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  1. yes... there is definitely a problem, . YOu can get advice, and consoled by ppl online, which will make u feel alot better, but to have someone there to support you and help u understand why this is happening,...will benefit you the most...and thats with proper counselling Altho I understand why you wanted to retaliate and protect yourself from the 'abuse' from her... the problem arises when you blacked out and woke up strangling her... thats abit unhealthy and I would hate to see you hurt in the midst of alla this... good luck 2 u... peace, cookie
  2. When relationships end, we always have a difficult tyme letting go, especially if we felt deeply connected and our emotions got involved. The hardest thing in letting go, and moving on is when you sit and think and RE think abt all the wonderful tymes u had 2gether, and somehow feelings start to resurface when ur lonely especially. Bad relationships usually dont get any better once we make a 2nd, 3rd or 10th attempt to rekindle the love. Its good for a short period of tyme, and then the cycle repeats itself. And thats really miserable, and surely you don;t want that? I know it sounds harsh, but its probably better if you just keep focusing on yourself and making an attempt at moving forward in a positive direction in your life. Find things to do to keep urself occupied so that you won;t always have him on ur mind. Work out, get a new hair style... make urself feel pretty and refreshed by meeting ppl that can help fill that void of lonliness, and before u know it,...he may become a good memory of the past... but all in all,...never settle for less than what you know you deserve when it comes to the opposite sex. same goes for guys too.. peace, cookie
  3. yes, theres definitely a chance she could have gotten pregnant, but since her period came on...lets hope for the best that she is not pregnant. You really have 2 be careful in these instances, for many reasons. The last thing you two want is an unexpected and unplanned pregnancy.... Just dont over analyze the situation, and be careful until the next tyme she is to go on her period... peace, cookie
  4. I would suggest going back to the place you got the piercing from to get a cleaning solution. I had my belly button pierced about 8 years ago, and its great now. For the first 6 months or so, I had a few problems, but that was because my pants or whatever would rub against it,..and making it irritated as a result... Don't let it close, because you got it 4 a reason. Just keep it clean with the solution they should have provided, and make sure you dry it out with a q tip after your showers. Sooner than you know it... everything will be ok... peace, cookie
  5. awww...that was absolutely beautiful. YOu seem like such a gentleman, and she is one very lucky girl because not too many guys put alot of time in preparing an engagement like that to be so special and involve all of the family... congratulations, and I hope that your future is just beautful.. peace 3cookies
  6. When someone you love decides he or she wants out, after establishing a sense of togetherness,,...can be a hard road to travel. I've learned that everybody that says "I love you",...doesnt mean it from their heart, and the words are over used and abused without sincerity while saying it... Since he wants to leave, and he has indicated that he has other things he must focus on...give him that respect and try to understand that he really feels strongly about it, without trying to come up with 50 million other reasons why he may have left, or if another girl was involved, or you would never get any sleep and it would turn your world upside down, which im sure has already happened... In the meantime, if you feel as if you must cry, go ahead...its healthy for you to let out those feelings of confusion and maybe even abandonment, but dont dwell on trying to get him to stay against his will. That is a lot of time to invest into a relationship, only to find urself walking alone once again...but weather he is no longer in love,...or need space as he indicated,...try your best to stay focused on positive thoughts that will help carry you thru this heartbreak. Its gonna be tough...but we all go through it... peace cookies
  7. Communication is what the two of you need to do at this point. Since you do realize that she needs a bit of space, the best thing for you to do is back off, and give her that space. Sometimes space and distance in a relationship can build the relationship up, or break it down if you two are not communicating during this time... Its not that she needs a life besides you, to put it in better terms, there are other things in her life that she needs to focus on, and in all acutality...by spending time apart, and if the couple are truly in love,...the distance slowly increases the depth of your feelings in a beautiful and promising way... If you detect that during this "space", she is pulling away...im sure a red flag will go up in ur head, that the relationship is not in such good standings as you envisioned it once being. Some ppl need space as a easy way out, and slowly drift apart, and when that happens, altho it breaks your heart, and you feel as if you cant go on...its not healthy to chase after them,...or force someone to love you. Love isnt forced. Don't put urself thru that extra pain. Love flows as naturally as the breeze flowing thru palm trees... Just remember that true love is unconditional and it doesnt walk out on you with short notice...or else it isnt classified as Love... peace cookies
  8. Well, its good that he was honest enough with you to let u know that he does like the other girl., now you dont have to wander if its true or not...but it seems to me as if he's unsure of what he wants exactly, and maybe seeing both of you to determine who he would like to see on a long term basis... When I'm in a relationship with a guy, I would prefer that we both remain monogomous with one another. Some ppl enjoy seeing more than one person for personal gratification, or even to boost their ego,...but if I am seeing someone and he chooses this path, I must separate myself from his company altogether. I personally dont think that ppl who choose to remain monogomous, should have to deal with a partner that wants more than one partner... Its all about personal choices you make,...if it makes u uncomfortable, please discuss your feelings with him, or he will go along with the idea that you both accept the other,...and eventually when you feel as if you dont want to tolerate it any further,...it will be difficult for you to get your point accross since you allowed it for so long. Weigh out your options, and decide weather or not this guy is really worth your time, or if he is as interested in you as he lead you to believe. If he says he is,...all you can do is trust his word...and wait to see what happens... good luck.. peace cookies
  9. that is a really confusing situation to be in,...for shure. It makes me feel uneasy being in a relationship when one day his love may be flowing steadily and then suddenly,...he seems to have pulled away. In relationships, both parties either want to make it work, or they dont . Showing love to one another, on a consistent basis is what builds a strong foundation for a lasting relationship. but, dont call urself an idiot, because sometimes one person just cares far more than the other,...but there does come a time when you will come to realize when enough is enough... I cant tell you one way or the other, if you should pursue it further or not...but deep within ur heart, im sure you already know the answer and if the relationship will be worth the wait... peace cookies
  10. IM a sucker for love, ...true love..and if you love her as much as you say you do,...why would you let it go, without first finding out just how she feels?... It could be mutual, but speaking from a girl's perspective,...she may be afraid of you rejecting her initiating contact, and have probably lost hope in all possibilities of reconcilliation. If the breakup was not due to infidelity, or either party becoming interested elsewhere,...then Id say at least make an attempt to communicate how you both may still feel for one another... what could you lose? You're already apart, the worst that could happen is you remain apart but only ...with confirmation that its not meant to be, or you may just rekindle the spark with a much more intense level of love for one another... dont give up that easily, if you feel a remote chance of love still alive between u two... and come back and let us know how it progresses... peace cookies
  11. well...anything could be possible. I wouldn't jump the gun just that quickly in coming to a conclusion however. Just give her a little time to respond, it may be possible that she doesn't have internet connection temporarily, and just havent received the email yet... or it could be that she has a boyfriend backhome, but regardless its pretty early on, and no solid feelings have established between u two..so you wont be terribly hurt as a result... just give it a little time, ..and im sure she will surface online soon enough... peace cookies
  12. It's difficult to remain friends with sumone that you are completely in love with,...and it will be even more paiful, to reach out to him, and he doesn't respond, or show no signs of making an attempt to contact you, when its as simple as picking up the phone just to say, "hello"...to bring a smile on ur face and make ur heart melt for the rest of the day... As hard as it sounds,...which is even more painful to do, it may be best to just stop contacting him altogether, since he seemed to have moved on. Forcing yourself to move away from a love that once made you see life thru a rose colored glass, can bring you many tears and sleepless nights but, I personally wouldn't like to look foolish by persuing a man that clearly isn't interested, or has moved on elsewhere... peace cookies
  13. yes, I would say a bit of distance will help you think and see a much clearer perspective of your friendship with her. When ppl let us know that they want to be just friends, its a strong indicator that they are not as into you as you are into them., but we just want to pursue the love we feel, and try to make it surface into reality. This is the worst thing we can do to ourselves, by fighting against the grains...and wind up hurt when it could have been avoided by taking a step back b4 getting ourselves in heart throbbing trouble... peace cookies
  14. If he suggested that you not keep in contact because he is getting back with his X,..then I think that its important to honour his wish out of respect for his relationship, and yes...im sure it will hurt like never before... When a guy says hes gonna call, I think a woman takes it to heart, because she has a high level of interest in him, and just looks forward to the phone call. When they don't call, it leaves a woman with doubts, which doesn't nourish the trust in a relationship, infact, may contribute to dimish it, if anything. All guys are not like this, however. The problem that alot of us women face is that, we see signs when a guy is truly not interested, but we have developed such strong feelings, we tend to overlook their subtle way of letting us know theyre just not as interested as we are. This is one thing we must learn to accept sooner than later, because it will lessen the recovery time from pain... possibly, according to just how deeply you love him... good luck in ur situation... peace, cookies
  15. hey there.... well it truly is a delicate situation when you fall in love with a man and his mother is involved. I always respect a man that loves his mother, however it can spoil love from truly blossoming to its fullest capacity. There is nothing wrong with you for lending her the money, or expressing your love to him, by caring for him when he needed you. Thats a sign of a woman that has a loving and caring heart, and dont think that you did anything wrong or be so terribly down on yourself because of it. I am the same way. Some guys take a woman's kindness for granted, while others do not. Its situations like these that can make you lose complete hope in ever being able to fully give yourself to a man, but just try to always look at failed relationships in a positive light, regardless of how hard it may be, or the pain that just wont subside in ur heart because of how he just took off. YOu will always have questions and wander how could a man love you so much ,and just take off, but know that you are not alone and it does happen to many women. This has got to be the worst pain in the world, but my advice is to pray and ask God to help relieve your heart of the pain, because if it was from God,..he wouldn't walk away from you if he felt you were an important part of completing his life...and hopefully you will be able to move forward... Good luck and just dont give up on love, and keep on smiling and being yourself even if you fight back tears behind the smile. It is definitely a humbling experience... peace cookies
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