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  1. needhelp
    Thank you so much for this advice..its helped me..gonna save this to file too
  2. needhelp
    Hi i get that same anxiety feeling all the time when my partner is mad or i think he is mad at me..its the worst and i end up acting like a freak with text messages...i would love a remedy aswell to take it away..its almost painful..
  3. needhelp
    Hi there, i know this is so hard for you and i am sorry you are going through this..But you have to walk away in my opinon. Feeling this way is not healthy, and the way he is treating you is bad. I have been through the whole situation where they tell you its your insecurities and its all your fault. But at the end of the day he is not the same guy you first loved. That is now gone. Let go of the hope that he will become that person again. He wont and he cant. You will never beable to let go of what he did. Nor should you..Its not fare and you deserve better. Take it from me i know what low self esteem is. Dont let this consume you like it has done to me. To the point where you will stay because you havent got the strength to wak away. He will always treat you like this because he can, because you allow him to. Put your foot down..Life is too short!!
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    Its weird when things like this happen. But its true. Relationships are very hard to understand. The memories are the hardest part. Its like they hold on to us and we cant seem to let go!! Thanks for your post, its made me realise in the end that you really have no control over how someone feels about you. You can only control how you feel about yourself.. Hope it get easier!
  5. needhelp
    All I can say is...that was amazing..You have described exactly something I am going through..WOW.. Thank you
  6. needhelp
    You have made her such a huge part of your life. Now you need to focus on you. Why dont you go to the gym, or for a run or walk??? This will clear your head..
  7. needhelp
    dont do it..please..it will only make her stand back and make you feel foolish. If you want to write to her do it..say everything you ever wanted to say..but DONT SEND IT. Just simply save it..read it in a few days then delete it. You cannot force someone to be with you or love you. Just take your time to get over this. She will always be a friend I am sure. But now you have to let go of the romantic feelings. You cannot do this while staying in contact with her. Once you have moved on then I am sure you will beable to resume the friendship that you value so much. Take it easy..it will hurt for a while but NC is what you need to pull through this..Do it for you!!
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    Hang in there..Like i said they are clueless to the way we feel. You are doing the right thing by NC. Remember this is out of your control so try and keep yourself occupied. You sound like me when it comes to staying home and not doing things. I have locked myself up in my room and i tell you it makes things worse. Too much thinking is not good. Get out and do some excersise.. catch up with mates..just try and get your mind off her..
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    hey i hope u r still on line.. please please..i really know what you are going through. Its like this is so strange. My ex just came to my work. Yesterday he was all lovey dovey with me.. today he got here and started saying some mean things..I was so happy to see him. When he left i balled.. Babes they dont care..they have some thrill as they know how to make us and break us and they enjoy the control. PLEASE PM me if you wish..
  10. needhelp
    wow..I am so sorry he has done this to you... I dont know why they do this..but my ex has the same mentallity. When he is a b***tard he realises..Tells me how sorry he was and that he will never do that to me again..But guess what..they do over and over and over again. Hun do not call him again. Its going to be so so so hard I know but enough is enough. He does not deserve your tears. Is he sitting at home feeling bad..no he is not, so why should you? Talk to me..
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    I know what u mean. Its 1am here in sydney..I cant sleep and i have work tomorrow. Ever since my man and i split sleep has become something of the past. It will take time my friend..but we have to move on. We have to get over the lonliness..the hurt and the need for these people. I have concluded that he just didnt love me as much as i loved him.. SO he has let go and i have to let go too! I am sorry for your upsetment..but its not in your control. I think back to how i could have done things differently in the past..maybe if i was better he would have loved me more..but i cant go back and i cant change this..and i cant change me.. But in reality...after all this,,i will be a stronger me..this had to have happened for a reason..thats what i tell myself. Just remember, at the end of the day you still have you and you have your daughter too Chin up
  12. needhelp
    wow i am so sorry to hear that.. Why is she messing with you..thats not fare.. NC is the only way to go... for you to get over the pain..there is noway you could just be friends now could there? Let me know how you are going.. I know how you feel..I have been through hurt like this too.. You are not alone...
  13. needhelp
    Honestly..probably nothing.. Probably just trying to be nice..Or not You know her better, what do you think she is trying to say?? My opinion..try and block her mails..She probably knows she is getting to you..so i would try and barr her completely. She does not even deserve your time. Thats what I think..
  14. needhelp
    How do you guys do it. My ex and I broke up yesterday after many months of pure hell. He is able to not contact me.. Me on the other hand.I cant handle it. I try NC but i end up looking at my phone for ages. Then messaging him. Does this mean he has stopped caring?? How do i stop..Tell me how you guys stop the hurt. From a males point of view is it easier?? Do you just block the feelings? I still love him..wish this would pass.. Good on you both.. My question after all that (sorry) after 3 years didnt it really break u to not talk to her everyday..assuming you did while u were together. Did it not shock u that she was dating only a short period after you split?
  15. needhelp
    You sound very confident..which is great..but being good looking and really really reall y really knowing it can be a huge turn off for most people. Remember beauty comes from within aswell. There are people who are fantastic looking but on the inside they are not all that great..this in time deminishes their looks...People on the other hand who are average looking with fantastic personalities end up being the most attractive.. Do you know what I mean...Try to relax a little..
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