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  1. atomic
    I guarantee if you voice how you feel, she will shrug it off an you will feel weak and pathetic. She will not acknowledge she has done you any wrong - just ignore her, and the problem will quickly go away. You know you've won if you can do this because you're having to fight your natural instinct to have a go at her. The last g/f I broke up with (long relationship), I caved in after a long time of no contact and sent her an email saying how much she's hurt me blah blah... she replied with "Nice. Thanks" and that was the last I ever heard from her. I still regret it and feel so pathetic for it, it didn't give me what I was looking for!
  2. atomic
    Nice one mstamos, I think Sunday may have taken a bit of a battering himself at some point. You can't go around just beating the hell out of people these days, like you say you might end up getting charges brought against you and who would have come off worse then? Even if you give him a broken arm or something else, it will mend. Tell him you're ok with it but you don't want a friend that behaves like that and cut him out of your life. If he wants to do something about it he will but that will hurt far more. Are there any 15yr olds around to offer some advise?
  3. atomic
    ask her along to something where it would be impossible for anything to happen physically between you. It will probably put her mind at rest if she's worrying about that, and later down the line if she asks "are you after just one thing?" you can say.... "don't be silly, why would I have taken you to if I was just after that".
  4. atomic
    The birthday present and how you're feeling is a good indication of the way you'd feel if you contacted her or blew up about it. It just makes you feel emotionally weak and you're selling yourself short. Ignore her and let your friend know that you're happy with him seeing her and don't look back! You sound like you have a lot of good friends though, hang out with them, have fun and I'll bet in a few weeks time you'll be feeling really great about the future.
  5. atomic
    You will be a lot more attractive if you don't show interest. Call off seeing him at the last minute and leave the reason vague "sorry something't come up, I can't talk about it right now". It will be the last thing he expects! If you meet in the future I really wouldn't say anything, you can't force it to happen it just will or it won't. You just need to draw a line under it and some point and move on.
  6. atomic
    People change, don't forget that. I'm not the person I was 6 years ago and if it wasn't for the people I've been with I wouldn't be the person I am now. No doubt you had a lot of good times together but it definitely sounds like she's not the person you used to know. Move on and you will find someone that deserves you. On the matter of your friend being a bit sneaky (I personally feel friends should come before anything else) that's really up to you. She's possibly doing it to get at you so the best thing you could do would be to shrug it off and say "hey I know about you two, hope you're happy together". Then, make sure you have no contact with your ex as much as is possible.
  7. atomic
    Just watch who you hug! You don't get that feeling when you hug the wrong dude Personally, emotions aside, I find it far more appealing/comfy to hug a girl that isn't skinny as a rake.
  8. atomic
    You don't sound psycho, in fact you seem to be able to rationalise the situation very well. Sounds stupid but have you tried making friends with someone online and opening up in that way? A lot of the time it can be easier because there is that physical detachment from one another. It does sound like you have issues you need to straighten out but it sounds like you're aware of them and the fact you can't keep friends is a side effect. I can't honestly believe you don't want friends otherwise you wouldn't take the time to post.
  9. atomic
    I cant stand how many girls list "shopping" as one of their hobbies. It's not an activity, it's something you do because you need to like eating or going to the toilet I do know how important it is though for women so I try to put a smile on, make the occasional usfull comment e.g. "you'll look a right tart in that" and try and keep up. The only good thing about shopping is a cuppa tea tastes 20 times better after it.
  10. atomic
    Yeah definitely, some friends of mine recently drove around their town wearing ski masks, pulling up along side people and asking for directions to the nearest bank Hmmm, I think scooters and super markets is a far better bet.
  11. atomic
    Life can get dull! It's odd, because if I was in San Francisco now I could find a million and one things to do - never been. We all get fed up of where we live. The neighbour I have oposite has a kid about 10 and he just goes round and round in circles on his bike for hours on end. Odd, but ever wonder why a dog can live an entire life of just sleeping and eating? Surely it's something to do with a small brain capacity - so if you're bored you're probably too intelligent, try hitting yourself over the head a few times actually, maybe it comes down to having no measure for what is 'fun'.... so the more fun you have now surely the more bored you will be in the future. As for suggestions, I only have one. Find out where you can go Zorbing and do it! Big plastic ball, a hill, a bucket of water and you get in with a friend and roll down the hill. Just makes sure it's someone you don't mind getting erm... close too
  12. atomic
    I blew a very large amount of money over one weekend doing some crazy stuff: zorbing, karting, flying, surfing, clubbing, eating out. Didn't tell her about any of it until we were at each venue. We both had the most wicked time ever and I wouldn't have changed a thing about it. She was very happy after that weekend, but it didn't work! Oh, and I'm still paying it off
  13. atomic
    You can't rush romance! LOL - perhaps you had something else on the cards for the rest of the evening? I would try and avoid anything that makes it look like you're trying too hard, I'd grab a nice bottle, a takeaway and a girly film... take it round hers and snuggle under a duvet. Try to avoid falling asleep to said girly film
  14. atomic
    It's very simple, you're in love him and if you try to tell yourself it's anything less than that you're not being honest. I really don't know what to suggest though, if there weren't kids involved I would say speak to your husband and let the chips land where they may. Your husband is an adult and will ultimately be able to deal with a breakup if that's what it comes to. As for your little boy, it seems inevitable that his parents are going to break up at some point so really it's up to you to decide how best to handle that. Arguably it's easier at his age as he'll grow up knowing no real difference but there's never a good time! If you wait too long you will make it more difficult for your husband to move on and you're potentially missing out on your own hapiness. My parents do not even speak to each other, they have to contact each other through solicitors. Do not let it get to that stage! Inevitably, that means don't get to the situation where you actually cheat on your husband.
  15. atomic
    That's quite a problem you have! I suspect you're in your current situation married/kids because all along you were trying to subconsciously convince yourself you're happy when really it's probably just contentment. If you feel like this after 9 years, chances are another 9 aren't going to fix it. How old are your children? You obviously need to consider them in all of this, my parents broke up when I was 21 and it didn't have a massive affect on me but if they're only young it could course them real problems. I do think you're not being fair to your current husband if you have stronger feelings towards someone else. It really sounds like you want to be with this other guy. Do you think he feels the same deep down? It's possible it's just a case of him having got a bit bored of his existing marriage so wants to spice it up with what is thus far a fairly harmless thing. All I can safely say is that if my g/f or wife was going to hurt me, I'd rather it was today than tomorrow!
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