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Süsser Tod last won the day on May 4 2006

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  1. Stop thinking about your penis as your only sexual organ, if anything, it is the least effective. Your mind/imagination is the most important one, then your mouth/lips and your hands. Penis is clumsy and doesn't have the same ability you have on your hands and tongue. Think about it, lovemaking is not only stiking in your penis and doing the good old in-out motion. By the way, relax and enjoy. That is the most important. If you focus all of your attention into getting her to orgasm, instead of focusing on pleasure, it won't happen.
  2. It is your last week working there, and it also happens to be the week she is away for vacations, right? Well, what is keeping you from going back after you're done with your work and ask her out?
  3. Famous last words Lets see. Don't drink water for a week. You'll likely die, right? Now, get yourself in a pool and dont' step out for a week. The results won't be as dramatic as dying from dehidratation, but they won't be something too look forward to. My point is, no water, you die, too much water, you also die. But you need water in order to live, right? So what is the basic principle behind this? Balance. If you are suspicios of all men, and never let yourself trust anyone, you'll likely end up single forever. If you trust every guy out there, you'll end up being hurt big time. So? Balance, let things happen, and take your time. Dont rush things, and be safe but also let yourself trust. No one can guarantee that you won't get hurt. If anything, you'll get hurt again (who said it was easy? If it was easy, then there wouldn't be any fairy tales). This is about balance, and the risk you can accept.
  4. Well, guess I'm not dating a virgin anymore, as my gf is not a virgin anymore... Yes, well, after a long talk it finally happened. Now I'm dating a sexaholic, jejeje, well, I'm exagerating but I guess she had to get over her fears about sex. I truly hope she didn't lied to me about that, or it is going to backfire on me bigtime. But, so far, so good. It seems that it really got the relationship to a new, higer, level. We'll see how everything goes. Well, yes, in fact I noticed that while I learn a lot in here, reading other people posts, my mind starts playing games on me. And my mind is one thing I've never been able to deal with, so right now I don't want to give it new ideas. Maybe I'll start posting more, as my mind has settled down by now, I had a really rough time a month ago.
  5. Yeah, I'm seeing here the same pattern is all over the relationship. She is way too selfish and selfcentered. The other day we were making out, I masturbated her and as soon as she had an orgasm, clothes came back. Then I heard the good old "hug me"... Same thing goes in other aspects of the relationship. For example, she had to make her schedule for this semester. Obviously, she didn't asked me what I thought would be better for US, what would make things easier so we could spend more time together. So here I am adjusting my schedule to hers... Last weekend I only saw her for like 3 hours on Saturday night at her house, we watched a movie. Didn't spend any time with her early Saturday, nor Sunday because she had too much work to do. She choosed all of that, and left me for whatever spare time she had... OK, I'm getting angry while I type this. Guess the relationship already went south.
  6. Believe her at her word??? What does that mean? Yes, I would feel like the dumbest guy on earth if after waiting for her two years, once she is done with college, finds out I'm not what she is looking for in a guy (as her perspective about life may change). However, that is only speculation, it may not happen and we can end up happily married...
  7. Yep, that is what I understand from all she has said. But when I confront her with that, she denies it all. Even worse, from other conversations, the timeframe for her to consider marriage is more about 4 to 5 years... It was something like "I won't move in with you before I've had my own place" So, that is about, year and a half before she gets out of university. Then about 6 months before she can afford her own place. We are at two years from now, if everything goes perfect, and then at least a couple of years living on her own place, and we got to the four years... Four years from now I'll be 31, almost 32. Once I told her, maybe you're not ready for this sort of relationship, an adult relationship. And she went ranting on how the guys of her age (22) only care about getting drunk, getting high and having sex. By the way, she is an intellectual girl, almost never goes out, spends a lot of time studying, etc.
  8. Do you want her e-mail address and phone number so you can give her advise on how to keep her virginity longer? Or do you want her mail address so you can send her a greeting card? Oh, and wouldn't you like my address so you can send me some dog poo? Thanks, but if I were looking for some abstinency advocate I could walk to the church that is two blocks away from home, or I could go by the CatholicNet office that is on my way to work.
  9. We've been a couple for 5 months. Basically she said "A pregnancy would really screw up things at this point". Soooo.... That means she wants to be done with college, and have some financial security before being able to stand the risk of a pregnancy. Also she wants to be sure she'll be forever with the guy she loses her virginity. OK, that means, year and a half for her to be out of university. Plus at least a couple of years for her to have a stable job and be able to afford a place. Now, here is the twist. For her to be able to afford a pregnancy, she would have to be married, or the guy to be able to help her with money. She doesn't want to be a stay at home mom, but she is afraid (with reason) that she may lose her job because of a pregnancy. Obviously, no job = no home (how would she pay the rent?), etc. Plus the "forever" part, that not even after marriage is guaranteed... So the "reason" for her not to have sex is pregnancy. Then look back to where she would like to be before taking that risk. Does that sound to you a little bit like, "I want to wait until I'm married"???
  10. First of all, you've got to accept yourself and realize it was not your fault. Once you're in peace with the past, you'll be able to look into the future.
  11. To be honest, sex is a big deal for humans. I could have gone through this five years ago, when I was a virgin myself. I didn't knew better and had no trouble keeping my penis inside my pants. At this point, where I know what I'm missing, no, I don't think I can hold on for much longer.
  12. Nope, it isn't either, it was a lie. Basically, he wasn't that much into you as he is into the new girl. Obviously, he is as much into the new girl as to commit. Live and learn. Don't get yourself stuck in a relationship where you feel somethign is not right, and most important, a relationship that is not fullfilling to you.
  13. Well, not that it is likely that I run into another anytime soon... But I'll make sure I ask before I get into another relationship, if the current one comes to an end. She said she didn't wanted to wait until marriage, and that virginity is not important to her. Not important, my behind... See, she is so afraid of a pregnancy that for her to have sex, there are many conditions that have to be met, from the relationship to the economic and professional standpoints. So many requirements that they would be hard to achieve even after marriage! So she said she dind't wanted to wait until marriage, but she does want to have all this requirements fullfilled that a couple would be lucky to have even after marriage... Yes, I got trapped in a sexless relationship... And it is FRUSTRATING! At this point I don't want to be her first one, it even scares me. It is so much responsibility to be all what she expects from a couple for her to have sex that I don't want that responsibility. I wish she had already had sex with someone else, I truly wish she weren't a virgin. Now it is for me like going to a strip club. Get teased all night, don't get any. Next day, same thing, tease and more tease but no sex. And that has been like that for the past 5 months. I'm getting to the point of asking her not to even try to make out, as it makes it even more frustrating, and the frustration only builds up. I tried to explain it to her like this. Think of a relationship as a pizza with a twist. A relationship without sex is like a pizza without cheese. One good day, you get cheese on your pizza, and you love a real pizza with bread, tomato sauce and cheese! Then you get into a different relationship, and obviously, you expect the whole deal, the pizza WITH cheese, but instead you get a cheeseless pizza. How would you feel about it? Having known the real deal I thought I would be able to stand the cheeseless pizza for a while. Now I'm getting tired of it and really looking forward for a real adult relationship, with all of what a real adult relationship involves. I feel trapped in a "sweaty hand" highschool relationship. When I'm with her, we both build up a lot of sexual energy, and sometimes there is some sort of release. Now, releasing some energy doesn't mean you're satisfied. Its like having that cheeseless pizza, yes, you may not feel hungry anymore, but wouldn't you wish you had the pizza with cheese? I'm getting to a point where I might break it off with her before cheating.
  14. I'm not really sure what is your point. Are you complaining about being a virgin, or are you complaining about being unable to find someone worthy of having sex with?
  15. By the way, sent her a message telling her that I could make it today or tomorrow after work, that was at 9:30, she hasn't replied so I guess she freaked out or she is not that interested. Guess it doesn't really matter, I'm not in such a hurry to meet her.
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