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Hey there lightlight....first off...do not worry if you do not get him off with a BJ ....most guys including myself can not get off from a BJ....what i suggest is give him a BJ for a bit then switch it to a hand job then back to a BJ and so on...that works for me and many other guys....I would not really worry bout the fact that you are a virgin...sure that may have shocked him a bit but in reality i would say guys are ok with it...it is great that you told him cause it really tones down the anxiety on your part..... when you do have sex for the first time...the missionary position may be the way to go for the first little bit of the sex session...just to break you in gentley....im sure you will be a gentlemen to you... you will only learn from experience....i am sure you will become a quick learner....good luck

Thanks for your responses..... Let me clear up some of the issues.... Raykay.... I am so not worried about that guy....he is a total moron.......he does not have a chance in hell with her....all he will ever get from her is her friendship thats it. The gropping of the breast issue was kinda a joke...but I still thought it was disrespectful.... Kellbell...You are so right....she is not respecting the time with me....she can easily say no to them ....but she doesnt. and guess who is coming over to drop of boxes for her move to another place? OceanEyes....what you said about if she thinks a decent guy will put up with that ....makes so much sense....it is funny how blind one can be when it comes to a relationship. I am sooo gonna talk to her tonight about this....I phoned her and she knows I want to see her. I am giving her one more chance....and she might blow it tonight....and if so, it will end....I am not feeling too bad about this...In fact I am not taking this relationship serious at all now....it is really early in the relationship....and there are other fish in the sea

I meet this really cool girl over a month ago....we are boyfriend and girlfriend as of 2 and a half weeks ago....in the first couple weeks we were unseparetable ....and now ...the last two weekends i have hardly seen her. She has a ton of guy friends which is beginning to make me nervous. I get the feeling that some of them are trying to sabotage my relationship with her. Like this one guy....this is the second weekend where he has been around asking her to do things with him....like go for a hike or to the zoo....I am not worried about him trying to steal her away from me, but i wish he would give me some respect that maybe i want to hang out with her....I am all for her having friends and having time to hang with them...but I would like to have one night were it could be just her and i. this last friday she told me her one of her guy friends (whom i dont mind at all) was taking her to the bar for drinks. What bugs me is that she did not invite me at all....she told me where she was going and all...so i hung out with a couple of my friends....but the places we were gonna go to were dead that night...so i suggested to meet up with my girlfriend at the bar they were at. We went there and she saw me and said she was glad i came....but she practically ignored me the whole night...talking to her guy friends and really did not introduce me as her boyfriend. I was getting insecure when she was giving guys her number(whom she says she is friends with) and then that guy i was mentioning who wont give me some time on the weekend poses for a pic with one of my lady friends and my g/f ....my g/f grabbed the other girls breast and the guy decides to grab my g/f breast...RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME! .... Is there any respect for me? So i end up sleeping over that night....the next morning....i basically felt like crap and just went home while she was sleeping. I just feel like i am being used( for rides to her work) and the reason i left without waking her up was because if this is what the relationship is gonna be like, I might as well not take it seriously and treat her as so. So later on i called her to tell her sorry i left and that I had things to do(which I really did but it could of waited) so later on that day .... i called her up and asked her whats going on tonight thinking that maybe i can finally hang out with her and her only....nope....that guy is coming over for chinese food....ok...i am fine with that but what made it not good is that she did not invite me....so another weekend without her. So i said to her to give me a shout if she wants to hang out, and that i am gonna hang out with one of my friends ....she did not call...and i felt sad about it. so sunday comes along and i said to myself that i wont contact her....let her contact me and ask if i want to do anything....she finally texts me at around 5 asking me how my day was going and that she was at her grandmas bbq....so we go back and forth and mentioned that i was bored and what her agenda was for the night...she said watch a movie or play vids with her friend....and once again...she did not invite me ....am i wrong for feeling like this?...she sent me a text at 11:30 telling me that she hopes i am not bored anymore and for me to call her the next day....i did not reply...what the f**k for.... Tonight I have to talk to her....i need to know where i stand....but I need to know how to approach this without sounding like a jerk or too needy...if it does not work out to my liking then i am gonna call it off ....and advice on how to approach this?

or you can make sure you have a good supply of condoms handy

I get the impression that this question has more to it than meets the eye....Are you trying to figure whether there is a chance that your SO is thinking about someone else when he makes love to you?....Cause thats what I get from reading your post. Do YOU fanatasize about being with someone else while making love to YOUR SO? With my ex, I did occasionally ( and when I mean occasionally I mean a couple of times) think of being with someone else...So is that considered cheating in your book?...or is that a healthy fantasy? With my new g/f... there is no reason to think of someone else cause she F's my brains out the way I my body desires it.

A home solution that worked for me was the egg yolk treatment....google it ...its basically a face mask treatment and skin feels great after its done. Although you need to do it everyday for a bit then just do it every couple weeks and then once a month. When you apply it to your face...it can be messy, but it will dry out and you will feel your skin tightning up....after 20 min....start flexing your facial muscles and it will crack...then just remove it with water...it really makes your skin feel great.

your welcome dogmama ...when talking to him tonight about it ....try and have an open mind about it....I assure you, your man is not looking at porn because he does not love you...just ask him questions like what it does for him...you may open up some things about him that you did not know about and it may lead to some sexy fun with you....Just try your hardest to not make him feel bad about it....men masterbate....its a given ....to have something to visually look at to masterbate is great...and sometimes to hear the moaning of a woman (if watching a movie)which drives me nuts all the time and helps me to release quicker lol. AntiLove_SuperStar I "kind of" respect your views on it ...but to say that you consider watching porn cheating is a step too far....So if you boyfriend was masterbating to a picture of a beautiful landscape scene...would that be cheating? .....its not about who the person is in the pic or movie or whatever....its about the act that is being displayed that gets us guys turned on and want to relieve ourselfs of the pressure that is building up. What you are saying is masterbation is a form of cheating....cause there is no guy in this planet that would watch porn without masterbating....porn is just a visual masterbating tool to help us get off quicker, and to try and make us guys feel as though it is cheating is wrong.

Hi dogmama..... I would not be too hard on him, I am sure he was embarrassed enough when you caught him with his pants down....and as kellbell mentioned, us guys are very visually stimulated...If there is one lie in the world that should not be taken serious that a guy lies about....porn would be it .... why? because most guys love watching it and a lot of women are against it. Guys watching porn is like watching your dog rub itself against a dead fish in excitement to get the dead fish scent on itself. Sure it looks disgusting to us...but to the dog, its heaven. I really would not worry about it to tell you the truth...I myself will still look at porn from time to time....I do have a girlfriend, and she does not know as of yet that I view it, but the reason I do view it and masterbate to it is because...sometimes I just want a quick fix...I do not want the foreplay or even pleasing my girlfirends needs....I just want a quick fix to release some pressure so to speak....clean myself up and be done with it satisfying my needs. Thats all it is...It is great that you let him have sex with you pretty much whenever....which I am sure he respects...but all guys need that special time alone to do their own business with or without a girlfriend/wife Its not about wanting to have sex with the particular person on the screen....not at all...its just there to stimulate our visual needs. So if you are gonna talk to him about it....what you should really ask him is what it does for him and not as much as what it does for you seeing him look at it. There is no reason your man should feel bad about this cause if you do....he will hide it even more....let him open up to you about it by asking the right questions and not the ones that will make him feel bad about himself.

Stinkweed....you did a great thing ....even though you were turned down by girl2, you gave yourself the courage to ask at least...and like you said....it was like having a rock off your back....so true. Its soooo much more worth it to just ask someone out instead of trying to get to know them cause all that leads to is the "friend zone" and thats the last thing you want to do.....now go ahead and ask girl1 out....and even if she turns you down....so what....there are many more women out there.....and i was told you have to fail to succeed.

I agree with everyone about meeting the person asap. For me my first online encounter was with a woman whom I spent about a month chatting with via web cam....it was great and all...but when I met her she seemed different and not for me....but we still chat from time to time....the second person I was on msn with her for a good 3 months....I was asking her to met up cause I told her that I just did not want to invest into the time if I can not meet you....we set a date to meet on the 12th of may......unward to a week ago when this gal messaged me and we began chatting ......we hit it off great and we met 2 days later....and we can not get enough of eachother....what about the girl I am supposed to meet coming up on May 12th?....I did the right thing and emailed her that I found someone else....and that the date will not happen and I apologized....She wrote me back and said that she also met someone as well so I did not feel as bad....Meeting people asap is the way to go it will save you from wasting too much of your time.

I was pretty much over her....but that fact remained that she already found someone else ...so it was kinda bugging me not that much but enough....but when i met this women over the weekend....my ex was not on my mind at all.....even if this does not work out....what happened was magical to say the least and it just pushed me forward

Wow i can honestly say that I am fully healed from my break up that started last july.....it was a long rollar coaster ride but i finally made it through .... I met this wonderful gal 4 days ago on an online "free" dating site...(link removed) and we hit it off sooo well that we decided to meet on saturday....I was amazed by her beauty and her intellect, I thought i would never meet anyone like my ex....and I was right...but I met someone who is unique in her own right....soooo different than my ex ....but sooo exciting to be with, we are both soooo giddy towards eachother...both our group of friends notice how happy we seem to be....life does not seem sooo grey anymore....i never expected to get sooo intense with a women this soon after meeting her online.....what a great kisser she is....DAMN!!! I wrote to to you all who are going through a tough time....to tell you that there is hope for all of us....you may think you will never get over your ex ....but you will....and when you meet that new person in your life ....the happyness will hit you like a ton of bricks!!!!!.....take care everyone....you will all get through this i promise....just hang in there and work on yourself mw

Thanks for all your replies..... tylercdurden2004 The reason why I do have to meet up with her is because I do not want to think of the "what if" .... I need to know what is going on....and if I do not meet up with her then that is all I will be thinking of is the "what if" aspect. kellbell she may have used me as an emotional crutch that one time on msn...but other than that....our emails have been positive....So i am not sure...but thanks for giving me advice from the female prespective : ) Bethany How will I know if I dont meet up with her? ...I am sorry but I just can not just drop her like that....There is too much history between us....I am not gonna be her fallback guy....but I am gonna face her and see what if anything is going on.....heck she may as well be just wanting to go out roller blading and that I may be looking too much into this....I dont know...but I am gonna find out...whether I get everyones blessing or not...I am gonna go into this with my guard up believe me....and I am gonna go into this without the hopes to get back together...but I can not stress this enought...is that I need to see what is going on with her.

tylercdurden2004...thanks for your reply on this.... Just so you know....we did not break up on bad terms....but sometimes I wish we had so then it would be easier to move on....So you are asking whether I would go back to her?....and the answer to that would be more on the side of yes I would...but....We both would have to address everything on the table and sort some of this issues we were having...I do miss her terribley ...but I also tell myself not to expect anything from her....I wish I could take your advice and not go roller blading with her...but It is soooo hard to explain my situation with all of you ... because only I myself knows the "whole" situation ....By no means is she a bad person....in fact ....She is one of those girls who is really gorgeous and nice at the same time....and I have forgiven her and myself over this break up ....I need to meet up with her and get a better understanding of this situation face to face....cause I feel like she wants to open up to me but cant on email and msn....

See thats what I am asking myself....I just got the impression that the "mess" did involve her new b/f ....and the thing is is that my roomies g/f saw her at the bar with him and she said that he looked like he was a jerk and full of himself....and another thing I should mention is why I think that the "mess" involves the new b/f is cause I said something to her about how she is young, beautiful and smart as heck...and that if her new man is making her feel like this in this early on in the relationship then to just drop him and enjoy being yourself and enjoy the great european trip she is gonna take in the next few weeks.......and she replied to something like this....thanks for saying that especially the drop him part......So I dont know whats going on....I am wondering if she is just using the roller blade thing so she can have a heart to heart talk with me...I am blind to think that?