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  1. Shorty I know how you feel. Not getting answers to your questions is the worst kind of dumping you can get..it's cruel and heartless in my opinion. This happened to me as well, and I STILL kick myself for thinking about him....but damn it hurts. I also resorted to drinking a lot, but all that did was hurt me...and make me do stupid things...like email him repeatedly asking for closure..then getting accusatory and mean...but the truth is he could have made it easier by just being honest. There's nothing I can say to make you feel better. Just more time...and I would suggest attending a few AA meetings. I have and learned it was MUCH more than just drinking I had issues with.
  2. I think that you should tell him that you are NOT going to wait around forever, and then cut off contact. He has left you without giving you ANY time frame as to when he's coming back...that's IF he does. He is assuming you will probably always be there. YOU count too...he has not taken your feelings into consideration....so maybe he DOES need to lose you for REAL. Take care of YOU for a while and you may decide you are better off without him.
  3. Even if he IS sorry...he's still got issues with being honest.I bet he only cried because he got caught!! I think his true colors arelready came through...don't think you will be the one to change him. Better you found out now after only two months....look at this as a sign.
  4. Yes, Scout it was not the best of endings...since then things have changed dramatically. On MY end anyway. Yes, he may not want to hear from me, and he may NOT respond, but that's ok. I won't fall apart because of it. If he does he does ..if not then oh well....I have my answer. My past posts probably do not put me in a very favorable light regarding this guy. I'm not looking for the "green light" in contacting him..I am simply saying I am in a much better place NOW as opposed as I was then....and I DO believe timing is everything with relationships.
  5. Oh boy..we went back and forth for a while. We both had a lot of issues. He ended it the final time though. It's complicated. Haley, thanks for the insightful reply..especially the last part. I know he would not have contacted me even if he wanted to. I know it's not his style. I think my best course of action is to simply wish him a warm Happy Birthday, wish him the best and expect no reply....I'll keep you all posted. Thanks!
  6. You have a good point Beth. It was bad timing. I then moved out of state, and even if he DID attempt to contact me, he couldn't as my email account was cancelled and my numbers disconnected. I truly DID move on. I know there are a lot of NC advocates here. I agree with the reasons we should initially do NC...but how would we know if things can work out if we never risk trying again? I personally believe a long period of NC IS necessary. I know the stats are in favor of maintaining NC, but when do you know it's ok to try again?
  7. Hahahahahhaa SomeGuy..that was AWESOME!!!! I was ready to bust her kneecaps for you!!! LOL
  8. Ok...point taken. I'm not really a fan of playing games. I really WOULD like to wish him a happy birthday...I miss him. I would like to be honest with him to be truthful. I have no problem with telling him I would like him to reconsider a friendship with me again. Part of the reason we had a falling out was because I had a lot of issues I was dealing with last year..that I have finally begun to resolve..thus being in a MUCH better frame of mind. Although I am still not ready for a "relationship" I am willing to try getting to know him again, slowly, as I know he would need time to trust me again. I would like to send him an email telling him this..of course in much better terms.....any advice?
  9. Maybe I should have also asked HOW do you initiate a conversation in asking someone (assuming they are single) if they are willing to give you another chance to be friends...without sounding desperate or pathetic? I am neither...I want to convey that I truly WANT him in my life again, but that I won't fall apart if it doesn't happen.
  10. I would like to get back together eventually. I think I'm strong enough to contact him...but I know it would have to progress slowly again.
  11. Hey forum. I haven't posted here in quite a while. I was wondering what you all thought about sending my ex of 7 months a birthday wish via email. His birthday is at the end of June and there has been No Contact for close to 4 months. I am pretty much over him ut I don't want him to think I haven't moved on either....or that the email implies more than it is. Would most of you respond to a birthday wish from an ex after a period of NC? I just don't want to feel foolish. I am also not exactly sure what to say, aside from "Happy Birthday". Oh , if it helps, I WOULD like to find out how he is doing and to open the lines of communication again, in the least intrusive way. Any advice is appreciated!!
  12. From a female perspective....I think you can....but you can't be blatant about it. You can't just say "ok let's get it on"...you have to be more assertive and confident. That is a turn on ..at least for me. I tend to like guys who are a little cocky and show interest...but also aren't ALL over me. I don;t think you were challenging enough for her..even though you never made a move. You're in that 'friends" category..and the longer you remain there..the less your chances of moving things to another level will happen. Be less available to her....I mean don't be a jerk and stop calling her...just have a life. tell her you have a date.Don't talk to her for hours and hours like a girlfriend does. That's icky I know you think that will piss her off..but it will actually make her see you as more desirable. Trust me on this. She may not blatantly act jealous..but you WILL notice a change in her attitude.
  13. I completely understand Cool.....and you make some very valid points. I agree that Rick shouldn't talk to his ex AS often. I would cut it back...to even once every few weeks, rather than every week. I still agree with his strategy though..he is earning her trust back...by remaining in the background. He isn't forcing himself on her..and from what he says...the contact IS mutual. We ALL have ways we deal with things...and I got a lot of flack for contacting my ex...simply because I told my ex I was dating someone else. There were a few comments about how he would just see it as a "ploy" or not even really care....this type of judgement really bothers me. I would never force MY opinion down someones throat simply because it's not what I agree with. Every situation is different...and some people react to things differently. There is NO blueprint or patent on No Contact..there have not been No Contact experiments on Lab Rats saying THIS IS THE WAY TO DO THINGS!! Initially ..YES No Contact is by far the best thing ..but after the dust settles, anything is possible. Live and let live.....
  14. For the Girl Who's Been "Dissed"... Revision to Gloria Gaynors 'I Will Survive' At first I was afraid, I was petrified, when you said you had 10 inches Lord I almost died, but I'd spent oh so many years just waiting for a man that long, that I grew strong, and I knew that I could take you on. But there you are, another lie, I was ready for a big Mac and you've bought me a French fry, I should have known that it was bull****, just a sad pathetic dream, should have known there was no anaconda lurking in those jeans. Go on now go, walk out the door, don't you promise me 10 inches then turn up with only 4, weren't you a prat to think I wouldn't catch you out, don't you know we're only joking when we say size doesn't count. Chorus: I will survive, I will survive, Cos as long as I have batteries, My sex life's gonna thrive, I will always have good sex with a handful of latex, I will survive, I will survive... hey hey. It took all my self control not to laugh out loud, When I saw your little wiener standing short and proud, But to hell with all your egos and to hell with all your needs, Now I'm saving all my lovin' for a cordless multispeed. Go on now go, walk out the door, don't you promise me 10 inches then turn up with only 4, weren't you a prat to think I wouldn't catch you out, don't you know we're only joking when we say size doesn't count PS......Now, where's a good karaoke spot?
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