kesea

just don't call him ever again. there is no way to repair a relationship (and not even worth it unless you're married or have a kid) that has gone to one person being so rude to the other. Even if you were to tak him back after he treated you that way, it would be rewarding bad behavior and asking "can I please have some more". If you made some mistakes, just be glad you didn't make them on "the one", use this for the learning experience it is, and move on.

I wouldn't confront him about it, it will only give him the opportunity to "explain" and quite frankly there is no explanation. Plus it will make things even more awkward and uncomforable than they already are. I would just leave him and just tell him you're not "into" him anymore. One mistake ppl always make is feeling they owe someone a detailed, honest explanation for why they are breaking up with them. Heck, I used to make the same mistake myself. I can tell you what will happen if you try to talk to him about it. He will say it's no big deal and charm you into giving him another chance. Try to convince you that things are not as bad as they seem. Only, the problems will only get worse from there, your doubts and concerns will only grow and you will think of him differently from that point on, and always be suspicious. So why put yourself and even him through that? Let him be happy and go find someone who doesn't care if he has naked picture of his friends, sister (LOL), or whoever. His weirdness need not be YOUR problem anymore and I wouldn't recommend staying in a dysfunctional relationship because it will make YOU disfunctional. Get out now!

Guys will NEVER respect a girl who takes them back after treating them badly. Plus it rewards bad behavior so it is just like asking for MORE. That is what is happening here. I would forget about him, not make that same mistake again, and move on with your life. Hopefully your sister is on board and will stop talking to him too.

A wise man once said "a child would rather be FROM a broken home than IN a broken home". So it is good that you are thinking about more than yourself in making your decision bc your child should come first. If this isn't something that can be resolved in the marriage (which for the child's sake, would be the first option) the next best option is separation. But when the child asks someday why did you take me away from my daddy I don't know if "bc he was looking at porn and taking to women online even tho he was not meeting them" is gonna cut it. The child could end up resenting and pulling away from you after already feeling abandoned by their father. A lot to consider here in your decision.

old habits don't die young. He may have agreed to not look at porn anymore but don't be shocked when you find out he has started the habit up again. It's only a matter of time before it becomes an issue again.

Regardless of what any of us say or think on here, YOU feel very strongly about all of this. And regardless of the facts or what he says, it doesn't change how you FEEL. "Pedophile" is a very strong word and I wouldn't recommend marrying anyone you could associate that word with. Whether it pertains to past, present, or future actions! I would try to find someone who you can only say positive things about and nothing so negative about. Sometimes life hands you signs and you just have to follow your instincts and intuition on things, and trust that you are following the right course in life. If you are here asking for advice, it sounds like there is an alarm going off in your head. Listen to it. Lots of guys over 18 sleep with girls under 18, so if it is something that is important to YOU, maybe you should add it to things you look or ask a guy before you get serious with them. And don't settle for someone who doesn't meet your criteria. Whether this particular criteria is such that someone might say is too strict doesn't matter, it is your life, your partner, and your right to be happy and find someone whose morals and actions in life match yours. That someone might have a criteria on their list that doesn't mean anything to you just the same. And don't feel bad about the decision to leave him if you do, be confident in your decisions always because your instincts are YOURS and in that way they are never wrong.

I feel the same way When none of your relationships worked, especially the ones you tried so hard and wanted to work so bad, it is hard to think about even taking a risk again with your heart. It sucks that we just never know or have any predictablility what is going to happen in a relationship.

Four years isn't a lot... But I think that applies more when a guy is like 20 or 21 and the girl is maybe 15 or 16. Or 30 and 26 for example. I'm only one opinion, but if you are looking for a long term relationship with her, keep in mind that she is still pretty much a baby and has a lot of growing to do. My main feeling is that she is too young in general, regardless of how old you are

I am 24 and have slept with 4 guys. I thought I would be married now, and I feel so bad that I slept with 7 guys and not one worked out. Most times, I trusted them when I found out later they were lying to me. I feel so embarrased that the number is so high. The fourth guy I slept with was abusive and called me a " * * * *" for having slept with the other three and not having stayed in those relationships or marrying them. The reason the relationships ended was that the guys were not nice people with good morals, and I didn't take enough time to get to know them before taking the relationship to the next level. Am I considered a " * * * *"? I will tell my future husband honestly how many guys I have been with, but I don't know if he'll think less of me. Your opinions? O and btw I have NEVER had a "one night stand".