Jump to content

oneshygal

Members
  • Posts

    48
  • Joined

oneshygal's Achievements

Contributor

Contributor (5/14)

  • First Post
  • Collaborator
  • Conversation Starter
  • Week One Done
  • One Month Later

Recent Badges

1

Reputation

  1. i was in the same situation as you. The guy I had a crush on is in the top 1% of the most outgoing people I have ever met....that is around everyone else but me. We also work together but in different departments. I observed him easily joking around and talking to girls of all types. He would walk by my office and always sneak a peek in at me several times a day and we had several flirty eye contact moments & smiles but no words were exchanged. I finally caught him at a moment where just the two of us were alone and I tried to strike up a conversation. I was shaking like a leaf inside but tried to conceal it. The conversation was brief and he seemed kinda caught off guard. I don't know if he had picked up that maybe I had a crush on him, but now he will avoid eye contact at all costs and will no longer glance in my office as he walks by....he darts by me like I don't exist. Bummer!!!! Sorry that this is not really advice....just felt compelled to share my story since mine was similar to yours and your posting really hit home with me. I really hope your situation ends up differently!! Best of luck!!
  2. Well, I'm talking about subtle flirtations, i wouldn't be over the top. But just out of curiosity...what would you consider to be "crossing the line"???
  3. A girl is giving a lot of signs that she is interested in you, however, you are not interested in return? Would you still be flattered that she finds you attractive? Or would you try to avoid her so that she doesn't continue making eye contact? I guess I'm trying to ask if you would continue a friendly relationship with her, or would you get uncomfortable with her flirtations and start getting annoyed? I'm not talking about over the top flirting, just enough to let him know you are interested. Thoughts?
  4. I have a crush on a guy and I'm asking the same thing in another thread about guys. He is extremely outgoing and quite loud, but will give me one or two word answers the 2 times I've tried to speak to him. I'm just trying to figure out if that means he's interested or completely UNINTERESTED. As for me, when I tried to talk to him it was extremely uncomfortable for me, but I tried to fight through it. My heart was racing, my hands were shaking and I tried to sound as coherent as possible. So yes, for me it's easier to talk to men i'm not interested in.
  5. this is good...very good responses. So what would he be doing if he wasn't interested....or if he thought I was just plain ol' weird? Could that be a reason for him to avoid me in the situations I described? Would he continue to look over at me and look to see if I'm looking at him? Also, let's just say you WERE NOT interested in a girl, would you still be flattered that she is trying to talk to you even if you thought she might have a crush on you? Or would you avoid all areas where you might happen to run into her so that she isn't encouraged??
  6. thanks for the replies! Can you comment on the "avoidance" part? that's what really confuses me! I keep reading posts that if a guy is interested he will try to get closer and initiate conversation with you, so why would he avoid an opportunity to exchange another "hello" or make some more eye contact? There was no one else around but us, yet he quickly fled the scene when he saw me coming. When guys do this do they realize it makes the girl feel like he doesn't want any contact with her? Or are they oblivious to this? When he did this it made me nervous to try to talk to him again because I don't want to bother him. Thx!
  7. Hey guys- Do you consider yourself a generally confident guy around most women but have a certain girl who for some reason makes you shy? There's this guy I'm interested in who is outgoing and boisterous with men and most girls but seems kinda nervous when he sees me coming his way. He usually speaks loudly, but with the few words I've managed to pull out of him I can notice that he speaks softer. I can see him glancing at me out of the corner of my eye when he walks by me, but when we get within a few feet of each other he will hardly ever look me in the eye. Also, the other day we walked right by each other and exchanged "hello's" but then 30 minutes later we found ourselves in the same situation from about 30 feet away....he was standing there looking at something and looked up to see me coming and instantly turned to go avoid the situation. Does this sound like he's shy or uninterested? The constant glances and sharp turns of his head when I look up to catch him are not easy to decipher! Thx!
  8. This guy at work always walks past my office and peeks in to make eye contact a lot. We will hold each others gaze until he completely passes. My mind is going crazy trying to interpret his eye contact. I'm guessing he could be thinking a few things: 1) she's really cute 2) why is the weirdo staring at me? 3) let's walk by her again I can get an ego boost when she stares me down! hahaha! If you guys were noticing alot of eye contact from a female coworker you were not interested in,would you keep staring? Or would you try to avoid looking at her as to not lead her on? Here's some more info...he once said "hi" to me and I froze, he then another time stopped in front of my door to ask a stupid question and I froze yet again. We do not work in the same department and his office is in the back corner by itself so there's no way for me to do a so-called "drive by" to try anything else. Thanks for your opinions!
  9. i totally freeze when the cute guy at work walks by and peeks into my office. The way my door is set up there is only a split second to catch him, but i always notice that he peeks in to glance at me whenever he walks by. There is enough time to make some nice eye contact when he walks by if i'm looking in that direction, but not enough time to crack a smile at him and let him know "he" is the reason for the smile. Otherwise, I'd have to sit there with a stupid grin plastered on my face until he walks by and then he probably would miss the point that i was smiling at him, he would think i'm smiling at someone else. One day i caught him walking head on towards me and and gave him a dimply smile which he reciprocated. The next day he stopped by the door to ask if the guy in the next office was in, maybe taking a hint from the smile, but when he asked all i could muster was "uuuuuuhhhhhhh". It was so embarrassing. He totally took me off guard. Would you guys out there take all of this as a sign as a girl not being interested...no smiles, the embarrassing "uuuuhhhh" even if there was always nice eye contact? I don't want to give him that impression.
  10. so my office crush always walks by my office and sneaks a peek at me. I want to believe he is glancing at me because he thinks I'm cute, but then again, i'm also not that confident and I'm wondering if it's just that he's looking at me to see if I'm looking at him. Kinda an ego boost thing, maybe? There is no doubt about the eye contact between us, but if you guys notice a girl makes a lot of eye contact with you would you try to avoid her if your not interested? Or would you continue to walk by and just try to see if she is checking you out without any real interest on your part? If it was me, i would avoid eye contact if I wasn't interested in a guy who made a lot of eye contact so that I do not lead the guy on, but then again, that's just me. What do you guys think?
  11. My crush at work is making me sick to my stomach. The past two mornings, I have woken up with a huge pit in my stomach and I'm nervous about seeing him today. I'm nervous about how my hair and clothes will look, will i say or do something stupid, will i realize he is dating another, etc. I know it's crazy, I realize that, but I don't know how to stop it. I know people will tell me to go and talk to him, but he's tried 3 times to start up a conversation with me and I completely freeze every time. Once he speaks, I get really anxious, my stomach drops and I can feel myself shaking. I try to reason with myself, but it's not working. I'm hoping something you guys have to say can actually turn these feelings around for me. thanks for your help!
  12. I'm very interested in a guy at work who is very confident and outgoing which always seem to be characteristics of players. Since it's a work situation, I don't want to fall into the office gossip mill of carrying on with a "player". He walks by my office alot and seems shy when he tries to ask me a question, but he is completely opposite with everyone else. What kind of hints are there to look for to find out if he's date worthy???
  13. I've been seeing a great guy for the past month on a casual basis. We have slept together about 10 times, however, although he orgasms each time, he has never even tried to get me to orgasm. He doesn't touch me "down there" or anything. Do some men just not even think about this? It's starting to become an issue for me....but i don't want to create an awkward situation in asking for it.....and i'm not sure i should even HAVE to ask for it. Thoughts?
  14. oh...and by the way, he's 26 years old. That's old enough to know better, in my opinion.
  15. why do guys ignore you when they find out you have a crush on them. my friend RARELY speaks to me anymore and if he does it's very short and kinda rude. He will literally turn his back on me or leave the room when I enter. I mean, I'm not in his face at all! I am very pleasant and nice when he comes around but he acts like I don't exist. Is he embarrassed
×
×
  • Create New...