to express to u that babies bring u so much happiness too but u have to be ready for it. on the other hand i have taken my girlfriends to have their abortions, prob 5 times. its sad & hard for them... but they wernt ready - and the relationships were screwed. im fortunate enough to have been in a position (mentally/relationshipwise) to do everything i could to have my bubs & be happy. no regrets here, the only thing i hate is when ppl ask how i could be so careless, and i get upset because no matter the circumstances, my son is no longer a mistake - he is the most beautiful thing in my life. i hate the implication that i "should have been careful" because if i was, i wouldnt have him... and i cant imagine that!! xoxBest wishes Reese image removed
  6. well there are worse things that could happen in ur relationship then having a baby. but this is a decision that u have to make together, not on ur own. if u keep the baby - u wont be the first or last person to balance work, study & parenthood successfully. i guess u are afraid of the unknown, i was too - i was 24, we had only been together 3 months when i fell preg accidently, etc. but we were in love, he was prepared to do anything to make it work, and i had already felt the preciousness & beauty of the life inside me and i couldnt fathom the concept of aborting it... scarilly enough i even knew he was a boy. anyway now im 26, i work F/T, i study P/T and i am constantly amazed by the intensity of love i feel for this child and the overwhelming happiness he has brought me. if my place was a house before its a HOME now, if everything i did before was for me... i do it for US now and it means so much more - like everything has a greater purpose then it ever did. without making it sound like my life was meaningless before i had him - i dont feel like i ever really lived till i felt the pleasure of loving & being responsible for someone so unconditionally. so the relationship with his dad didnt work out, i didnt want to marry him - but our baby is the absolute centre of our universes and brings us so much happiness. so i guess all im trying to say to u is, it is a choice u will have to make, either way. i think everyone else has talked about the negatives & the responsibility... but i just want u to understand that nothing in this world could prepare u & ur husband to be, for how much love & joy a child will bring u (when it happens). or the fascination & obsession u will have with this person that is of u, or the feeling that nothing else in this world matters AT ALL because the most important thing to u will be that he/she is safe, healthy & happy. anyways i wouldnt change a thing, my mum cried when i got preg accidently and to this day i believe its such a crock of crap all the scared feelings ppl feel, i think children are angels from heaven and every day that i get to cuddle my boy and smother him with kisses is a tangible piece of heaven in my life. anyway good luck with ur decision. just remember - once u make it, either way, dont look back and give it 100%. if u abort - forget it & move on. if u keep the child - be the best kind of mother & partner u can possibly be. xoxReese link removed">
  7. We were driving home this afternoon and we drove over this bridge here in melb called the westgate bridge that is over 850 metres high. every week there is at least ONE suicide, where one person pulls over and leaps off. The media is forbidden from publicising this of course as they dont want to give out any more inspiration to those feeling fragile. Now i absolutely crap my dacks on this bridge as it is, i mean this bridge is so long and high it shakes and sways in the wind, if u get out of your car u can feel this mammoth bridge swaying and it does NOT feel safe (it is... but its totally scary). I hate to pull over... looking over the edge, the idea of climbing off and jumping to a certain death... WOW... how would u get the balls to do such a thing? where does that courage come from? and if someone had so much courage to do something so horrifically scary... why dont they have the courage to fix what is wrong? takes less balls to do that then to jump i think.
  8. Caldus thanks for that... i guess i do feel responsible somewhat for his "mental wellbeing" since we are friends etc. the more romantic side/conversations are really bugging me lately tho. With Luis, my boyfriend yes we do/have discussed the situation with our relationship and at the moment he thinks everything is cool but i dont think i will ever marry him. what keeps me here is our little man, i wish so much i could give him the family life he deserves.. so thats why im still with his dad. DD ur right in so many ways, it actually bugs me how clingy he is from a distance, imagine what it would be like if he was actually here! i think i would feel like i had 2 kids instead of one sometimes when i think about the way he is. i have to think about what im going to say to him, i dont want him to get all depressed etc.
  9. Mamasita

    help!!

    u need to be on the pill for 2 full weeks before u can have unprotected sex. so if ur boyfriend came inside u before those 2 weeks were up - it is possible. ALSO dont forget, ur period dosnt usually start till the 3rd day of the sugar pill. *fingers crossed ur not preg!* xoxReese
  10. i wouldnt worry about it... sounds a bit weird this "thumping" business tho... dont believe anyones ovaries ever THUMP lol but hey everyone's different ;o)
  11. I have a friend (Dylan) from uni that i have maintained contact with all these years (about 6 years) and recently he told me that he had always been in love with me etc. and that he knows he wants to be with me forever. at first i was flattered and entertained the notions of it but reality quickly set in. Im in a relationship now and we have a child together. Although my relationship is having its ups and downs and i dont intend to stay with him, i dont want to start anything else - especially before this one is over. So Dylan keeps telling me he is in love with me and wants to move to melb to be with me and is aiming for Feb, i dont want him to come, i dont even want to keep on with the kinds of conversations we are having. i have asked him not to talk about moving or anything romantic anymore until i have actually ended my current relationship etc. but the reality is i dont even want to continue having these conversations AT ALL.. If/when i do break up with my boyfriend - i just want some single time, or me time - i dont want to jump right into another relationship. So how can i tell Dylan that i dont want to continue this without hurting his feelings to badly? he tells me im the only happiness in his life at the moment, that im the only good thing he has, i give him hope for his future and all of that sort of thing. im worried that if i end this he will get all depressed etc. and i dont want to do that. but at the same time, i feel like i am disrespecting my boyfriend by even entertaining Dylan's interests and that that is not fair. anyway, timing is just messed up for all of this and i really cant be bothered with any of it... so i guess im just looking for the easiest way to back out of the long distance thing. thanks in advance for ur help xoxReese
  12. First of all congratulations on a successful pregnancy despite the odds. but im just a bit puzzled about what a big fuss ur making over the delivery of ur child. things are not always perfect, pregnancy is such an intricate miracle - if she is breech, so be it. sure natural birth is apparently better due to quicker recovery etc. but u know what, if u cant have a natural birth - just deal with it. the IMPORTANT thing is that ur baby is delivered with the least amount of risk, and if ur docter knows u have to have a c-s then try get ur head around it. u sound like a very positive person, a little pragmatism will not go astray here. they do not suggest c-s for the hell of it, ALL docters prefer a safe& natural birth, in ur case they are concerned for the safety of ur child. i was due for a natural birth with no apparent complications... however after 30 hours of labour (no walk in the park i can assure u) they realised my son's head was on a bad angle for vaginal delivery, he was getting distressed and an emergency c-s was called at the last minute... FYI i had dilated 9 3/4 cms so i thought after all that i was FINALLY THERE when the anticlimactic announcement was made and i was off to the theatre. but u know what... i wasnt going to question the Dr - no matter what i had to go through i just wanted my baby to be SAFE. so i think u should just have an open mind towards this, when it comes to childbirth - even the best laid plans go awry. my c-s scar is hardly noticiable, a week of discomfort was about all i had... whats THAT after months of it?? At the end of the day a reward that means far more then all ur troubles to get there awaits u - a beautiful child u will love more then life itself, and makes u so infinitely happy that its all worth it. xoxReese
  13. I think u need to be too cool for school with her. if it seems like she is searching for some loving reinforcement - gauge that and give it to her. women are complicated creatures, and it sounds to me like she is confused and not sure what she wants... if u back off and give her some space it might be just what she needs to realise that she wants to be with u. as long as she knows ur love is still there thats good, but no need to shower her with ur love & affection at this time. just my opinions xoxReese
  14. Weeeellll girlfriend... u know most of how i feel about ur situation hehe and thanks for de ummm... intro to this forum - looks intwesting 8) Anyway i dont think he is going to change at all, and ur such a beautiful person that he dosnt deserve u, or to interfere with ur life as badly as he does... he knows this himself. i know its hard but u have to be strong and be there for him as a FRIEND, of course u have too good a heart to walk away from someone u care about so much. but he has too many problems, and how much more do u owe him when u have already given so much? I think its been about HIM for far too long, now u need to start doing things for urself, get ur life back, get urself back to the way u always were before he started interfering with ur life and controlling & manipulating u. It was NEVER ur fault, nothing u could have ever done in the past would have changed the outcome of everything that has happened, i hope one day u realise its just the way he is and never the way u were with him. if anything u were the only good thing he had in his life, he knows this but he still couldnt stop himself from destroying u too. I know its hard for u to turn away because u have such a beautiful soul but u have to be strong, because u have already given him too much xoxPootie Tang
  15. I think it sounds like u just think too much and do ur own head in. U cannot reverse the circumstances under which u met her, u cannot sit there and wish u had met her in a better light - what a waste of time and effort. I think it sounds like SHE would be better off with someone else, how can u hold one of the most saddest and vulnerable periods of her life (and the mess she was at the time) against her because it effected the evolution of ur relationship with her? its not THAT HARD to decide if u love someone as much as u want to love them. and holding weakness or insecurities against them during the darkest period of the life (HELLOO... HER FATHER DIED) is ridiculous. what do u love about her, is she wonderful in other ways, sweet, beautiful, caring, what? if u want to be productive in deciding the future of ur relationship think about why u love her and think she might be worth the effort... not what she did in the past to cause u to loose respect for her. lets face it, if u connected with her, knew her so well and loved her long BEFORE her father died, no amount of craziness she came up with during that time would have put u off. sounds to me like u like making excuses for the confusion u create for urself. spare her ur dramas... sounds like she's had enough already. xoxReese
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