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  1. Hey there, So how did the waxing go?
  2. Be honest here, How does he treat him mom, either to her face or behind her back? Perhaps you are attracted to him because he is a challenge, a person whom you are hoping to tame?
  3. Hey there, Perhaps read this article...this might help... link removed go to 'articles' then read "Identifying losers in Relationships."
  4. Hey there, I can depend what day you are in your cycle. For me, the second full day of my period is at its heaviest. So, I prefer not to that day. However, the last few days are much lighter so it is not as messy. If you decide to have sex during your period you can do a few things. You can lay old towels down on the bed or you can do it in the shower. I have noticed that orgasms help my cramps not be as intense. So, there can be a benefit of having sex during your period. It can feel better because there is more "lubrication" but I guess it depends on the person. It varies from couple to couple. You have to do what is comfortable for you and your boyfriend.
  5. Hey there, I am with arwen on this one. Anyone whom hurt me in anyway, I refused to speak to. I am just too dang stubborn and have too much pride. In the past during NC, the hardest part was wondering if the ex was with someone new and if so, what did she have that I did not.
  6. Thanks syrix!! I will request a walker this Christmas. hehe... But seriously, teacup, I can totally understand you not wanting to "waste" your childbearing years and so forth. I can definitely empathize with that. But you still have plenty of time. When things are meant to be, they will be. You cannot force it. But if this makes you feel any better, I have a very close friend, I have known for 12 years, she has had her share of relationships and was in one with a guy for about 3 years. She thought he was the one. Turned out he was not. She broke up with him and this all happened when she was like 30-31. A year later, she met an awesome guy, got married within a year. Thy got settled in their careers, bought a house, traveled, and have NO DEBT, except the house of course. They had some trouble concieving but she called me a few weeks back and she is 4 months pregnant!! And she is 37. She is doing fine, she is very healthy and has so much to offer the baby. So life does not end after 26, or even after 30. You still have plenty of time. Enjoy the time with your boyfriend and things will happen if they are meant to be.
  7. Yes, syrix is right. 26 is NOT old!!! Even if things do not work out with your boyfriend and you are 26, you STILL have plenty of time to get married and have kids. Sheesh, I guess I am old lady at 30.
  8. Hey there, Well, it sounds like honeymoon phase is coming to an end. That is normal is many relationships. You both are getting comfortable with one another and that is okay too. This is why it is crucial to get to know one another very well and establish a strong foundation. So when the honeymoon phase does wear off, the relationship will be able to sustain that transition. From what you have written in your post, I do not see the cause for any alarm. He calls when he says he will, even though it was 30 minutes later. Give the guy some slack. LOL And starting a business is VERY stressful and VERY risky. Heck, it would keep me up late at night too. Instead of being afraid of him being bored with you, why not ask him if he needs anything from you that would help. And let him know that you will support him in any way you can. You cannot make this all about you. What about him? As I can recall, are not you 20? Is not a bit a young to be thinking about marriage? It is also important for you to engage in your life and your activities. And when your boyfriend does something that makes you feel good, that makes you feel loved, tell him, thank him. Positive reinforcement. I think things are good, but moving into a different phase. Relationships evolve over time. Hang in there.
  9. Hey there, "I'm not the average 22-year-old. I'm not into clubbing or parties or things like that. Neither is he. We're both homey types. We enjoy bookstores, bowling, restaurants, walks in the park, reading together. We're more mature than most people our age. I know I'm young, but I just feel ready for marriage and motherhood. I don't think it's wrong to feel this way just because I only graduated from high school about four years ago. I see life differently from the average college kid. When I picture having a house and kids and a husband, I feel like I can't wait to get there. Of course, I'll enjoy the ride up until I do get there, but I know that it's what I want." I was exactly how you described at 22. I was not the average 22 year year old. I preferred (still do) quiet nights at home, a quiet glass of wine with a good friend, I enjoy reading, and so forth. I was a college student and received my Master's at 25. I felt I was way ahead of others and at 25, I felt I was ready for marriage and kids and all that. Now that I am 30, things have changed for me drastically since then. I am still into the same past times now as I was at 22. But, believe me, you will grow and change over the years. Trust me on this one, I felt the same way at 22 and used the same argument or scenario as you did in your post. There is absolutely no hurry to get married or to have kids. I can somewhat understand your boyfriend's reservations about being a good husband and dad BUT he needs to understand (if he is as mature as you describe him to be) he is in charge of his own actions and the course of his life. Lots of people underwent bad childhoods and turned out to be wonderful parents. I don't know, that whole talk you had last night would (for me at least) change the whole dynamic of the relationship and probably not for the better. I think if it were me, I would lose a lot of trust. But that is me. I would continue to communicate and keep a sharp eye on matters. I do not doubt you are mature and so forth, but sometimes maturity is not the be all end all sign of being ready for marriage. It also means that BOTH persons have to feel ready and really want it to work.
  10. "Is it true when a guy really wants you nothing will stand in his way?" Absolutely true. Not just for guys but for anyone. He is not the one for you. Hang in there. (((hugs)))
  11. Hey there, But didn't you tell him when he requested for the 3 week break that you did not want to go that route and to break up? So, it is in his mind that you two have officially have broken up. But even so, the fact that he even requested a 3 week break, meanwhile posted his profile on a dating website not even a week goes by after the breakup. It should show you he was not into the relationship and was going to most likely jerk you around three weeks later. To me, this is a blessing in disguise. Actions speak louder than words. Chin up and try to stay positive.
  12. Hey there, Try not hate yourself because I have noticed when folks are too hard on themselves or focus on the event too much, it increases the chance for another "opps." Try your best to let it go, you are human, with a lot of emotions at the moment and that we all make mistakes. That's all. Before you know it, you will be chuckling at yourself. There are going to be tough days and there are going to be easy days. That dreaded emotional rollercoaster and that is common. Hang in there.
  13. Hey girl, Don't sweat it. You will be okay. We all had little boo-boo's. You always have us to talk to and when you feel a little itchy to contact him, do something else to distract you. Like call a friend, go for a walk, clean out a closet, anything to keep you busy. Stay strong. We are all here for you. (((hugs)))
  14. Hey there and welcome! Well, it is my belief that relationships so early on such as yours should not have the difficulties you are experiencing now. The begninning should be fun, light, exciting. You should not feel "weirded out" 4 weeks into your relationship. I believe it is your gut telling you something and you should always listen to it. I also believe she is telling you something indirectly, about being afraid she will cheat. I feel she is saying she is not available emotionally at the moment and looking to have fun. It seems like you two are not on the same page. And the hour drive? I don't know. I feel you should not put all your eggs in one basket and keep your options open. The young lady sounds "iffy" and deep down I think you have already realized this. Take care.
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