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  1. Yeah I think he must have said something to his friend, but then he didn't say anything to me and his friend kept looking at him to say something. I mean wouldn't it have been his perfect opportunity? He doesn't look that shy! Would I have looked a bit eager and desperate if I responded "yes I'll have his no!!" do you think that's how most ppl would have reacted by being all surprised? Ahhhh so confusing!
  2. No no, not disrespectful as in being mean in a really malicious way but in a teasing way.
  3. **I mean TEASING, sorry there was some miscommunication, I don't mean if a guy is deliberately being mean, but like teasing mean. I was talking to my friend last night abt the girl he likes and he said he was purposely being mean to her, and I didn't understand why. He said that by mean to a girl (in a flirty way) you can tell if she likes you by the way she reacts. Ie. if you say you don't care anymore or say your annoyed abt something she did (event though its small), and she tries to justify herself or goes out of her way for your forgiveness, then she likes you? Is this true?? then and what other mind games guys play to girls they like to get them more interested or test their interest level?
  4. hey annie, yeah it is and i've decided to move on. no more games, no more waiting by the phone =) it's all good.
  5. don't play games because the games end up playing you. and once your relationship is based on games, there's some point where it runs out and it's frustrating because both of you won't give in. trust me on this one, been there, done that. it's not the way to make someone like you in the long run. it's only temporary.
  6. I've had a "thing" with this guy for nearly a year now, but he had to leave for 6mths and it was bad timing for both of us. Now he's back, and we went out on a few dates. He's been the one doing the chasing the whole time. I'm confused- he's really sweet on the date and mentions a lot of "couple" stuff, how we'll do this & that next time and asks a lot abt me. But then he'll just randomly say "oh this girl liked me over there, cooked for me and everything, but I didn't like her" or "I had so many girls go for me overseas but didn't like them". He also said he always wanted what he couldn't have but then the other night, when I went to see him I mentioned this guy friend I had and all of a sudden, he said he liked forward girls? I don't know if he says these things to get at me, or make me want him more or just to confuse me or let me know he's not completely interested? Anyway, that night ended really badly but he said sorry the next day. I talked to him on Sunday, we left things on a really good note and he was being sweet but it's now been a wk and I haven't heard from him. We don't normally talk on the phone, usually texting or MSN. What's up with this? He only got back last wk so I guess he could be busy with catching up with ppl but still ...is he interested or just stringing me along? Is he getting frustrated that it's nearly been a year of chasing and we're still not anything? But then again, why isn't he contacting me consistently? Or is 1 wk nothing to worry about? I'm just so confused! In terms of personality, he's a pretty confident guy but can have some pride issues (ie. competitive/ego)
  7. I'm in a situation where everything's been great, but he's gone overseas for 6mths, he came back to visit me during this time and we had a great time but we are not exclusive although we both are interested in one another and kinda seeing each other. However, our emails are starting to die off and he hasn't replied for about a week (he used to reply immediately). Does this mean anything or do guys generally not like to email? I'm confused - my friend said that in another situation, the guy is interested in her her but he takes ages to email and just doesn't like to reply even though he is very into her. However another friend said that guys will reply if they are into you and if the emails start dying off, then he's not interested?
  8. Definitely wait for him to contact you from now on. You've made it clear you're interested and it seems he might be attracted to you but I really don't know whether he's fully interested. I know lots of guys call back just out of politeness and they would rather do anything than say "I'm not interested". Wait until he calls you. If he doesn't, move on. And I agree with annie24 - I know a lot of guys who are taken and still flirt heaps! Trust me, a lot of guys do. But at the end of the day, it's just flirting and he still goes back to his girlfriend/wife/whatever.
  9. I have to agree with lifeiscash. My best guy friend always tells me not to have sex too soon because guys can separate emotions and sex, whereas girls get emotionally attached after sex. I'm sorry to be so brutally honest, but that's the truth. It is about the challenge in a way, and seeing how far a girl will give in on the first few dates. If she does have sex, the interest decreases b/c there's nothing to chase and there's no mystery left. I know it's really painful and he's a jerk for doing that for you, but you do learn from experience and become stronger. I doubt he wants to go into something serious, I think he just viewed it as sex otherwise he would have called and you're way way way better than waiting for a guy who doesn't call after sex.
  10. Say the girl is leaving to go overseas/away in about a week. Would you say the girl should call the guy to meet up before she leaves, or the guy who is staying calls the girl? (given that the guy knows when the girl is leaving and they have been on a few dates already, etc) Basically, should the "leaver" call or the "stayer"? (hope that makes sense!)
  11. The thing is I'm leaving in a week to go overseas and I don't want to leave it on such a weird note. Should I call him to meet up, or technically, since he knows I'm leaving and since I already mentioned it to him before that we should catch up, he would call if he really wanted to catch up?
  12. Well he's just like, you could call me? And I need to know whether he really is just stringing me along b/c I can then maybe move on. And even when I don't text him and I think we're over, he'll just re appear again and text me and the whole thing starts again. Has anyone had similar experiences? Or guys - would you do this to a girl? What do you think?
  13. But why does he do the whole "why didn't you call me" ..."that's not nice" thing? I mean is it to make me feel guilty or what? Even when HE said he would call? Unless I heard wrong (but either way, if he wanted to HE should call)
  14. Well I know that if a guy makes it very clear to me that he wants to date me and offers me no mystery, is too nice or straight forward, it definitely takes out the attraction to a certain extent. There has to be an element of mystery and chase. And I'm a girl! The guys I've chased never worked out so I've stopped chasing them and I find that if a guy likes you, he'll chase you or at least makes an effort to.
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