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  1. No, the guy never got arrested. I was too young to do that, and I knew my parents wouldn't support me.
  2. I know this happened/was posted almost 3/4 years ago but I just wanted to thank everyone for their responses. Realizing what it is and just facing it is alot better than pretending it didnt happen. I'm happy to say that I didn't let this event take any more happiness away from me. Thank you everyone.
  3. Haven't read all the posts, so sorry if this has been mentioned, but I would sit down and tell him its okay to watch porn and just to do it while the little one isn't around. The yelling - probably just insecurity or something similar, no married guy wants to be jacking off to porn like a college student. This is the guy that got insecure by a vibrator, right? Tell him it's okay to watch it and you'll make it up to him after the birth and recovery.
  4. Okay.. This has happened quite a few times in my life. Okay, alot. Every time I've met a guy or even just a person who could be my friend, I hated them after I got to know them. I know everyone has flaws. But in my mind I just accentuate EVERYBODY'S Except a very few people. I'm really starting to think there's something wrong with me. There's a few guys I know right now that I absoultely can't stand being around, but if I think about it, they're not bad people. Most people just sicken me after a while. I used to have a teacher that was in her 30s/40s and still unmarried, and I noticed this exact same personality trait in her. Actually, we are very frighteningly alike. We never got along for obvious reasons, but anyway. How can I stop? I really dont want to be alone my whole life. I have no problem with it, but I dont know, it would be nice to have someone permanent with me.
  5. I thought about telling him i wasntinterested in dating, but what i actually did tell him is that its impossible for him to love me and that i was kinda busy.
  6. this guy that barely knows me just professed his love to me .. i assured him theres no way he could love me b/c he doesn't know me. i feel dumb. he's a nice guy but i dont want to be with him (or anyone else for that matter) but guys never understand that sometimes it really isnt them, its me! i want to act normal if i see him again, i hate to be mean. ahh this feels so lame. what else do i say to him??
  7. Maybe because the female body is attractive? Just because you might think she has nice curves doesnt make you gay. When you look really good/wearing something sexy, dont you think you look sexy?
  8. Well thats not really what i was asking. I know it is an addiction, and I am recovering and this wasn't really about me. Like that ice thing, dont you still do it to feel the pain/ pressure whatever alleviate your stresses? isn't it still the same mental addiction, and you're not really solving the problem. I don't think you're ALWAYS going to be addicted to it. One day I hope to be completely free and i think i'm decently close.
  9. I have been using ''cutting'' as a way to relieve stress for a little over a year now. I've used self-injury for as long as I can remember for this (cutting eyelashes, pulling clumps of hair, not allowing myself to eat/drink, nothing serious ..etc) I've thought of numerous ways to stop .. and I've found meditation and physical excercise to help me alot. Anyway .. I'm doing better, so this isn't really about me. People have told me that if I want to stop cutting I should just do other things like: imagine myself cut, poke myself but not actually cut, things like that. I'm just thinking that imagining is pretty much just as bad except you don't have scars. Simply because you don't cut all the way doesn't mean you're not hurting yourself. I'm kinda confused. I imagine it would be pretty easy to just switch from cutting to imagining it or punching walls or doing it with red markers. The real difficulty [iMHO] is ending the addiction and not thinking about it anymore, and instead dealing with stress and rage in healthy ways, unrelated to SI. Maybe it's just me .. but is it really okay to do things like that? Does it truly rid you of the addiction?
  10. This is really amazing. It really touched me. I hope one day I'll be as lucky as you.
  11. Recently me & my best friend have become really far apart. He was pretty mean to me one time and that kinda did it for me. I didn't want to deal with him anymore. I kept up NC for like 4 days until he called me. (I was at a party). I really didn't want to pick up, so my friend did. She was really giddy and stuff so I thought who cares. I just didnt want to talk to him. She handed me the phone though and he was really sad/depressed/lonely but i was still bitter from him being mean to me so i just acted busy and hung up. I feel really bad. I know he probably needed me or was having a bad night. But I was having a great night. I didn't want him to ruin it. I want to be free of our friendship because he's really needy. Although I don't mind, because I want to help him .. I like to help him .. But sometimes he just takes everything out on me and it really hurts me. I don't want to let him step all over me, or be mean to him. He's kinda only giving me those choices though. I haven't talked to him since, and really, I don't want to talk to him. Whenever he gets pissed at me he just goes to other friends and says how much better they are. He comes back and says he doesnt mean it. And really, they're not the greatest/nicest people in the world. I've been back and forth with him forever. I'm sick of it. I want something solid and concrete to happen to solve these problems. I don't have a life that can afford to be stressful, I already have so many things to do. I just want out!
  12. What's wrong with no kiss on the first date ..? That's stupid. Especially if he knows more about me than I know about him. Anyway .. to the poster: be as personal as you can. It makes her think shes not just a random person. and its nice.
  13. I think people break up for alot of different reasons. Maybe they just don't like you anymore. I think it's really possible that they need space. Maybe they want to be single and have fun. Maybe the realtionship is stressful. And many more reasons. .
  14. I think the people that seem lucky and seem to have glamorous lives only act that way because theyre confident and strong-willed. They don't let hard things in life stop them from living a happy life. I'm sure that every 'lucky' person isnt very lucky if you could really see what theyve gone through.
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