Your_Own_Disaster

okays.... its not AS bad as i made out, well it is.... and isnt. that party where she got OVERLY wrecked, i mean... u name an alcaholic drink and she had alot of it.... and she didnt do anything at all as far as i know from what people have told me. so thats good. i worry less now, but still do, whenever she goes out the the park, or the music place, or .. anywhere with her "retard crew" as i think of them, she has two sets of friends and is slowly ditching the better group for the losers. grr. but yeh.... i do love her, and will stop worrying myself at all, anymore. of anything happens, i WILL find out about it, theres too many people in that group i also know, so i wont not be able to find out. and yeh.... i will either to too heartbroken to continue the relationship.. or come to some sort of agreement, mebe tell her i will still go out with her, but say im going to cheat on her so that she can feel what ive been feeling. i wont actually cheat... but i will make it look like i had, mebe get one of her friends who also feels the way i do about her drinking etc to be the one who i "cheat with". then tell her the truth once shes felt how i feel. that might make her see what hes doing differently.. if it ever happens again , which i hope it doesnt. was talking to her mother wile i waited for her to come home the other day.. and had a very long chat about her.. and she does love me, more than anything i think. and she is scared that im going to dump her for one of her friends who likes me alot and that she thinks i also like.... so yeh... she IS worried about loosing me, and i dont think that she will do anything to make me leave her. so.... yeh.. i think im going to stop worrying about that for a wile..well.. i will always worry a little bit but not as much as before. she HAS proved to me that i can trust her a little bit more, again... its getting there. anymore helpful help on anything ive said would be very nice by the way, and thankyou to the people who have already replied. x

yeh........ help .. me.. please...

i know. ive talked to her a few times. and, i dunno. she does love me. she denys doing anything on the other incidents ive questioend her on, and will tomorrow when i ask about tonight. i just feel, well, ashamed in a way "hey look theres that guy whos girl keeps getting off with ppl, and the funny thing is, he dont even know about it, babahahaa" so chyeah... shes had a string of crap relationships before me. and im the first descent guy shes been with, and the only one that hasnt treated her like a fruck on legs / been with her for that reason. she hates that people see her as one, yet still acts like one, and wonders why people think like that! and i was the first person to now believe that, and get to know HER, not the drunk her. i really do care about her, more than ive cared about anyone else in my life. and when she got off with that girl ,and i said we'd talk in the morning, she was still drunk on the night and tried to engrave "destroy me" into her arm, failing due to drunkness, but the scratches were still there. which i found the next day, and chyeah, if i do leave her, im scared of what she might do. and i dont want to leave her, i really dont know what id do without her, theres nothing without her, so i wont even try... but yeh... i want to help her overcome all this, but she doesnt want / accepts she needs my help. alot of her friends are trying to help aswell , and the ones that want to go out with her want the "old her" back as she was easy to cop off with. she has changed, she is less like her old self, but its still there, burried at the bottom of the bottle, deep down, she IS her old self, it just takes the drink to bring it out of her, shedoesnt even know shes doing it half the time, ill someone tells her where shes all "oh crap". after the girl on webcam thing when i turend off the cam and said that was too hard to bear, she turned it back on and she was sat in a corner crying her eyes out and her friend was apologising. so once someone mentioned it, she realisies what shes doing, but thats not the point, it shouldnt take someone else to do that, she should see it her on her own. also... just before we officially were going out.. she got off with that guy i hate at her house 2 nights in a row, and... on those 2 nights, was texting me saying how she loved me and wanted to be with me, wile getting off with someone. i hope for my hearts sake that she has actually kept herself off everyone tonight, because theres no forgiving her next time, i will have to walk away. and that... that will just destroy me, i will ALWAYS love her, i just dont know if my heart can bear being with her. anymore help? not just me, how do i help HER overcome her.. problem. this is the only thing i hate about her, this trust issue.

ok long read but PLEASE HELP ME i really need it i dont know how much more of this i can take well ive been going out with this girl now for about 2 months, been close since just under a yr ago. and almost got together back then but she got off alot, lil more than alot, with someone a day after we kinda got together. so i told her how i felt and how i couldnt be with her now. half a year passes, im still in love with her, and kinda over the heartbreak, so i asked her out and she said yes, i was overjoyed. one week later and i SEE her getting off with her friend on webcam when there drunk and done poppers. her friends a girl but there both bi, so i took it the same as cheating, but we got through that and i forgave her, as i really do love her. she came to my party a week after that.... and smoked, knows i cant stand it, told her i was disappointed, tried 2 get week , told her i was disapoitned altho she could see it on my face before then. and she knows i hate that too. and yeh, she looked more "crap im caught" then genuinly sorry. and yeh, this party was for her to meet my friends, and she was going to sneak off [without even letting me know] to a park 20 mins from my house, to get stoned with some guy she knows i dont like. so that hurt me, alot. more than alot. and one or two things happened i dont want to mention throught the time ive been with her. all this has led me ot have no trust whatsoever in her when she is drunk. so... tonight, would have been okays if i could have gone to this party with her and kept an eye on her, my im currently grounded during the week so am stuck at home. problem is.... msn... she was on for alil bit, 7pm she had already drank 1/2 a bottle of absinth and schnapps. that was 7pm, its now 10 and shes had alota vodka aswell. basically.... im scared shoitless that she has/will do something tonight, with someone there. and she wont remember any of it in the morning, she never does. so chyaeh.... can anoyone help me with thiis trust issue i got? this happens everytime she goes out to get drunk, she doesnt know when to stop, and keeps drinking till shes so plastered she will throw herself at just about everyone there [heard from alot of people, thats what shes like when shes not goin out with people, sometimes when she IS goin with them] i dont know what to doi ,i just dont kno what to do!!! and even if she does do something, she will not remember it or not tell me, and yeh, i can usually tell by her reaction to when i ask about it. if i get a simple "it was okays" *quick change of subject* i know theres something shes not telling me. her friends say shes changed, and is different now shes with me, a different girl. but i dotn see it. i still think of her as that stoned/pissed/WHORE when shes drunk. and it scares me. i love her with all my heart, and just want her to be happy, and want to help her get out of the state she is in, which im doing, slowly, shes just an alki to a certain extent. and when shes drunk... nothing else really goes through her head i thnk that "who can i make out with" my heart is getting to its last teathers here, i dont know how much more i can take, and i will always love her , i know that, i just dont know if i can be with her much more knowing all this. and its sending me into some kind of depression, i can see her going under, and im trying to save her, but the problem is, she cant see it herself. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!! i could really really do with as much advice as you can give me.

not really a problem. just saying hi to everyone as ive been offline for a month or 2. so... "heylo everyone, how are you all?" [also i light fluffy and happy thread for ppl to , well, be happy and fluffy] talk about something other that a relationship problem, might cheer you up. haha, my lame advice there. oh wells. hi.

erm.... if you really liked someone, you wouldnt be able to just get over them that quickly and move onto "another guy". that sounds like your just lookign for a b/f for the sake of having a b/f and not because your actually looking for genuine love. no offence intended. thats has nothing at all to do with what this thread is about. at all.

you wouldnt have started this thread if you didnt like her. so.... ask her 2 hang out on the weekend. see what she says and see how that goes. then..... ask her 2 hang out agen etc..... then ask her out. ps.. if your kind of going with her b4 u ask her out, shes more likey to say yes, and by that i mean unofficially goin out. if none of that helped, just slap me lol.

if he is romantically interedated in you...... then thats just sick. and wrong. get over him, nothing is ever going to happen there without his life going to hell for it. find someone in your year. and hugs dont really mean much, i give/get hugs from most ppl i kno, it means nothing more than a friendship thing. unless its a long hug, then hes probobly just a weird person as your only 13 and hes married with kids.

your talking for too long each day. if you want to talk for that long, go see ur partner instead. 3-4 hours on phone is way too long. u dont have enough time do even do anything in a day that u can talk for that length of time about.. cut down the ammount of time ur talking, or talk more in person.

what u on about man, ppl HAVE answered your question, just not directly. re-read the previous comments

erm... haha i have no idea what 2 put for this one [is hopeless]

ok, it seems to me that....... the insanely freakin cute as hell girls in my coll... are virtually impossible to hold more than a 20 sec convo with,:S the kinda fugly ones can ramble for hours the inbetween ones can also usually ramble, and the cute not not insanely freakin cute girls can hold a convo yet not all of the time. has anyone else noticed this or is it just me???

be yourself! if someone likes you, they will attract! simple well, 2 put it simply anyways.... [not writing another long post 2day]

you cant just hyperlink directly from your pc.. you will need to either just insert the pic's into your comment [the actual image] or upload them to a file hosting site and hyperlink them from ther link removed is a good one to use.

erm..... woah.... sorry maan, i just read my posts i was a little too drunk the other nite, ur rite i didnt proerly read your above post. sorry! *slaps self*