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The main question is can you be friends with her meaning can you consider her as one of the guys? I could not so I never stayed in touch. You do not ask for NC. You just do not respond id she does not respect your request for NC..

BTW she told you to stay away then respect it.. If you don;t she will get annoyed with you...

17 - this is too young. Try dating girls 22 and up if you want more serious relationships. I am generalziing . There are few exceptions I guess It is only 3 weeks man. You will be over this in no time!

Can I ask how long have you been dating and how old is she? Did you see any warning signs? like she did not want to go out or meet?

Hi frozenblaze, I have been in your shoes. I dated a girl for 6 months and she suddendly dumped me in email. I was breaking my head and searching for a reason as well. I met up with her and she said she lost attraction. But honestly how can we know this is honest answer??? Maybe it is just an excuse for real reason. Let me tell you this: You will never find out. In my case I suspect she got attracted to someone else because after she dumped me she immediately started dating this guy. Remember also that your logic is not same as her logic and in matter of love there is no logic. If you continue analyzing you will get a headache and you will waste your precious time and not get the answer. And do you want to waste time on person that will not return the same amount of effort and love that you want? The best course of action: go No contact. If you continue bugging her with questions you will look like a wuss and push her away more. Remember this: if you are 2 need to be together you will be together. In my case we are not. She got married one year after breakup and is pregnant. I wish her all the best and happiness and myturn will come as well as yours!

why would she be desperate for a family? It is important to find the right person I think. If you have a family but the wrong person what kind of happiness is that?

thank you all for your posts. They help me a lot. colors, what is the reasonable deadline? Feel like not doing this mistake again in future....

Thank you NJRON for your input. I know that whatever is done is for the better. I only can cotrol myself and not her. I am trying to put it behind me but find it extremely difficult to move on. I was thinking I am over her but after talking to her I know it is not a case.

I feel like that if I got married to her We would be happy and right now I cannot change anything. I am 28 and she is 25

Hi enotaloners, I need to vent now.. We met in Nov 2004 and dated for about 6 months. We had great relationship as I view it. Went to different places, enjoyed our time together. I was really happy In June 2005 I noticed that she started being distant and avoided me. She invited me to go with her parents out for barbeque on sunday. SHe was supposed to call me and did not call. On monday I sent her email asking why she did not call me. SHe emailed me back that she does not want to date me. This was devstaing for me. I did email her several times ( I guess can be considered begging) and she said that I was not serious enough and not fun enough for her - these reasons are not clear to me. I think that real reason might be that I did not propose in these 6 months ( I told her that I am very serious about the relationship and not ready to get married yet) or she just met someone else ( can;t figure it out). I want to date at leats a year and then consider marriage). She said she needs to date other people. We kept in touch for while and she started talking about her new bf and I cut all communication out. Anyway during this time she emailed me asking how I am but I ignored her. I started taking to her on msn yesterday and she told me that she got married and expecting a child. I was really disappointed. I wanted her to be happy with me but this is not going to happen in this life So difficult to get over this.. I am all torn inside... Do not want to do anything... I could not sleep last night...

Hi all, I have met the girl online and seen her 4-5 times. we spend fun times together and have great conversations. I like her a lot and would like a more serious relationship with her but I am trying to see how much she likes me. The things that bother me: 1) I tried to kiss her but she always gives her cheek to kiss and avoids the real kiss. 2) She called me only once to get an advice on some matter. She never called me to ask how am I doing. Seems that I initiate contact all the time. SO any ideas on whats going on? Does she really like me or am I in friends zone? Any ideas on how to proceed further? I appericate your input.. I am 28 and she is 26 BTW

Hey , I had similar situation about a year ago. My suggestion to you is to leave her alone and give her space. If you start pushing and asking why you will be pushing her away. You do not know that her family matters are the reason she does not want to be with you. She might be using this reason as an excuse. IT might be a completely different reason like meeting someone else. Remember that if girl likes you she will never break up with you. You are man, YOU HAVE TO LEAVE HER ALONE AND GIVE HER SPACE. By doing this you are in control of situation. BELIEVE ME!!! YEAH AND DO NC ( No Contact) Read Superdaves posts. He is amazing in explaining this... Hope it helps and we will be supporting you here at this forum

ya and being friends is not an option. Person who played with my feelings why I want to be firends with?

I feel that I loved her and she just threw it away in one moment. As much as I would like her to hear that she is sorry I most likely not to give any second chances because of lack of trust. It sucks that there is no future for us. I want het to forget about me and not bother me. I do not want to email her and say that because it wlll seem that I am hurt and I do not want to show that I am hurt. The best is stick to NC.

I received another email from her: " Why are you not responding to my emails? Are you hiding?" - What does she mean? Is she trying to get my attention or what? Go figure out. I am afraid to break NC that I maintained for 5 months.. ANy suggestions or ideas? Thank you all