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Royltnxile last won the day on April 8 2006

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  1. DIVORCE. It's your only real course of action. Nevermind all of her "psychiatric" issues, her depression, her BPD..blah blah blah...she might be nuts, but it's still no excuse for infidelity.
  2. This simple statement should have put an end to this thread because it's absolutely 100% accurate! However, from my observations and experience I would have to say that I think women are more likely to cheat for the simple fact that women seem to have far more issues in the areas of self-esteem than most men do. I've seen women with low self esteem and in need of validation who don't think twice about cheating on the guys they are with. I do think men and women are drawn to cheat for different reasons.
  3. I dated a girl who had terrible self esteem, poor body self image, a former eating problem. She couldn't take compliments well, and she couldn't believe it when I was attentive and considerate to her sexually as well. She thought she was "fat", but she was a size 1-2 and weighed like 108#..and she was obsessed with weighing 105#. She was a real bundle of insecurities and she dug the hell out of me. I loved her, treated her well, was thoughtful, considerate, attentive, non demanding or controlling...and above all....was never critical of her. She ended up breaking up with me over the phone, on Valentines Day, an hour before we had dinner plans...and we had been dating for 5 months! Total flake out. She got scared and ran away. I didn't chase her. This was two years ago almost and she still calls me occasionally but doesn't leave messages...total whack job! Heard a few weeks ago that she is now working as a stripper at one of the local gentleman's clubs here in the area. believe me, as uncomfortable with herself that she was, she is the last person I would imagine doing that. (taking her clothes off for money) But then again, given her low self esteem and body self image, maybe it makes perfect sense...she needs the attention of men, multiple men, to validate herself and make her feel worthy because she feels so poorly about herself?????? I don't get it. She ran from me because I treated her well and I'm a good man. She couldn't handle being with someone who respected her. Women with low self esteem typically seek out men who reflect how they feel about themselves - thus alot of women getting involved with the "bad boys" who treat them like crap. So Slacker, I know exactly what you are talking about on this thread. Been there, done that. Also, I totally disagree with the whole "society is at fault for low body self image" crap. If a woman thinks she fat (and is indeed overweight, not like my girl I have described), then she needs to get off her fat azz and do something about it. No one but ourselves are responsible for how we look and what we weigh. I'm 40# heavier than I was last year, and I"ll drop those 40# again in the coming months prior to summer...no big deal. I'm not happy with the way I look at present, so I'm going to do something about it rather than * * * * * and moan about the fact that I don't look like a male model or an athlete.
  4. Foreplay can be defined as any sexual activity prior to the actual act of penetration. Oral sex, fondling, kissing, massages, ...etc..etc.... Foreplay is all the things you do to/with each other before penetration occurs...hence the prefix "fore" in "foreplay" Put it this way, Amber. Would you like your guy to just yank your drawers down, throw you on the bed, and just stick it in? Or would you prefer he kiss you, caress you, play with your breasts and your clit, and make you wet (aroused) before intercourse actually began? That's what foreplay is. Foreplay heightens arousal and makes sex more pleasurable.
  5. I would say you enjoy foreplay if you like oral sex...lol If you like filming yourself, then I would say you don't have any issues with your body!
  6. Then why don't you enjoy foreplay? Perhaps you have some self issues? Body self image? Lack of sexual confidence? Certainly something must make you not enjoy foreplay?
  7. I think it depends on alot of factors. Myself, I can get hard as a rock and go and go and go after I've been drinking. Sometimes, getting off becomes a problem in this situation. However, in the morning it usually doesn't take much. The "army" gets released in minutes! Gotta love morning sex...lol Another factor is control. There are ways to control and maintain yourself that are also very pleasurable for the woman. It's called changing positions often during the sexual act. You also have to vary in speed and thrust as well. If a guy just puts it in and pumps away at frantic pace like a jackhammer, of course he is going to finish quickly! If he varies his speed, changes positions, and actually uses his tool as an instrument rather than a bludgeon, then he will last longer. At least I found it to be true. To the orgininal poster - You must be meeting the wrong kinds of men, or else maybe you are just so smokin hot, and your junk is just so tight that men can't help but fire the gun prematurely???????? I dont' agree with your generalization about men who can't last being rare.
  8. Your girl may have issues regarding her body self image, lack of confidence, uncomfortable with herself, lack of sexual confidence. I dated a girl who was like that and I always wondered if she had been raped or abused somewhere in her past. She always wanted "quick" sex, without much foreplay - highly unusual for women. Most women love foreplay, the more the better. Women with a "lets get it over with" mentality in the bedroom most likely have things in their past that cause them to have these attitudes about sex. The girl I was with would always ask me "why are you being so good to me?" when I was attempting to shower her foreplay (lots of hand and oral work). ..almost as if she didn't believe I actually cared about her satisfaction and pleasure. She also had alot of body self image issues, which I never understood because she was like a size 2 and cute as can be. You never know. I would continue to try and coax you into letting you please her with extended foreplay and when the time is right, ask her why she likes it so quickly. Gently try and find out if there is something in her past that makes her so averse to all the wonderful "extras" that sex has to offer.
  9. Sounds like a classic case of: "I'm not gay...but my boyfriend is!" This guy sounds like a real keeper! He cheats, he lies, he's not sure if he is gay, bi, or straight, ..or whatever. I'd stear clear of him. Be happy that you got out when you did.
  10. I guess nobody got my joke?????
  11. I read these facts in a book the other day at Barnes and Noble so I thought I would share. Fact 1 - American Indians have the longest penises among the races. Fact 2 - Mexican men have the thickest penises among the races. Fact 3 - Irish men's penises stay hardest for the longest time. All of the above facts are true... or my name isn't Tonto Rodriquez O'Malley!
  12. Don't do it! You'll be tipping your hand about how you feel about her, and it's too early for that. See her remark as just that - a remark. One that may not have meant anything other than she's letting you know that work for her will get crazy in the future. On a general note - Why does everything seem to think that it's an "either or" situation when talking about a relationship and a career??? If two people are in love, and want to be committed to each other, there shouldn't be any question of "putting one before the other". There is no reason why people can't have both, in fact, most people do have both. It's all about balance.
  13. I think you are reading way too much into her remark at this point. Remember, you've only been out with this woman 3 times. If things continue to heat up between you, she will either make time for you, or she won't. If she does, great, if she doesn't it, you'll want to get away from her anyway. Keep dating her and see what happens!
  14. What do you know about this woman's dating past? Her relationship track record?..etc... I would see the "nice knowing you" remark as not a full "red flag", but definitely a warning sign that she may have issues with intimacy and commitment. Most people with these kind of issues will typically say things to that effect ...("don't go falling for me".."I screw up all my relationships"..."I have commitment issues"...."I've never been faithful to anyone"...etc..etc...) They say these things early on in the dating process to cover their own azzes for when later on down the road when a proper relationship develops, or their feelings deepen, and the panic sets in and they want to run away, they can say "well, I tried to tell you I was emotionally whacked". Not saying this is the case with your girl, but it could be. If I were you, I would just take things slow with her and see what happens as you date longer. 3 dates is too soon to be getting all worried about what's going to happen. Explore it and keep your eyes open, only time will tell if she's "worth it" or not.
  15. I think you have unrealistic and selfish expectations of him at this point. Right now, as it stands, you have agreed to get together in person over Thanksgiving and "see how it goes"...and that's all it is, at present. You haven't seen each other in 3 years. Both of you have since moved on to serious relationships with others, even though neither of you are involved seriously with anyone right now. Why would you expect him to come running and swooning all over you just because you contacted him after all this time? Perhaps your ego kind of hoped that he would? Until you and he begin, if you begin, dating again, and even then, it is waaaaaay to early for you to be trying to tell him who he can/can't run around with. So I wouldn't be worried about other girls at this point. Just meet up with him over the holiday and see what happens. Until you are face to face with him and you see how it goes, don't waste time and energy worrying about it. Btw...whereabouts in IL are you?
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