Puddin

Annie, I called 3x not four but who's counting LOL That could very well be it; however, I doubt I would just give him a pass at this point. Men over 40 should be a litte more in touch with their feelings... at least someone that I would want to be with. I'm not really a harsh person and definitely not unforgiving but if there's no communication, then what's the point. If he's not in a coma somewhere, he definitely blew it with me. Thanks for the tip on the book, I'll definitely check it out

Playing or not, if he can't follow through on his commitments, I personally don't see him as dating material anyway. Busy or not, common courtesy would have dictated that he call EVEN if he couldnt make it. I'm pretty big on communication and if someone can't go there from the get go, what's the point. Remember, people are usually on their best behavior in the beginning... this is as good as he's going to get

When my kids came home from school saying this, I put a quick stop to it. I don't know if they still say it out of my earshot but I would hope that my explanation of why it is offensive got through to them. Where the HECK did this term come from anyway?

I'm going to feel really horrible if something happened to him but if his car is there..... A pox be upon him

Kellbell, since it's been over a week and he would call me every day, I think it's clear that either he met someone else or decided I wasnt "it". Just wish he would have communicated that to me because I thought he had more regard for me than that. DN, he said that he couldnt sleep all night long and had just gotten to sleep around 7:30 - the thought did cross my mind that maybe there was someone else there but can't be sure. At this point I just feel like I'd be pathetic to go over there again but I may drive by his work sometime and see if his car is there... just to make sure something didnt happen to him. I don't want to do anything that smacks of stalker or pathetic woman who chases the guy. It's possible that he was really ill but it seems to me that if someone likes you, they are going to find a way to call.

I suppose this is yet another "he didnt call me" post but I wanted to get others ideas of what this may have been all about. I'll try to be as specific as possible; here goes... Met and dated this guy for a little over a month and half. We went out several times and kind of graduated to hanging out at my house eating dinner, watching movies, snuggling, etc. We saw each other at least 4x per week and had a very relaxed comfortable relationship. We were intimate on several occasions and were very compatible. Two Saturday's ago we got together for dinner and a movie again and I asked him to stay over but he declined because my Son was home. Hey, I can respect that and appreciated his thoughtfullness of my son since I was tipsy and wasnt thinking too logically. We planned on getting together for breakfast the next day and maybe do something fun. The next day I called him and got voicemail. A few hours later when I hadnt heard from him, I went over to his house to kick his butt out of bed and go do our thing. I rang the bell and he answered the door - it was obvious that I had woken him up and he wasnt happy about it. Anyway, he went in and sat on the couch to explain that he hadnt gotten any sleep that night and was really tired. I told him to go back to bed and it was fine so we could talk later - maybe get together in the evening. He didnt call. The next day I called and left a message that I was feeling funky about what happened and could he call. No response. A a few days later I called and said that I was very worried about him. No response. So, it's been over a week and there has been no contact. It's obvious to me that he is finished and that's fine. I was stewing for several days and just sent an email stating how I felt and how I wish that he would have had enough regard for me to be honest and tell me the way it is... I thought we had a pretty open relationship as far as communication. I'm ok now but still mystefied as to his behavior. Any ideas???

Must Have: Good clean breath - good dental hygiene. BLECH: Too much tongue

The rabbit is awesome but I found that when I use it regularly, I can't orgasm during sex with a real person so I've just put it away for now. I really have to wonder if any human male could compete with the bunny.

Catie, that's what I pretty much thought when you put "got rid of it". Your choice in words is not accidental and important. Here you see your little neice (?) and realize fully that it wasnt just a blob... it was a human being that would be 6 right now. You made the best decision at the time and logically you know that this was most likely the best choice but have a much fuller understanding now of the enormity of it all. Somewhere deep down you are not reconciled to it and wonder "what if". I think as a society, we tend to dismiss how profound this is and how much a person can later be affected with remorse and regret. You may want to call around... maybe planned parenthood has some sort of referral service where they can steer you in the right decision. I wish you all the best and am sorry that your struggling with this. Just know that you did the best thing under the circumstances and your chance will come - you will have an opportunity to give your love to another child when the time is right.

Raykay, I couldnt agree more (again) LOL. I'm active, have a lot of different interests and meet people all the time but the thing is that being 42, most of the people I come into contact with are married or in a LT relationship. The guy that I'm dating right now runs in some of the same circles, lives in the area. Heck! He works right next to my Doctor's office. I'm amazed that I havent met him before the internet dating site ad.

Avman, she'll need to clarify but I assumed that she had had an abortion but it could be adoption or something.

RayKay, I definitely agree there. I've met some nice people on-line and I've met some stinkers - same goes for meeting people "IRL". It's pretty clear right away (generally speaking) which category people fall into. I like to get to know them briefly online and then graduate to the coffee date as soon as possible. I really have to wonder about a person that finds it engaging to talk to you about all sorts of things forever and doesnt want to take the next step and meet in person. So far, the people I've met have been who they say they are and didnt post someone elses picture. Whether there was a connection in person, is a whole other story. BTW, I'm a confident woman with a healthy self-esteem and attractive. I just don't find many opportunities to meet guys around my age who are ready for a relationship.

lil, I'm so sorry that your are going through so much. Your getting old enough to look at your experience from a completely different perspective than you would at 11 or 12; grief is a long process and there's just no "rule" as to how long it takes to move through it and reconcile yourself to your situation. Heck, sometimes people never really do reconcile to it but we become stronger and keep it in a perspective of sorts. I would seriously encourage you to find some greif support because not only are you dealing with this horrible loss but you are also grieving for the childhood that someone stole away from you. When you are feeling at your lowest, please know that things do get better and we can gain perspective and grow from the loss in our lives. Take care and look to your future.

Tiredman, I see what your saying and I don't know if I believe in "soul mates" per se either. What I like about meeting possible partners on the Internet is that you can actually get to know a person first rather than being too caught up in their appearance. Looks are very important but for me, if there is no intellectual connection, the rest will not fall into place. It's very interesting to take that out of the equation and see where it takes you. Right now I'm dating two guys that I met and both are very nice. I look forward to getting to know them more IRL. FWIW, this is not for everyone, that's for sure.