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  1. I wanna ask what you do. Getting $17 an hour for doing nothing but surf the net and read? That's my kind of job! LOL. I could deal with that but you probably don't have the right temperment or whatever for that. Some need to keep busy, socialize and it drives them nuts to just sit there. But for others it works, it is all your personality type.
  2. Don't break it! If he cares and loves you believe me he will get in contact. Trust me!
  3. Hmm....Do this: Pretend you changed your number and a new girl has your old number and she is looking for "Charlie" or whoever. You can text "Hello Charlie this is Marie, did you get my message?" Maybe you can cover yourself that way. Just a thought.
  4. I'm so confused. Over a month ago my ex of 2 years came back after 1.5 mos. of NC, initiated by me cause she was treating me like a doormat. She said she wanted to take things slow and has to have me in her life, loves me, and really missed me. I bought it and went along at her pace. Well she had been broken up with her recent ex for about 4 mos. but they still sort of hung out and talked. My ex acted like she really didn't like talking to him and got annoyed when he called, and she stated she wanted to change her number so he couldn't have it (yeah right). Well about a month into "taking it slow" she said she wasn't over her ex after I asked her if our relationship was going to go anywhere, and I found a blog on her myspace about him and how much she was still in love with him. Well I immediately cut her off and went back to NC but first told her I was very upset that she tried to come back to me when she wasn't 100% ready. I am now doing NC once again to get over her. It sounds like her recent ex has a new girlfriend from his myspace page and I know she is upset about that. Her ex was a definite loser (drugs, no goals in life), and I am the opposite, everything she could want. I Have a good job, attractive, friends, etc. I treated this girl excellent in every way and she knows it. Recently my ex put a blog on her myspace wondering why no one good comes into her life, and why can't she get a decent person to like her and why she keeps getting the short end of the stick. She says she wishes she could turn her feelings off for this person and not like them but she can't (she is talking about her recent ex here). She said she wonders when a good person is going to come along and love her and treat her decently and when is that good person going to come along and appear. She also said she is tired of people playing games with her. I am so dumbfounded by her blog because she had a chance with a good person and she messed it up. ME!!! She knows I am a good person and I know darn well she is attracted to me and likes about everything about me. Maybe I'm not wild enough, don't know. And as for people playing games, she should take her own advice. I am afraid now that she thinks of this NC I'm doing again as a game and I'm afaid it's making me look childish or something to her. It's as though I wanna write her a letter saying "you had that person!" "Your the one who begged me back, then you decided you weren't over your recent ex!" Why are you complaining? Guess I'm afraid this NC I'm doing will make her hate me even more and make me look completely heartless and cold and like I don't care. Am I doing the right thing? It's like I want to scream to her "I LOVED YOU!!! YOU COULD OF HAD ME AGAIN!! YOU COULD OF HAD EVERYTHING!!! WHY ARE YOU COMPLAINING THAT YOU CAN'T GET NO ONE GOOD!!!!
  5. Do you think unstable people want to be with someone like themselves - unstable? Example - Someone who may have a mental issue, jump from job to job, does drugs? What if the unstable person had the chance to be with someone who had their {mod edit} together, good job, doesn't do drugs, has a life, friends, all that. Do you think that would freak the unstable person out and make them wanna run back to an unstable partner because they're scared of being in a good relationship like that? This is just something I've been thinking about lately and would really like all your input and opinions. Thanks.
  6. It means if you are going to be friends with her and talk to her she will have an easier time weaning herself off of you. My ex tried the same thing by asking stupid questions and all she was doing was seeing if I was still around and if she could get me to talk to her, it's kind of like them not really wanting to let go so they pretend all is fine and that your old buds.
  7. Well I am not breaking NC again. I have learned my lesson. Do you think she'll keep trying the mind games?
  8. Do not, Do not, Do not contact her. You will regret it if you do. Trust me. She needs alot of time to miss you and I guarantee she will if you don't contact her. Do not be friends with her as she is just trying to soften the blow and wean herself off you.
  9. Sometimes I don't even think her motivation was the money, but rather seeing if she could get me to crack and talk to her?
  10. My bipolar ex tried to come back to me over a month ago saying she loved me, had to have me in her life, wanting to have a second chance and take things slow, and she even told me she was going to change her number so her latest ex couldn't have it. They broke up 4 mos. ago after a little over a year. I fell for it and we began to hang out again after a rocky 2.5 years of knowing her, 6 mos. together and 2 years of being ex's. During the two years of being ex's she has been very hot and cold to me. When she would have a fight with her latest ex she would run to me. She would call me all the time too, wondering what I'm doing, and with whom and would act jealous if I was hanging out with another girl. She would even sometimes tell me she was still in love with me and would try to put the moves on me. She has always had a tough time letting me go. She hasn't had the best taste in guys. She has dated unattractive, welfare, some druggies, those who like drama. I wasn't the best catch when we dated but I blossemed and all the things she didn't like about me before I changed (for myself). I have my head on straight, am attractive, have a house, good job, friends, everything. She always said before she was happy when we were together. Anyways, back to the point - So as we started taking things very slow and I find out she is still talking to her latest ex who got her on drugs. My ex has been clean for about 2 weeks and said she wants to stay that way. She was also talking about wanting to get her own place, not really making future plans with me, all the while I'm thinking maybe she is using me to soften the blow of leaving her ex. She tells me no she is not over her ex yet and I ask her why she didn't wait to come back until she was over him, and her response was because I care about you. So I am surfing myspace the next day and find a blog on her page about him and she was saying she's not sure she's ready to let him go and that she's still in love with him and that whomever he dates next has to go through her for approval, blah blah blah. I am crushed so I almost immediately cut her off again. So I'm sure she goes back to hang out with the ex. So a few days later after I started NC she texts me "sayin hi" I ignore it. Then she texts me "it's rude to ignore someone" I ignore it. about a week went by and she texts "how do you want me to get you the money I owe you for the phone bill?" I ignore it still. A few days later she says "so I take it you are paying my cell bill then?" I ignore it while thinking I will just pay the bill so I don't have to talk or see her. Next day I start thinking that she should give me my money so I will text her to mail it to me. I did just that. After 10 days I break NC by saying "please get me a money order for the money and mail it to me. Thanks." She sends back almost right away "I will when you can treat me like a human." I didn't respond for about 10 min. confused and she sent another that said "exactly, didn't think you'd text back." Then she sent "you can't even speak to me. forget you." About 20 min. later I sent "You will never be able to treat me as a human so why should I treat you as one. All you did was lie and screw me over. **** that. One day you will know what it feels like to be screwed around, and don't worry about the bill, I will take care of it." About an hour later she sent "You ****** with me too, but I did not lie to you." I have no idea why she's saying I ****** with her too, cause I didn't. I haven't sent anything since. I am surprised she didn't wait for ME to ask HER for the money, instead of her volunteering it. Was I an idiot for breaking NC? Should I send her a text back or start NC again? What is she doing?
  11. Being her friend will only end up in heartache, she will never make up her mind if your always around, cause she won't have to. If she knows your always pining away for her she will think "I can have him if I want him, so let's see what else is out there." I say go NC all the way, then you will see her true colors - in time.
  12. Okay why after 4 days of complete silence from her is she gonna text me "wanted to say hi," (in which I ignored) and then hours later put up a nice pic. of her and her loser ex?
  13. She does do pretty good in not making any contact with me for awhile if she knows I won't. I guess you mean in cutting of the supply forever is saying if she trys to come back again to definitely not let her come back, I have caved in every time. I think this last time she came back I told her that this was her last chance so I wonder if she really won't try it again. She is on medication though for bi-polar if it makes a difference, but that mixed with drugs (if she does em again) probably isn't good.
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