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  1. \\ anu1560!! *pops a cork on a bottle of bubbly*
  2. 30 seconds to Mars - nice one Beautifully said - I know where you are coming from. The gut wrenching nights I spent - the realization I would probably never see him again - the knowledge that if I found someone new, yes I may love them, it may be rewarding - but it would be different. That difference is painful. And yes - the nights are UGLY. For me it helped that he didn't really have all the electronic pleasantries that are so common now. He was a poor boy - so no computer, no cell phone. No car and he left my circle of friends. I was cut off bigtime. So I was forced to get through it and got through that first month flawlessly. It really helped having not one single trigger. Keep somewhere in the back of your mind, pride in yourself for this ability to love and trust so deeply. Allow yourself the right to love again when that time comes. Be torn up - be angry - be frustrated. You deserve to Josh. You paid some dues in this relationship. I know it's hard to believe - but she may be going through the same thing. She really could. I don't know her but the girl side to her I know - and we do feel guilt for the fights we are in. We have pride too and can be a victim to our pride. I must tell you again how well you put this whole experience into words - you have a way with them. I'm glad you're here. And yes, I'm a radio DJ at my local FM station - for the last 14 years.
  3. Woiw I love Chevelle - I played them on my show last night! You are doing great I think even though you feel like crap. There is so much sense and depth in what you say. Hang in there Josh - you certainly set a good example for others in this situation.
  4. I think you really have it together Josh. Everything you've said makes sense. You are really strong - the strength is just going to increase each day. I'm sorry you broke your ankle! Did you guys win, at least?
  5. messenger ((HUGS)) - I'm glad she called you when she said she would. I hope this has freed you to some degree.
  6. Wow lexion - that's great to hear - thank you for posting!!!
  7. Wow - powerful posts from everyone today! What amazing results I'm seeing. Thank you everyone - your hard work shows and is helping others right at this moment. Congrats gee!! Your revelation on God's power and decision to adopt a child really shows me you are going to come out of this just fine - meet that soulmate and find that happiness - this is thrilling to hear! And I am doing well - THANKS TO MY A-LIST NC GROUP! You guys have done all the work and it lifts my spirits everyday!!!!! Great post from Getmeback - thought provoking debate here - try this suggestion if you are struggling with thoughts of the ex - it may work for you! -
  8. LilBear - try opening your heart to dating others? If you're not ready, I'd just live life and stop counting. You've done NC perfectly.
  9. Getmeback - hey, you said it yourself!! You aren't really feeling any pain regarding him now - that's an effect of 30 days!! I'd be feeling good if I were you LOVELOVELOVE LOVE that you have so much going on!!! Hope everyone sees your example!!! WONDERFUL JOB!! (( HUGS ))
  10. Congrats to I r i s h J a x !!!!!!!!! DAY 30!!!! Well, 31 today. Wow another graduate - no 2 graduates because L i l B e a r made it to day 60!!!!!! *pops a streamer bomb and watches everything fly* Great job the both of you!! You are on your way!!
  11. 30 days has to to with a biological clock we have within. I respect that people want to do it their own way and CAN - but remember the month long process is a natural, scientific detox. It levels your system. That's why it works. Please don't come to the thread and discredit it because it works. It's foolish to do so. That said absolutely do NC/LC in the way you want. No one can make you do things - you have the best judgement since it is your life. You are the master of your own destiny and deserve to be in control your own healing. Sam - I'm glad you are getting more understanding of depression and what it means. I'm so thrilled you are seeing things objectively now - a huge difference from when you first started!! Your growth will continue and thank you for being a major contributor/supporter on this thread!
  12. Mustang - the reason not talking to your ex for a month can be helpful for communication is because they have a reason to miss you. Trying to talk too soon results in what you got - a resistance and coldness. Again if you are going to communicate with your ex - it's not about NC it's about LC - and the best way for LC to work is to take your needs out of the picture for awhile and concentrate on respectfulness, taking cues through body language and having gaps in between discussions. It might seem weird when you were so intimate - but if an ex is keeping you at arms length, that's what they are trying to tell you : "I'm willing to speak to you - but this is a different relationship now. Please respect that." gee - you snuck up on me with graduating! LOL - Congrats to our new graduate gee - completing 30 days!!!! Glad you are feeling the feects and on your way to moving on!! Yay - lexion went to a movie! I'm so glad to hear that! Artop - thank you for putting it so clearly. I agree with you and hope others will take what you said seriously.
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