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  1. I agree with the above post. It probably rarely happens as in 1 out of a 100. If the relationship didn't work the first time around then it probably won't the second time. I think one of the hardest things that men and women have to deal with between them is that just because there's a connection it doesn't mean that a relationship has to come out of it. My advice, if you really like her as a person then be friends, but you need to move on with your life. I'm telling you right now, there's a better girl out there for you. One of my ex-gf's and I have become like brother and sister. Why, because although we love each other as a people we knew the relationship wouldn't last the long haul. We both knew at the end that we should've remained friends. Thing is the reason why it works for both of us is because neither of us has any intention of getting back together. I guess that's my point, you can't be friends if you want more. Doesn't matter if you're a guy or girl, someone is going to feel like they're being strung along. Who knows, maybe one of the best friendships of your life can come out of this, but a chance of having a relationship in the future....probably not. Good luck either way and keep everyone here posted.
  2. Well, I won't give the whole backstory because sometimes I don't even believe it, but here's the gist. I broke up with her because I couldn't deal with her issues anymore. It started to wear me thin and one day I just called and said I was through with us. I'm starting to believe she may be a manic-depressive. Anyway, I've seen her two times after that. Once, we made a plan to hang out. She broke it off and said she didn't want us to end up in a fight. I thought to myself when I got the message, thank God because I regretted making plans with her. Anyway that was three weeks ago and I haven't spoke with her since. By the way, if anyone wants to know how the dumper sometimes feels, well....this has been harder for me than getting dumped because I love her so much. The only thing that separates us is that the fact that I'm a man, she's a woman, and her issues. I had deleted her number's from my cell. I got a text tonight while hanging with my buddy. It said, do you still hate me? I thought it could be her, but wasn't sure. My buddy being well himself quickly texted back, I don't hate anyone signed (My nickname, which I'll keep private). Well, I got home and ran through all my numbers in my phone book. Yep, it was her. The question I have is, what should I do? Half of me says shoot her off an email and tell what's going on, that I didn't know it was her number, sorry for the absurd response, etc. Keep it light and that's it. The other half of me wants to say screw it and what's the point? See the thing I've realized is that people don't change. Sorry to burst people's bubble, but they don't. I talked to quite a few people and they all say the same thing. Move on they say and it's weird because all of them said, that was the one they loved the most. I think once you get to a certain age everyone has one of those under their belts. Sorry this has been so long, but unless someone can show me something positive that can come out of contacting her I think I'll just let it go, wake up in the morning and try to forget. Which is something that is so hard to do.
  3. Hey Lady, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Two years is a long time in my book, especially since you both lived together. We've all been in similar situations as yours. Just know that we moved on and so will you. In some weird way you should be happy that he broke it off. Yeah, he was immature about it, maybe he'll learn from that. For you though, it means that you can find someone who really cares about you and wants to be with you. Didn't it make you feel terrible even in the relationship when feelings weren't being reciprocated? Well, now you won't have to deal with that. Be as mature as you can about everything. Try to think as level headed as possible. You might want him back for some strange reason. That reason is that we always want what we can't have. Take care of what you need to and cut contact asap. If you go with no contact, you'll slowly day by day regain yourself. You are better than this, so show yourself, not him that nothing will change that. The only bad relationship is one where you don't learn anything from. Oh by the way, no matter what anyone thinks in this world, everyone can be replaced. It's just the way it goes. Sad, but true. In the meantime, go out and have as much fun as you can. Feeling sorry for yourself only leads to feeling sorry for yourself.
  4. Thanks everyone for your replies. Some of your meanings behind the break up lines really made me laugh. Honestly, I think laughter promotes healing and I'm glad that some of you really took the time out to put your two cents in.
  5. Alright everyone, I wanted to get a thread going about break up lines. Lines either said by the dumper or the dumpee. Give me your thoughts and what you think they really mean. Please feel free to add your own meanings to the lines I've given or come up with new ones. It's cool and alright if you're funny with them. Sometimes people on here are too depressed. Have a good time with this and let it rip. All I ask is that you keep it short. Thanks everyone. 1.Let's be friends-They want you as insurance. In case they don't find Mr or Mrs. Right, you'll do. 2.I don't want to break up with you-cleary this is one said by the dumpee. They fail to see the problems in the relationship 3.I'm the best thing that ever happened to you-you're a bottom feeder and they showed pity on you. You should be lucky to be treated like horse dung. 4.You'll never find anyone like me-one of my personal favorites. When a woman says that to me I want to say, I hope not. Before we dated I thought George Bush was the Anti-Christ. 5.We should start seeing other people-they've already started seeing other people and so should you. 6.I need time to find myself-they need to time to wonder how in the hell they ever dated you or they really have no clue who they are…either way get the hell out….quick. Just food for thought. C'mon I want to hear some good responses.
  6. Well, this is the first post I've replied to as I'm a newbie on here, but I think I can tell it from a different perspective. I'm 26 and used to be like your friends. In the 10 years since I've started to have sex, I've probably slept with around 60 women, including random hookups(as in no intercourse) the number is closer to 100. Honestly, I've only made love with about 5 of those women and those are only the ones that mattered to me. I can't change what I've done and feel bad because I know I've broken more than a few hearts along the way. I've never taken advantage of any women, but I've been a dirt bag afterwards by not calling. I probably missed out on dating a few of those women. I bet some of them were really cool, creative types that would've meshed with my personality. I've never cheated in a relationship and never knowingly slept with a woman who was cheating. You also never know what you're getting in one night stands. Does the girl have prior abuse issues, going through a break-up, unhappy in a relationship, etc. Sometimes, it's just better to talk and be each other's friend, than someone's sex buddy. I know I needed that on more than one occasion. Now and this may sound crazy, but I only want to sleep with women I care about. Maybe I needed to get it out off my system. I've never boasted to anyone, like look at me I'm the man. I've changed bro, sex to me is as important as my soul. Not every woman gets to have a piece. I think once you've been in love, you can't go back. Making love elevates you to the heavens. I truly believe and this may sound funny or weird, but you can feel God in an orgasm and why would you want to share that with anyone you don't truly care about. Sex is the most intimate, outward, physical expression of our affection for each other. That doesn't mean that sex has to be filled with rose petals. Everyone here likes to get down and dirty with the one they love. I think you're on the right track. It's gonna be worth it to hold out for a girl you really dig. Even if she breaks your heart at least you can look at yourself and say I didn't let myself be just a body in the act. I fully gave everything, including my soul. In the end though I say if two people mutually agree to have a one night stand I say go for it. It's your life and not anybody else's. I just can't do it and face myself in the morning anymore. By the way and maybe you can start to see it at your age, but I think that part of the growing up process is seeing that everyone's a hypocrite, including ourselves. It's just trying to minimize how much of a hypocrite we are throughout our lives. Stick to your guns. I'm doing my best to stick to mine. I know it's worth it in the end. Take it easy and sorry if this post was long. Remember it's my first time posting
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