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BillyJean714

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  1. When you mention GF, that's a whole different ball game compared to 'casual dating.' Anyway, I'm over it. I guess it's pointless to argue with someone who obviously doesn't think that using people is wrong.
  2. I'm not saying that it was wrong for you to break up with her. You did the right thing. However, based on the previous thread he provides, to me, when someone clearly knows what the other person's intentions are from the beginning, and they still pursue the relationship KNOWING they don't have the same intentions as the other person, I just think it's wrong. It NEVER feels good to feel betrayed.
  3. Don't go out with her in the first place. Save her the heartache. It feels like crap to be used, and have someone have emotional feelings for another person. It doesn't feel good to be with a partner who isn't completely there with you and for you, because they're crushing on someone else.
  4. 3 weeks is what you tell us. The point is- if you KNEW how you felt all along, then why even get into a relationship with her? It's called convenience, and it's wrong. You expect us to sympathize with you? You came here for the truth right? I'm not going to sugarcoat things and say what you did isn't wrong, because clearly, you know that you hurt another soul. Sure, you may have gone out with her for 3 weeks (we don't know that for sure), but you clearly KNEW what HER intention was, and you KNEW what YOUR intention was from the VERY beginning. It doesn't justify hurting another person, just because one has selfish needs. If you had a daughter, and some jerk hurt her, I'm pretty sure you would know what I'm talking about. If it happened to your mother, or your sister, I'm pretty sure you would want to knock his teeth out. What you did was intentional. You know it. You wouldn't know would you? You weren't the one who was hurt, so I guess to you, it doesn't matter. I'm just putting this nicely.
  5. I would choose guy #2, if he didn't have to try to charm girls with his words. So I guess I would choose NEITHER. Both of them seem really insecure. I think a guy is way MORE attractive when he's just himself. He doesn't feel the need ti impress anybody just because he wants to portray a certain image about himself.
  6. The BEST romantic thing anyone's ever done for me was when one my ex's, he was 29 at that time, and I was 20, so I guess he was ready to get married. I wasn't. It was Valentine's Day. He planned a romantic dinner, and when we got out of the restaurant, he tells me to wait in front so that he can pull up the car so that I didn't have to walk too far. He pulls up, opens the door, and hands me a bouquet of one dozen red roses, and asked someone to take a picture of us right then and there. Afterwards, he drove me to a ritzy resort. This was at night. We didn't stay the nigh. Just hung around at the lounge a bit, and he took me into this BEAUTIFUL garden, and led me to a gazebo and asked me, "Wouldn't it be nice if we had a wedding here?" It was so sweet, because he planned everything out. I would have to say that is the most romantic thing anyone's ever done for me. I won't ever forget that.
  7. Here's one thing you need to learn. I know that a lot of women get into this cycle and are in denial- sex doesn't buy love. Most times, some women may think, "Oh, it was innocent." But they're just lying to themselves. They just want that comfort in knowing that the other person actually *cares*. Now you know how people are, right? You got a slight taste of reality. I hope you'll pick up the pieces and stay strong. Sounds like you're doing okay. Don't be so hard on yourself, but just take this experience and learn. Good luck! Hang in there..
  8. I think you were a jerk for leaving her the way you did. Emotional affairs are the WORST. How can one person do that to another? If you're going to get into any relationship, at least give it your best shot. Sounds like you never had the same intentions for your ex. She DESERVES better. She didn't deserve someone who would string her along, then gets a dumping just because their partner wasn't being HONEST with them from GET GO. But, if you feel you made the "best" decision, then good for you. I think it's a TERRIBLE situation for anyone to have to put up with feeling as though they've been used and thrown away.
  9. From what I know, based on a physiology class I took, the pulse you feel could be your ovaries releasing hormones with a combination of that and the releasing of your egg fusing to the walls of your uterus. For some women, we feel that hormonal surge pretty strong, especially around 2 to 1 week before our periods. For others, it's not as strong; but as we age, our hormones change and that's why there are times when we feel it and times when we don't.
  10. Unfortunately, you're just getting a bitter taste of reality. Reailty isn't pretty. People do things to hurt others; they betray those who love them most. You're learning more about people. Sorry this happened to you. I hope you find the strength to move on. Take a day off and try to find yourself again, or at least do things you enjoy doing, because you are hurt right now. Or, go to the bookstore, and read up on things that interest you. That way, you keep yourself busy.
  11. I think you have deep personal issues that you're running away from. Perhaps something happened to you in the past? Something really bad happened, so now you cling onto anything..crumbs to make you feel better? I think that deep down inside, you feel scared. Maybe there are underlying issues that you need to resolve? It's okay if you do. Just try to tackle it in a healthy manner. If not, then you'll get caught up in the wrong crowd of friends, and you will meet people who will mistreat you, because they see that they can do so. Hope I'm not too vague.
  12. Take it slow.. It may have been the alchohol. In my experiences, people tend to be really lovey dovey when they're drunk, because the feel less inhibited. They say whatevers on their mind, just for the heck of it. I guess it's because to them, it feels good to say it 'in the moment.' If you look at the timeline of your relationship, realistically, him saying I love you when you both were drinking and he was a bit tipsy, to me, doesn't mean anything. It's just small talk and a superficial remark. When someone loves you, they love you without having any kind of underlying motive. They love you because they just do. Most times, if they love you THAT much: #1. It takes time to develop those feelings. They don't throw words like that around too wrecklessly. 2. It would be harder for them to express it, ESPECIALLY if they are NOT exclusive with that person. Best of luck. Don't analyze it too much. But, just make sure that you're hangning out with someone who truly respects you, and doesn't just see you as a good for now kinda girl.
  13. If your partner treated you like crap, here are my suggestions to get over them: 1. Repeatedly remind yourself: "That person DID NOT deserve me." 2. Tell yourself, "Anyone who treats me like crap, DOESN'T deserve me." 3. Think of all of the things they did to hurt you. 4. Think of all of the good things that you did, ways that you showed that you cared, and ways they took you for granted. 5. Remind yourself that you will find better. I know it's tough, but hang in there. Think about it. If you had a friend, who his/her partner treated him/her like crap, and that person sat around and moaped about their ex, what would you say to them? What you say to them, should be the things I would say to myself- "He/she's a jerk. Not worth your time." Think about it- anyone who mistreats you, especially when you're being sincere, DOESN'T deserve you. It's their LOSS. Good luck to you..
  14. God, working behind the cash registers can get PRETTY annoying if you do it for 8 hours long!! I used to work in retail and worked behind the register once for that period of time. What I can tell you is after a while, you will get pretty dizzy, especially if you're working in a VERY busy environment. You'll also get sick of saying, "Hi, How are you? Did you find everything okay?" while scanning gazillion things over and over a million times a day. Then customers just talk and talk. At first, you really won't mind listening. I like listening to what they have to say, but after 8 hours? I just want to fall over and faint, because it just doesn't stop. Not only that, but touching cash is nasty to me. I hate touching money, because if you think about it, you don't know where that dollar bill's been..i.e. in someone's underpants/crotch (strippers joint) eew..or if it fell somewhere really dirty. Anyway, you should take the experience. Any experience with work is better than having no experience at all. Enjoy it while it lasts, but if you're touching cash, just don't lick the cash as you're counting it, and don't rub your eyes. Lavese las manos! lol- Wash your hands. Good luck!
  15. No, I'm not for it. No, I haven't done it. No, I wouldn't do it under any circumstances. I cannot picture myself doing that. What for? To catch an STD? I don't look down on others who do have 1 night stands; I just choose not to just to keep myself clean.
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