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  1. yes you did my friend, when it comes to best friends, just stick with the one you got, it will save you a lot of drama, and it will save their friendship....
  2. Well, i think i can be of some help here. Im reading this book called "the purpose driven life" and it baisically tells you why you are here on earth. And most people think that were here to live our lives to the fullest, but were not here to live our lives for us, were here to live our lives for god. (i was never a spiritual person and believe me on not preaching to you either, if you do believe in god and are willing to put your life in his hands as it should be then you will appreciate what im saying) Baisically what im saying to you is your body is just a "tent" for now, its a preperation for the "eternal life" and when your earth bodys time is over then god has a "house" for us waiting in heaven. So with that said, life has its certain things that it holds for you, and throughout your journey you just have to spread the word of jesus and accept that someday you are going to go to heaven and it should not be a sad thing when people die, it should be a wonderful thinkg that they get to live in such a place our minds wouldnt even begin to comprehend.... Heres a quote from the book im reading, its baisically about what heaven is like, our minds couldnt even get close to realizing what it would be like.. "its like explaining the internet to an ant" So i have chosen to live my life the way god planned it and spread the word that were not here to please us, or help ourselves, were here to spread love and joy to all around us. (lol, i sounds like some hard-core christian..... but im not, im just an everday person that understands now) Hope my input was what you were looking for... i pretty much said just about everything you said, just in a diffrent form)
  3. I wish it were that easy.... Hew needs to go to meeting, but the only way he would ever go would be if he was court ordered, and you know what that will take... he drives a truck, so he has a CDL lisense, so if he gets pulled over hes out of a job as well.... im going to try to call AA and hopefull they can help me out... thanks
  4. My parents split up when I was 19, my middle sister 13, and my baby sister was 10... And my dad has been drinking a lot since then. Im now 22, and im at that age when i drink with my friends...i should be the one who drinks a lot, not my father. He literally gets out of work and goes to the bar every day Thats 5 days a week and never gets home from the bar until 10pm (and he has to wake up at 3:30am) Hes even starting to go out on the weekends and drink, sometimes he doesnt even come home on days he goes to the bar, he has lost a lot of weight and has been a total jerk... He yells about the dumbest things and cares less for anything that has even remotely close to a meaning in his life. He is a scary and abusive person and i dont feel that i could confront him about his problem becuase im afraid he will hit me and not want to stop. He also drives drunk all the time, im afraid hes going to kill himself or someone else... what should i do about this, let him kill himself from binge drinking, or get by butt kicked for confronting him about it.... help!!!!!!!
  5. I once told my best friend about me hooking up with a guy after a night of heavy drinking and he has a girlfriend (they arent together anymore, and im not the reason she never found out) but we both hated ourselves for doing it and said we wouldnt say anything... a few of his close friends know and a 2 of mine know, one being my best friend. This happened this winter, and just recently she told his old roommate and still good friend. She should have never said anything becuase i trusted her with this information. I havent confronted her about it becuase i dont know what to say to her. Its going to be hard to break the friendship off becuase we work together as well. I have been blowing her off the past week. Im so upset that she betrayed my trust and i need to have a friend i can trust with information like that. What do i do? Beucause i dont need anyone like that, and i wouldnt have a problem talling her where to shove it if you know what i mean. Should i get all worked up over this or should i just keep blowing her off without explaination? Because in all reality, shes not even that much of a good friend.. She is selfish and closed minded. And im the total opposite. Im wondering if this is a sign that i should have tossed her a long time ago.... HELP!!!!!
  6. I have dumped someone when i still loved him very much, but i had a darn good reason to dump him. He cheated. And to this day i love the guy a lot, ill never give him another chance, but you just have to tuff it out and get over it. think of it as a learning experience, and you have no idead how much stronger it has made me... so my advice to you would be just to move on and live your life, becuase life is too short to wait around for someone who dumped you, especially if shes sleeping around, this is what i think is going throught his head (he may not know that hes doing this, but subconsciously he is) Scenario 1) He feels guilty breaking up with you, so to make you feel better hes saying all those things to you becuase the guilt inside of him is ripping him to shreds. And if he says these nice things to you to make you feel better, he feels better Scenario 2) Hes keeping you on the back burner to have someone to come back to if his other relationships dont work out, so he has the security of having someone there. Dont play his game, becuase if he loves you he would "find himself" by not sleeping around, that doesnt show love at all. Good luck with everything hope my advice helps out.... and just keep this in mind, life can go on without him, be indipendant and show him how strong you are without him
  7. Looks play a big factor in attraction, but ive found myself attracted to people that i normall wouldnt be attracted to.... becuase of inner beauty.... personality, and charm....
  8. She probally feels rejected and hurt because you dont want to be with her any more and needs to blame it on something. And telling everyone your dirty and a player makes her fell better about herself, becuase in her mind its better that people think your dirty and a player rather then you just not having interest in her, and making her feel stupid and worthless.. And i disagree with what was said above, women arent over emotinal, they just express how they feel instead of repress their feelings and thoughts.... But i have one question, if you dont like her, why did you lead her on and start dating her? becuase i think it is kind of messed up that your agreed to be with her even though you dont like her... so it looks like me that karma jumped up and bit you is the a$$ Just be a little more careful when you start dating someone you dont like becuase your bound to get negative reactions
  9. oh yeah, i know what thats all about... my ex of 3 years used to call that " hoppa hoppa" (cheesy i know) its a GOOD THING.... for sure,, keep up the good work..... hes into you.. and your oral! believe me, hes happy! Oh for future reference, remember the last oramsm you had , remember the feeling, yeah..... its pretty much the same! you got him off... be proud, you did really good
  10. Look baby...... whatever it is.... isnt worth getting upset about..... ive had a lot to drink too , and your going to be fine..... im awake right now, if you want to talk my screen name on here is the same on my yahoo account (dreamdancer118 @ yahoo) im me... we can chit chat for a bit
  11. Well, its kindof hard to generalize that question becuase we all have diffrent likes and dislikes, but i will have to agree with above, personality... Looks can be a factor, but everyone likes someone for their own unique reasons. Its a proven fact that women and men will find someone attractive becuase he/she reminds them of their ex or of someone they used to like... so many little things play big roles in attraction.... sorry if i get a little too descriptive, but thats my views on what makes people attracted to others.. hope you found the answers you were looking for.... dont want to bore you too much...
  12. well, first off im a female, and i have "girls night out" with my friends all the time. and it doesnt mean that we want to cheat. We just want to be guy free for the night and have the luxuries to "act retarted" becuase face it, you dont feel comfortable acting like a fool in front of your man. (believe me, men to stupid things when your not around to witness) I have a lot of guy friends and they concider me "one of the guys" so i witness first hand the severity of retartedness! so dont take offence to the fact thay want to go out and act like fools without doing something to drop cool points in front of you! concider it a male bonding ritual
  13. Ok, so im being tugged back and forth by mysef... part of me says go for it what do you have to lose, and the other part is saying, hes just going to say no! I never really get a chance to talk with him. He works on the back line and i work in the dining area. Hes a quite kind of guy and pretty much keeps to himself. I talk to all the other guys on the line and they all flirt with me, and show me attention. Thats not what im looking for from him, but some sort of notice would be nice... In a few occasions hes flirted with me. like throwing towels or toothpicks at me, and i just look over at him and give him a cute little smile. he has to know that im interested in him by now... but im also wondering if he thinks im just a tease or a (i hate this word) s-l-u-t becuase i flirt with some of the cooks. but its just an honest flirt, most of hten have girlfriends and im not looking to hook up with any of them. Out of all the servers at are employed at Fridays. Im the only server most of the kitchen staff even likes because im friendly and always make sure when they are on the line cooking they always have something to drink. I need to know how to get his attention and show him that i have an interest in him. I never really get a chance to talk to him personally and the last thing i want to do is humiliate myself infront of the whole staff! I think i might actually have some balls after all becuase your right, i need to just let him know, im 22 years old... i need to stop acting like im 15!!! 8)
  14. Im a chicken when it comes to meeting guys, im not a bad looking person at all, but my confidence has always been low. Im not sure why but im always afraid im going to fail. I have such a great personality and im really nice.... And to top it all off, this guy i work with isnt even that cute, ive dated guys that are so much hotter than he is, but im in that point in my life that i dont need a "trophy boyfriend" anymore, i need a man that will treat me right... Hes really nice and thoughtful. I think im going to take the chicken way and just back off and leave it be. I hate being rejected. I would probally not have a problem approaching him if i were to never see him again, but i have to work with him, and it will make me feel like a chump if he blew me off.... Thanks for the advice sam, maybe someday ill grow the balls to be confident!
  15. I've had this huge crush on a guy that i work with. Hes a cook and i'm a server. Ive told just about everyone at work about it hoping it would get back to him (im a chicken when it comes to someone i really like) And i told a girl i work with (who i concider a friend and i tell her a lot of things) That i liked him and she replied "oh, he flirts with everyone" in other words, dont get too hooked up on him. im a good judge of charachter and i could tell she liked him. But i believe i got first dibbs on him because i called on it, and she didnt say a word about her liking. She broke up with her boyfriend 2 days ago and yesterday after they got out of work, they left together. I dont know what i should do, i feel like i got screwed over in this deal... What should i do... should i just let them be, becuase im really hurt and angry that she would do this!!!! i need advice thanks
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