brat_1989

I know you will be happy again. It has been almost three months and he says he still wants to be friends but he is a jerk to me everytime we see each other. So now im just like whatever. if he wants to be with me he'll realize it and I cant take him back because now that i have lived without him for a while i am finally able to not think about him every second and i am so much happier than i was when we were together because i dont have to worry about doing something and what he will think about it. I dont have to sit at home everyday waiting for him to come over. I still think about us and it makes me sad but at least i can not be sad all the time and i am sad less because there is no one there to make me feel totally lost if he is upset with me. I dont need him to be happy with me to be happy with myself anymore. Trust me it gets so much better. I love life so much more I have so many wondeful experiences from him and I have learned from so many bad ones. Im older and wiser and much happier. It will take time but you'll get there. It took me three months but i have come so far.

thanks for writing back to me it really helps me to hear what other people have to say when im really down. I feel like sometimes im ok but then there are times when I just break down. Today at work I talked to his sister and she told me that he said that he wished i could just get over him so I wouldnt have to feeol so bad all the time. that made me cry so bad because i guess it means that after 2 months he is over me and it just makes it so hard for me that he was able to just forget about me because of someone else. He does not realize that she lies to him and that she does not care for him the way she says he is blinded and stupid. I did everything for him and im sure she would not be with him if she knew the things that I knew. i put up with so much bull with him because i love him but im sure that if he told her some things or if she fopund out she would dump him in a heartbeat and then where would he be. he knows how much i love him and i dont think he realizes how much i did for him. she wont be there for him the same way. their relationship is bases on lies from both parts and he is gonna realize when she decides she is getting bored and dumps him that he never should have left me . I think Im torn between letting him go for good or waiting for them to break up and take him back because i know that if she hurts him that he will want me back. he even sai that he was afriad that he may want me back in the future and that i if he does i might actually be over him and not want him back. But I have been thinking maybe I shouldnt even if really do want him back. Should I let him back into my life knowing that he hurt me so bad. I know he loves me but is that enough. is loving someone enough especially when you can still love tham and hurt them at the same time. I keep thinking that im never gonna get through this. but then i think that maybe this time was needed for us to grow individually and that maybe if we both realize what it is without each other that we would get back together and be happier than before. Maybe we could both grow up and we would not fight. we could just be happy all the time as opposed to half of the time. I really love him and im not sure if i should give up or let him make his mistakes and come to realize how much we really do belong together.

I hust got of the phone with him and I told him how his girlfirend was bragging about how they had sex and I thought she was just luing for attention because that is what she does. but he didnt deny it he just said I cant help what she says. we have not been together for a month and a half thay have been together a month and he said he loved me and now he loves her. He said he loved her like a week after. How can he tell me that he loved me and then leave me and be over it so fast. he said he wanted to be with me forever and no it all i cahnged because of a lying cheat. how could he do that so fast? I feel like im going to die. please help me

Im 16 and just broke up with my boyfriend (who is 19) about a month and a half ago. We were together for two years I met him my freshman year and he was a senior. I have been with him for two years and we had alot of problems but we loved each other so much that we always would break up and get back together. I know we fought a lot mostly pity little fights and some huge ones too but I loved him so much and he loved me too so we would never end it for good. He even said how he was going to buy me an engagement ring for my 18th birthday. But he started to like this girl at work a few months ago and we were having some problems as always. Eventually he broke up with me because he was sick of fighting and both of us being upset all the time. I admit it I was upset a lot because I never felt like I could make him happy enough. We were happy when we didnt fight but like I said the fighting was a lot. He says he still loves me but he started dating this girl he liked. Now I dont know if we are going to get back together and im scared that if he is with her too long he'll stop loving me and there will never be a chance for us. His new girlfriend is mean and brags about him in front of me on pourpose and has cheated on every one of her boyfriends. I know because i go to school with her and know a lot of her friends. He does not know anything about her except what she tells him which I happen to know is all lies. but he wont believe me and her ex boyfriend told me how she slept with him while they were dating which was like a week after they first went out. She hangs out with other guys all the time and hold hands with her ex at school but he wont believe it or he will be like "well im not jealous anymore" because he was extremely jealous when we were together. Im so scared he is going to forget about me and end up getting really hurt and that it ruin anything for us because he was already cheated on before and it killed him. He knows I would never cheat on him and he told me that if she hurt him he would know that i would be there and he knows i wouldnt do that. Im torn between waiting for him or moving on even if that means rejecting him later down the road if he asks me back even if i still want him back. I love him more that I have ever loved anyone and I really believe we could be together for the rest of our lives but will I change my mind later down the road. I have never seen anyone but him and cant get myself to stop thinking about anything but him every single day every second.It is tearing me apart. Im so depressed and i just want to feel better. Please if you have any advice for me it would be greatly appreciated. Thanks[/size]