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  1. Personally, allow yourself to soak in the tub in warm water for 3-5 minutes and always exfoliate beforehand with a gentle scrub, which helps a lot in reducing ingrown hairs, if any. Use a sharp, clean blade, as mentioned, and don't press too hard with the blade because it could cause irritation. Rinse well afterwards and apply cream... I've never tried the bikini-zone cream, I usually just use a moisturizer or body butter, but I'll try it.
  2. Well, why are you going to let her tell you what you like and don't like. Frankly, if you think you are bi, you are. Nothing she says is going to change that and I don't understand why she keeps arguing your stated preference. The age gap might be a bit much but age is just a number, sometimes. Go with the flow, see what happens. Do what feels right to you, not to prove something to others. People will see you for who you are.
  3. Have you ever addressed the issue with your mom? Or pointed out the fact that your sister gets away with so much? See for me with my sister, she always got away with more, but in a different sense. She was always the one to talk back, be rude, rebel, party hard - while I was more calm and when I did act out, was reprimanded severely while she was never at all. Talk about double standards. Why do you have to ask your mom about everything though? I understand you crave her approval to a certain extent but if you're getting nothing but negative feedback, stop asking for it. Or the next time she says something negative, call her out on it. "Mom, I really appreciate that you're sharing your opinion, but I actually feel really good in this and you're raining on my parade here." Or a little more blunt, if you're brave.
  4. Day Walker - it's not always that simple. While I agree that if both people are looking for the same thing, it doesn't matter when the sex occurs, but I'm talking about is it wise to risk your heart by having sex early on? Sex does change things, despite what people think. You're in control to a certain extent but for most, when you get intimate with someone sexually, the whole parametres change. What if both parties don't know what they want? I don't date around looking to fall in love - yes, the thought is in the back of my mind, but I'm looking to find a connection initially, not love. You would be naive to question the possibility of love with a virtual stranger, so why would you put yourself on the line physically? Does sex change the course of things at all? Batya33 - I admire your self-restraint! lol The fact that you're straight up helps you out. Sometimes I like to play the little naive "I-have-no-idea-what-you're-talking-about" game because I don't like to discuss sex with a stranger, but it obviously works for you. But have you ever yourself felt the pressure build up too much?? You've had sleep overs and you've set the rules before hand, but have you ever slipped up yourself?
  5. I have the same "issue" with short skirts, being almost 5'11. Luckily, my mother has always been supporting me with whatever I chose to wear, even if it is a short skirt. Besides, they're never really THAT short, it's because our legs are so darn long! My mom has always told me to wear what I felt good in and work with my assets. When she was pregnant with me, she used to walk behind my grandmother and pray that her daughter got her legs - LOL. It worked! I have some friends however, that always try to put me down about it. Wearing short skirts and wearing heels were two of the biggies I always got comments for. Those "you're wearing that" comments or looks from my "friends" sucked at the time, but I stopped letting it get to me. It's important to realize how YOU feel in what you wear and screw what anyone else says.
  6. I like to take time off for myself to sit and reflect. Take a bubble bath, or just write in my journal...go for a solo walk and try to sort out my thoughts or if I don't think I can handle thinking, I try to read a book and get totally involved in the novel. Sometimes I just give myself little pep-talks - which has happened a lot lately. I just try to look at my situation as objectively as possible and rationalize it. Its hard but sometimes you just have to push yourself to do it. I don't let myself fall into bad patterns because I feel I ultimately control my feelings and my destiny.
  7. Why do you want to be friends with him again? Are you sure it's him you want to be friends with or just the idea of your friendship that appeals to you? Then you need to take a step back and wonder if you were ever "just" best friends. I think by the time school comes around, you could have a normal relationship with him but whether or not you'll be as close just depends on if it'll happen or not, you can't force it.
  8. I would also say wait for him to call you. You told him how you feel and he has your number...he might not exactly take you seriously from the drunken "I like you" but the ball is still in his court. Personally, I wouldn't know whether to take you seriously if I was him. You had two one night stands and while you may have had a good time, you have a relatively shallow connection between the two of you. But sometimes things work out in weird ways - the best of luck to you.
  9. I was hoping to get people's imput on how the two correlate. No, I'm not asking "how long are you willing to wait" but rather, what do people think about starting a sexual relationship early on in a new relationship, or trying to hold off? Personally, I think it very much depends on the specific situation, but holding off sex should be enforced for atleast a month of dating. Rushing into sexual relationships can sidetrack you from your ultimate goal : seeing if the person you are dating and you are compatible. Ofcourse, there are many factors that could sway that either way. I mean, I've experienced that intense sexual chemistry before where I entered a sexual relationship fairly quickly. In hindsight, I should have waited because a lot of problems that arose in that relationship were the result of not knowing what I was getting into initially. But it is hard - when you want it just as bad as they do, what's fair? Tease each other to the point of no return? Make sure both parties get off by other means (manually, orally)? Where do you draw the line and when is it ok to say yes? I'm sure there are some things that I consider to be basically sex, without the technicalities. What about avoiding private places altogether - or as much as possible - until you feel comfortable. They say before sex, men aren't thinking clearly and women are; after sex it's the men that are thinking clearly and the women who aren't? What if holding off sex could actually make things easier, give or take sexual frustration, to realize where things are going? Yes, the sexual aspect of a relationship is always fun, but self-control can make it more so...you need to work to get it, you need to show yourself and partner that it's something special - not done in the heat-of-the-moment. It's just...sex seems so common these days. Given up for free and not appreciated for what it actually is...I know so many people who have frequent one-night-stands or see sex and something you can go to the clubs to get. Very rarely do I meet guys who actually WANT to wait or don't try to get it right away - or those ones that are looking for a girl to make them wait. It makes you think - how do you hold your own when you're seriously tempted to just give in?
  10. I think she ultimately needs to help herself. Does she ever talk to you about her feelings or acknowelge her depression and problems? Do you try to coax it out of her or ask her personal questions? Or even point out the fact that she puts herself down so much? It sounds to me like she's losing hope. I can't imagine how you must be feeling, wanting to help while it's physically impossible, but you can still offer your support. Have you sat down with your aunt and seriously discussed your cousin? What about inviting her up for the long weekend and planning something she won't be able to talk herself out of? Or use the letter-writing to your advantange. It's often hard to talk to loved ones about their issues or to tell them you're worried about them - write out exactly how you feel about how she's doing and ask her straight up questions. See if she responds to that.
  11. I'm also sorry for your losses. There is not much to say in terms of comfort, but atleast you can know people do empathize with you. This will, as RayKay said, make you indefinitely stronger but its impossible to think optimistically when everything around you is in shambles. You need to keep your chin up though and never lose hope in yourself - try to remember the good times, memories and moments and smile when you do. And remember, you're never truly alone.
  12. It's interesting to read this because I was thinking about this topic today... I think what happens in life can either make you or break you. There are those people that have things happen to them in life and spend their lives trying desperately to deal with it and struggle to adjust to the situation because they are so stuck in the past and truly unwilling to change, sabotaging their own progress. Then there are those who have things happen to them, or go through experiences, and sit back and take the time to truly deal, heal and let go. Not to necessarily forget the past, but in a way, close a chapter in their lives and give themselves time to heal. These are the people that take these difficult challenges and use them as empowering expeirences to strengthen them to face future challenges head-on. I think it's truly rare to find people with their heads up all the time. Heck, I'm usually very optimistic and yet I've been through depression, I've been a grouch and I bounce back and forth between being quiet and reserved and friendly and affable. Moods are relative...but its the attitude in life you have that counts. It doesn't even necessarily matter what happens to you in life, its your attitude that stays the same and helps you cope. You are not your mistakes or expeirences, but merely shaped by them. Your knowledge is a product of them but your strength is your essense. I find it hard to be always positive but I'm trying because I create my destiny. It would be a lot easier to be a grouch...but then wouldn't life be boring?
  13. I think you should stop stressing and just try to go with the flow. If you're not exclusively with one girl or the other, you aren't doing anything wrong. However, if you notice one or the other is getting too attached, make your intentions clear. The only reason I would think you'd feel guilty is if you knew girl A was interested more in you than you were in her and she may consider your relationship to be more serious - then I would suggest backing off a little with her. As for girl B, yes, most 18 year old girls tend to be a little naive in life but trust your judgement, not her age. You may be pleasantly surprised.
  14. A friendship is mutual support. What are you getting out of this friendship, aside from being her emotional tampon (we really need new analogies, guys) Does she want to hang out with you and spend time with you as a friend or is it strictly when she needs to rant and rave about her friends? And um..why are you talking about sex?
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