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  1. Ok. So I met this guy online before Christmas and we emailed each other back and forth. He gave me his # and asked me to add him to my MSN. I did and sent him an email back that since i will be really crazy for Christmas i will give him a call on ___ day. After a Christmas we finally met online and started chatting I gave him so many opportunities to ask me out then when the conversation was ending I just simply asked "so when are you gonna ask me out" and he replied and said he was too nervous to ask and suggested dinner, which I suggested coffee first. We met the next day and spent an hour talking and had lots in common. I thought I was totally giving off the "I want to see you again vibe" and towards the end he asked me maybe next time we can go out for dinner' I said sure and tried to make plans for the next weekend. He chuckled and said "I am not sure what I am doing that day, but I am sure we will talk again before that and we can figure something out I am usually on MSN @ (time). I gave him a hug good bye and left. I was busy so couldn't make time to get on MSN and he didn't call (he had my #)I decided to send him a friendly email saying thanks and that I had fun, we should do it again. Since then we have had a few quick MSN conversations. I am not sure If he is interested still or if he just wants to be friends or what. Should I msn him and ask him out and see what his response is or should I just move on. I like the guy, but alot of my friends say I can be too subtle.
  2. Bluemoon, I know what your going through. I went through a somewhat similar situation except the drug was alcohol. I became very depressed and introverted. Until I realized it was not my fault, I don't have to end up that way and I don't have to take the emotional abuse from it. It took me 10 years of tears, screaming, yelling and pain to get to the person I have become today. If you would have met me back then you would be bewildered to see the person i have become. Why Am I telling you this? Because I have learned a few things that may help you or at least start you on the road to healing. You need to forgive your mother, and your father. That may sound like the most ridculous thing be believe me once I forgave my heavy heart became lighter and healing and trusting people became a little easier, I won't lie to you it will be a hard thing to do and it won't be an instant solution. The way I did it was I wrote a letter to each family member telling them how their drinking hurt me, why I felt the way I did. i poured out every emotion to them in the safety of a letter and I ended it with I forgive you. Then I think I cried for a month. Then I promised myself not to let the past hold me down. I still have some issues, but it is a little easier now, I started my healing process i started to look inside of myself. What type of life do I want? Will I let being the victim of circumstance hinder me? As I started to look to myself for strength, courage and hope I started to see how much different life can be I could be happy on my own terms, don't get me wrong there is still alot from the past that I need to let go. But healing is a slow process and quite frankly everybit of pain and sadness may never go away but now I am ok with it because I have a sense of myself. You should feel proud of yourself, and frankly I think you already have your answer, If you really wanted to use drugs you would have, instead of asking for help. But the fact that you asked for help is fantastic, it is the start of a healing process and being ok with your life and yourself. Your not alone girl, and with a little hope and faith in yourself you eventually be ok. Hold on. In time it gets easier.
  3. Ok. So I met this guy online about 2 weeks ago we had coffee and ended up talking for like 4 hours. We spend like hours talking about nothing on the phone. On the 3rd date we rented movies and I ended up sleeping with him he wanted me to stay over, but I told him I had to leave early( I stayed for a while). He seemed disappointed. He called me the next night I suggested we go out again this week. we went to a movie but I had to make the move to grab his hand, then I decided to not suggest plans and see is he wanted to, so he asked if we could do something this weekend and that he will call me to figure it out, but I keep having to be the one who makes the move physically, which makes me think that we are just friends. He tells me when we make plans wantever I want like day time where we are going etc, he pays even though I still reach for my money and he lets me pay when I insist, he opens the doors for me, walks me to my car etc, but he still is seems like he is holding back on the kissing goodnight or hand holding. I like him and want to see where this goes. my instincts tell me that he wants to as well. but I have that voice in my head telling me that we are just friends with benefits. So my question is this am I being over thinking it? I am willing to approach the I like you do you like me, but i don't know how to bring it up any thoughts?
  4. Update I offically found out that he as broken up with his GF and has been for months. Somehow it came out about how I felt about him and we talked it through or at least I thought. He told me that he can't think that way and that he has programmed himself not to think about it and i should to just not think about it. So we discussed it and I told him that I need to stay away from him personally for a while and he got sad and i thought we had dealt with it and moved on. Then things just seemed to get worse from there he runs hot and cold and has totally frozen me out and has even seemed to be mad at me for some reason, I even asked him if he was upset with me and he replied coldly. I have applied for other jobs and turned them down as they don't have much to offer compared to this one. Stupid as it seems I thought confronting it was the best idea since we were so close, but I know that I have made my bed and now I have to lie in it. But until i can find a new job how do I handle this? It just seems that he is trying to punish me for some reason. Does anyone have any advice on how to handle it while i find a new job?
  5. It sounds like the guy at one point was in to you or at least curious. I know all you want to do is know for your own peace of mind if the guy is into you and chances are if you think that he is...he is. If you really want to persure this guy start making polite conversation with him ask him a question about sports or something he is into to start the conversation and go from there. if you want him to start paying attention to you again your going to have to make the move. But a word of caution don't mix business with pleaure. I ended up in a situation like that but much worse with my boss. Trust me your don't want any part of it. I am currently looking for new work because of it. A word of warning don't get your honey where you get your money!
  6. Honestly, It sounds like she is into you but she is confused. When I like a guy and act like that, switching moods( joking, and ignoring) I am testing to see if he is really into me or is he just looking for friends. I am testing the waters or so to speak. I do that because he has not completely sure how he feels so I do little things to see what type of reactions he is giving me. The Christmas thing, it could be really that her sister is visiting, she keeps the flirting going so that is a good sign. The fact that she says that stuff about not wanting to go (in my case if it were me) is either because 2 reasons, 1. she is disappointed so she is trying to get you to ask her to do something else, or 2. she is trying to see if you'll convince her to come. Don't ignore her because whatever progess you have made will diminsh. Try asking her out to something else right now, but keep it a little casual, like a beer, or coffee. That way you show her your still into her and if she makes up some excuse not to go then move on cuz she is only messing with ya. hope that helps.
  7. Thanks for the advice I think that the only way out of this is to just leave, it is just not worth it to subject myself to it everyday. I think I just needed to have someone else tell me what I was already thinking. Thanks again
  8. The only problem is, how do I separate the work from the personal?. I have tried to distance myself from him and cut off any communication that wonders off the professionalism path. But when that happens he then becomes sullen and miserable and takes it out on myself and the rest of the staff. He then spends most of the time trying to talk to me about what is going on or trying everything to make me happy. I just feel like I am in a situation where it is either play the game or leave. If you were in my situation what would you do?
  9. By watching her body react your reading her boby language. That way you can tell if she is just being nice or flirting with ya. Pay attention to her body language the next time you talk that is going to tell you if she is receptive to you.
  10. Try striking up a conversation with her again. Watch her body movements, our mannerisms leak our feelings. See if she seems nervous, like fidgeting or smoothing her hair. Is she distracted when she talks to you? By watching how her body reacts when she is talking you can read if she is in to youor just sees you as a friend. Then you can see if you still want to get with her.
  11. I am attracted to a superior at work. Everyone in the office knows were are close. Recently he found out I was going to see a guy on the weekend that I missed and was talking about. I was later approached by another co-worker telling me that he was asking questions about who this guy was and if we were "special friends" He later approached me before the weekend asking me what was going on with this guy and said the reason he was asking was because he wants to see me happy. On top of that he is always saying "I love you", or tells me how pretty or smart I am, and hugs me, or rubs my shoulders or play fights with me. It has gotten to the point my co-workers believe he has a crush on me. I have had feelings for him for a long time and am sure he feels the same. I am confused due to the fact he has a girlfriend ( to which he seems to sometimes put down) and is my superior. Is he just being flirty or are my instincts off? And if he is flirting how should I handle it?
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