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  1. WELL DONE CAL! I'm a lesbian and I treat my fiancee very well and she would verify that. She says her two husbands' never treated her the way I do. I open doors for her and make sure she's seated first, etc. I do everything a chauffeur would do even if we're in a taxi. I always pay the taxi fare and give her the change. If we've been grocery shopping I get her out of the car first and then go and empty the boot/trunk of the car. Chivalry can be used in every day circumstances too. I've helped old ladies in the street, e.g. when an old lady walking down steps dropped her bunch of flowers. I stopped talking to my fiancee on my mobile phone and went over and picked them up and gave them to her and asked was she ok. On other occasions I've helped young mothers struggling to get on/off buses with babies, shopping bags and buggies. This is a very difficult task for them. When I was in my teens the bus drivers would get of and help them. Not anymore! The majority of this type of thing is down to common sense and politeness!
  2. My fiancee and I are both disappointed that our wedding has had to be postponed until July 2008. It's very upsetting because she should be here with me now. However, it's just as well we couldn't get married this year because I've got a very contagious skin infection. It keeps reoccurring at least once a year. The doctor has not idea what it is? He's referring me to a dermatology consultant. At the moment I've been put on antibiotics. My immune system doesn't work properly because I have 'Fibromyalgia Syndrome' and when I get infections it weakens it more. Giving me antibiotics does help to kill the infection but again taken them weakens my immune system and makes me more vulnerable to contracting other illnesses. I'll just have to hope everything will turn out ok. I'm pleased you're telling more people about the two of you, however, please remember that not everyone will keep your secret. My so called best friend (2 years ago) blurted it out in a pub on Christmas Eve that i was a lesbian in front of my Mother's cousins and their children. They realised I was horrified and didn't know whether to run out or hit her. I had to tell them that my father didn't know because one of my sisters had said I'd never see my nephew again if I told him. Unfortunately, I had no choice but to tell him because there was going to be 2 family parties in the January. My father was upset about it and couldn't look at me when I was telling him because he had tears in his eyes and didn't want me to see them. He said, 'My life was my own and I did with it what I pleased.' I said, 'Thank you', and disappeared out of the room because I was starting to fill up with tears too. The best friend...well I've never been friends with her from that night. She's apologised and that makes no difference. She threw my sexuality in my face at every opportunity she had. She even told the police when they came to take a statement from her when she was beaten up by an ex boyfriend. I just went around to see if she was ok, that was months before she outed me. I wouldn't care I only took her out for one drink because she was going to be by herself over Christmas. Her daughter was in foster care because of my friend's drinking habits and ex boyfriend who used to take drugs. The daughter had been raped by him that year and she was only 13! I gave them all the support I could and she repaid me by 'outing me'. What I couldn't forgive her for was she said, 'Well it's out now and I've done you a favour.' All she'd done was open the biggest can of worms you could imagine. My immediate family refuse to even get to know my fiancee when she comes over. Plus they won't attent the wedding. They are ok with gays, however, it's obvious when they've got one right under their noses in the family their views change. My eldest nephew isn't bothered about me being a lesbian (he's nearly 17), however, he doesn't want me to go and live Australia. My 8 year old neice and 10 year old nephew...well their mother doesn't even want to tell try and explain about gay people. I wanted my oldest nephew to be my Best Man, my other nephew to be Ring Bearer and his sister Bridesmaid. I've never felt so hurt in all my life. My Father...well I'm presuming that because my two sisters and their families aren't coming neither will he. That's usually what happens. It'll be a great day for us anyway. I'm going to feel so proud showing my new wife off to everybody. I only have to think about her and a big grin immediately appears on my face. And she does exactly the same when her friends ask about me. I'm sorry I got carried away agiain. Can you tell I'm in love? lol
  3. I missed the part about it being a year, sorry. I'm glad you've managed to get into uni. What subjects are you taking?
  4. So do I. It's obvious the outside looks good, but how do you know the inside is ok? There might be some small fragments of glass left in there.
  5. Hi FoxLocke it's great to hear from you again. I'm pleased you now know the answer to your orgasm question.
  6. He's the same person you've lived with for years, nothing has changed that way. Please just love him unconditionally that's all I wanted. My Mother is dead but my Father's still alive. When I told him he said with tears in his eyes, 'It's your life and you do what you want to.' I answered thank you and got out of the room as quickly as possible because I was going to cry. I don't see him very often usually but recently I stayed with him for 6 weeks whilst my house had builders in it digging up floors, etc. That's the longest time we've ever spent together since I was 22! At first I wasn't looking forward to it and we kept out of each others way, however, as the weeks went by we started to bond. He learned a lot in a short time. He saw I was wearing boxer shorts when my washing was hanging on the line. He didn't know what they were and had to ask. He also saw me wearing shirts and ties. He admitted when it was time for me to leave that he'd enjoyed my company. I told him I had too. My two younger sisters are having problems accepting me a a lesbian. They don't believe it took me 30 years and 2 marriages to decide to 'come out'. I knew from being 7 years old that I was different, but kept putting it to the back of my mind and hoping it'd stay there, but it didn't. I tried to be a 'normal' person because I knew I'd cause a 'bombshell'. It now proves I was right! My youngest sister said I was never like this when I was growing up. I told both my sisters I was, but I hid it from everyone to keep the peace. I hope your son doesn't have to go through something like this before he's accepted.
  7. I agree with the others theres too much deceit. If I were you I'd move out and forget about him. Good luck and take care
  8. I have a friend who has 3 sons. The eldest one was married and had 2 little boys. The wife wasn't happy and she left him and the sons for someone else. Later on he realised he was gay and moved away because he couldn't bear the thought of being rejected by his family. He has been gay ever since. His parents accepted him. The youngest son never went out with girls. He chose to spend a lot of his time with his parents. He'd been asked years before if he was gay and he'd said no. He waited until he was 21 before telling his parents. They were devastated. They began to blame themselves because it'd happened to two sons. I had already forewarned my friend that I thought he was gay. She said, 'No way! The girls are always hanging around him'. He's a good looking lad that's why they hang around him. I talked to him one day when he'd first come out to his parents. I didn't know this though! I told him he'd been looking a lot happier for a while and asked him if he'd got himself a girlfriend? He said no and then he said you might as well know I've found a boyfriend and then he asked if I was shocked. I told him I wasn't surprised and had expected that for a long time. I hoped they would be vey happy. I asked him how his parents felt and he said didn't you feel the chilly atmosphere when you walked in? I'd just told them. I knew his Mother had been crying but I couldn't work out what for? He also said that when he was 15 and at school his eldest brother 'came out'. Some of the guys in his year were giving him grief about it. In the end he had to fight the leader of the gang so they'd leave him alone. I think this had a lot to do with him keeping it a secret. The next day I called around to see my friend, his mother, and we had a long chat. She said she didn't know where to start so I said I'll do the talking and you tell me if I'm right. I said you were looking forward to having grandchildren again weren't you? Yes! And now you think you're not going to get any? Yes! Although her eldest son has 2 sons they don't bother with their grandparents now they're older. When they were little she brought them up for a while because her youngest son was 9. Her middle son has M.S. and can't have children so she'd been pinning all her hopes on the youngest one. I explained that just because he's gay doesn't mean he won't have any kids. She agreed. She thanked me for talking to her. She'd helped me a lot when I was in a turmoil and I didn't know if I was bi or a lesbian. I definitely knew I wasn't straight anymore. I'd been married for 12 years when I didn't know who I was and she'd supported me. You know your son better than any of us. Maybe it would be better for you to talk to him, however, will he react like my friend's young son did to keep the peace?
  9. I suggest you go and see you doctor because one of the symptoms of Bipolar is doing reckless sexual stuff and regretting it later. Please let me know what the doctor says. Good luck
  10. Fallen we all want our dreams, however, it's the reality we have to deal with before that can happen, e.g. sorting out our personal baggage before we can move on. Making our lives financially secure before moving onto the next person. Tying up loose ends e.g. getting the divorce papers before committing ourselves, making sure any children involved are ok. Especially financially and emotionally. I agree that we all get impatient and want everything to happen 'NOW', but if we love someone with every fibre of our being then we don't ever want to burden them with insecurities and unresolved relationships. Going into a new relationship with these problems still hanging over our heads causes trouble with our new partners/spouses and the relationship is doomed from that moment on.
  11. I've visited the man's shop again and the assistant there told me they would make alterations for me. She said unfortunately they stopped making suits made to measure years ago when the seamstress retired. Thanks for your help everyone.
  12. Forget about your parents wanting you to get honours, instead use the motto, 'Only my best is good enough'. That's what it said above at my secondary school above the assembly platform. Good luck and take care.
  13. Cristal unfortunately there isn't a tailor in the phone book of my area. But I would consider that idea if I could find one.
  14. It's difficult finding a suit that has a three quarter length jacket, because all the shops are making them short at present. I'm only 5'6" and weigh between 16-17 stone. I look fatter in a short jacket! For our engagement I wore my dark grey suit, a white shirt (which has the stick out collar), studs instead of buttons, cufflinks, a black paisley patterned bow tie and black boots. My Fiancee looked at me and never spoke. When I asked her what was wrong she said she was speechless because I looked more handsome than she'd seen me before. I want to make an extra effort for our wedding. So far a man's shop has offered to help me, but they've never catered for lesbians before.
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