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  1. I think that you need to get this off of your chest and talk to her about this problem. It is a real problem- you two need ALONE time. Just sit her down and talk to her, but be prepared-- you might not like what she's about to say..
  2. I think that anytime you are starting to feel anything unsettling in a relationship you should talk to your partner about it. The person that you are with should be someone that you can go to and talk to about anything, and why would a topic on your relationship be any different?
  3. I think that anytime the penis enters any part of your body you are no longer a virgin. If you are trying to avoid loosing your viginity just avoid all sex.. oral, anal... all of it.
  4. kskm

    Whoa

    Thank you all for the responces. I went ahead and told him about what happened and he called her to talk to her about it telling her that there is no need to contact me again, she's said what she wanted to say. He also appologized, but I told him there was no need to, he didn't do anything and definitally can't control her actions... or emotions for that matter. I won't be calling her.... Ever. She apparently does not like me or wish to get along with someone that will be living with her daughter, and that is fine. I don't want to make "friends" with her- but I didnt' want to be enemies..... well I don't think we are enemies, although she may look at me that way... I don't look at her like that. If there ever is a time that we can have peace I would love it, until then I will keep my distance... Thank you all. Sorry my responce is so late I have been out of town!!
  5. I don't think that you did anything wrong. You didn't intentionally go over there to speak to her mom about your relationship with her daughter. But her Mom doesn't need to be mad at her daughter for cheating on you and thowing away your relationship. She could be dissappointed, but it's not her life. So they shouldn't be fighting with each other because of that anyways. Don't listen to your ex. Don't pick up even if she does call have someone else answer it and explain that you don't want to have any contact with her.
  6. I wouldn't pay. If you were going with just her then that would be a different story.. this isn't a date- it's a few people getting together to see a movie.
  7. kskm

    Whoa

    My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for a year now and we built a house together it'll be done in a few months. His ex wife (they have been divorced for about 2 years)and I have never spoken to each other... I don't wish to be her friend- but I don't want to be her enemy. They have a child together (a 3 year old little girl) We will soon be moving in together and their daughter will be coming and staying with us on the weekends and such... I adore her... Today while I was at work she contacted me- I have no idea how she got my cell phone number- she said " Don't you know what you've done to my family you **** *****" I didn't even know how to react- she caught me completely off guard so I said nothing... absolutely nothing. Once I heard who it was I was stunned. Why would this woman contact me at work to curse me out? So I hung up.. and now am up late thinking about what I should have said. I am also thinking about calling her back, I do have her number and telling her that she shouldn't be mad at me. They were done long before I was in the picture.. If she has issues it should be directed at him. I understand that she maybe hurt because she could have thought in the back of her mind that she get him back? If I am going to be around her daughter I don't want it to be a war. I want no drama. I don't want her saying that Samantha (the daughter) can't come over if I am there- this hasn't happened but we haven't moved yet and I feel like this is a possibility. Legally it won't happen but for her to even say it to him would break his heart and mine. If I called her I don't know what I would say... so I probably shouldn't call. I just have this nagging thing in my head because I think that I should have stood my ground when she called and said what I thought. But like I said before- I don't want drama or to make enemys with her. So I guess my question is should I contact her and tell her that I think it was inappropriate to contact me at work and that if she is mad at me then she needs to sit down and really think about where this anger really needs to be directed to- if anyone? Or let it go. Let her be satisfied that I was at a lose for words and feel like she has one over me. Maybe it's not that big of a deal but for some reason it's keeping me awake. Any feedback would be greatly appreciated! Sorry for the random thoughts
  8. I went through kind of the same situation, except reversed. I was raped about a year and a half ago, and the next relationship that I got into he took his time opening me up, was a completely gentleman, gorgeous, intelligent- guy I could have spent the rest of my life with. And then one day I realized how serious our relationship got and I freaked out. I all of the sudden needed "my space". He was understanding, and completely there for me, from afar. I started to go through therapy and he was there in the beginning and then he started to drift off. Making my process even harder... I didn't want him to go away, and I didn't want to be apart from him, but I for some reason had to- I know it makes no sense. I was tore apart even more when he started to drift. We still talk to this day, and everything could be the same.... but we are now both involved with other people. I guess my point in all of that was to say, if you truly want to be with her stick around, through the therapy and all of the aftermath. It might be hard but if you want her it'll all be worth it in the end. Rape does such a number on someone's mentality.. Good Luck.
  9. I probably shouldn't be posting on this one... I have done a lot of modeling. It's been my career since I was 14, so going on 8 years now. I have done a lot of print work (bathing suits, makeup, jewelry that kind of stuff), and a lot of art work (art magazines- totally nude) and last year I did Playboy. Every person defines being "sl^tty" or being a "sl^t" in different ways. I consider a sl^t to be someone, male or female, that sleeps around with many different people not really caring about them, or even knowing their names. Just having sex to have sex...... just because a girl is in Playboy doesn't mean that they've "slept around" so I don't consider it sl^tty. Others may think that girls like me are sl^ts because they believe that your body is for you and your significant other ONLY to see. That is their opinion, and they have every right to think that. But if I cared about what every single person thought of me in this world I wouldn't have time to do anything else. As long as you are happy with you and where you are and what you are doing in life.. that's all that matters.
  10. The real question that you need to be asking yourself is what do you want to do? If you are wanting to move on then the "cookie cutter" answer- no contact- works well because it gives you space and time to think about what you want and need, time to grow and learn from your mistakes.. gives you time to breath... I tried to take the "nice" road with my ex-of 5 years- and it kept getting me back to the same place, he thought that I was "leading him on" through being nice, and answering his calls, and answering the door whenever he came over. So when I decided that I really did want to move on I did no contact that it worked. Now that it's been a year and a half we can go to lunch and have normal conversations and be friends without having to worry about leading each other on. I truly learned a lot about myself during that time, and I think that you shouldn't put no contact out of your mind.
  11. It could go either way. Best thing to do is say; I am interested in the seafood place, why don't you meet me there and we can have dinner That is of corse if you want to have dinner with her. I think that she left it open for a reason- she is probably scared to ask you to dinner yourself, and if you dont ask her she won't feel stupid.
  12. Usually I will feel "bigger" around the stomach area when I am on my period, or getting ready to start. Very normal... There are thing that you can do at home instead of going to the gym- Abs- crunches- you can do them on your floor at home Thighs- jump rope- I am not kidding at all. I usually do 15 minutes of this and 15 minutes of running for my cardio- it's the best natural thing you can do (the jump roping) Good Luck!
  13. Another thing that you may want to think about is Probono work that plastic surgerons do. (Meaning a free surgery if you meet the requirements, usually you write a letter to them telling them why you desperately need the surgery, and mention the fact that you can't pay for it) You shouldn't be so down on yourself though. I know that it's hard when you are comparing yourself to everyone- my best friend went through the same thing that you are going through. And she is actually having the breast reduction surgery in a month. She waited until she was out of high school to do it though, to make sure that she was done developing. Don't compare yourself to everyone. That's what she had to learn to stop doing... think about your best qualities and let them shine through.
  14. Nice.. I love poems that you can actually visulize in your head.
  15. I also suggest that you start NO contact. Don't answer her calls, don't listen to her messages, don't go by her house, don't answer the door when she comes by your house. All of that. Reason being is that you need time to figure out what you want and need. You two broke up for a reason.. This is the time to learn more about yourself.....
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