bandnerd

This guy has been my best friend for a while now. We spend so much time together that alot of people have suspected we are gay. lol. For at least a year, I think I've been in love with him. I recently told him that I am gay, and much to my relief, he wasn't appalled or anything, he said nothing had changed between us. But he did make it clear that he was straight. At first, I was just ecstatic that we could still be friends, but now, I'm feeling pretty depressed. I know that as long as I continue to spend so much time with him, these feelings aren't gonna go away, but he obviously can never return them. It would be so hard to like, I dunno, distance myslelf from him in an attempt to make my feelings go away. I still want to be best friends, but I want to stop loving him this way. Telling him how I feel won't get me anywhere, so I think it's just better if I don't. I just have no idea how to deal with this. I feel terrible right now, and I just wish I could be straight like most of the rest of the world. What do I do now?

Hi. I'm a Christian, and a conservative. I support most conservative ideas, EXCEPT for their position on homosexuality. The problem with a lot of Christians is that they accept whatever their pastor says as truth. The only absolute truth comes from the Bible, and even then you have to be sure you are interpreting it correctly. If you would actually take time to look into the Bible, you would find that the ONLY place that says "homosexuality is a sin" is in Leviticus, right next to the verse that says eating pork is a sin. Jesus says later in the New Testament that the Levitical laws no longer apply. Obviously, most Christians eat pork, and don't think twice about it. There are other places in the Bible that could be interpreted to mean homosexuality is wrong, but they could also be interpreted otherwise. The Bible is very clear in defining sin as a choice, and I don't remember ever choosing to be gay. I can't imagine anyone thinking "hey I think I'll be gay. It would be fun to be part of a widely hated minority." No one chooses to be gay, so it can't be a sin.