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  1. It's interesting that both of you didn't talk as much in person. Could be 2 possibilities: 1) she's into you more than she realizes & she is afraid of her emotions for you or 2) she's really not as into you & will just keep it on a friendly level. Besides since in the past she's been the one initiating convo's perhaps it's your turn to show your interest by initiating, otherwise she won't know that you're interested in her. Then see how she responds to you.
  2. I usually prefer taller guys. However, if the guy is attractive looking & you 2 are compatible conversation, personality wise, then don't fret about the height difference as much.
  3. It's good that you are watching out for her, but all you can do is watch out for yourself as well & if not remaining friends is better than go ahead & do it. I can sort of relate to your ex-gf, after my past ex & I broke up, all I wanted to do was just date several ppl & see what it was like. She's a grown adult, once she's experienced the casual sex scene, she may or may not grow tired of it. I'm sure her friends are watching out for her as well & will give their opinions as well. Let her go through this & just see what happens from there. Sometimes for me the best way not to be so emotionally distraught from a past lover, is to not care so much anymore, learn from your mistakes with this relationship & believe that there are other potential ppl to date in the future when you are ready.
  4. Some people need some time after an argument, he may be ignoring you b/c of the following reasons: 1. He's still thinking & will get back to you when he's ready 2. He's considering getting out of the relationship In the meantime, since he's not responding to you, then all you can do in the meantime is really think if all this drama is worth it for to you? Do you want to stay with a person who continues to lie to you & you lack trust in him? Make sure not to stay in a relationship b/c of the fear of loneliness.
  5. I think b/c you didn't get closure with her & your thoughts of making your own mistakes that it could've been better b/w u 2 to last. Ask yourself will writing the email, do you expect her to respond back? If so, then it might be a lost cause if she doesn't respond back or if she does respond back w/ the fact she doesn't see u 2 together at this moment. Otherwise, if you going to write a letter, consider writing a letter to her but w/o sending it to her actually. So then you said your part to help relieve your self-burdens & hopefully realize that there are plenty of other people to share your love again if you're open to it.
  6. The fact that he may find other women attractive is not necessarilyl wrong, b/c it is human nature to admire the exterior looks of others even if you're in a relationship/married. People do it all the time admiring models, celebrities. You may want to consider how you're reacting as well, b/c the fact is there will always be people who will look better or not as better than you or me. It's how you handle those type of situations, if I notice an attractive looking female, then I'll even point it out to my bf to show that I would be more surprised if he did not check that female out. However, it's having & displaying self-confidence & knowing that's it just admiring, but the other person isn't going to cheat b/c of looking. However, I do think it can be very rude for a person to gawk at another person, while the sig other is present.
  7. Perhaps when you know there is common friend throwing some party/travel trips or event/activity is coming up.
  8. Consider taking up activites that don't include her, since obviously her very presense disturbs you. Once you pre-occupy yourself w/ your own activities, hopefully eventually you can just hang out w/ her w/o hoping to get back together again. Also consider spending time w/ other gals as well to try to take your mind off of her. Otherwise you may leave yourself in a pit that you can't seem to get out of.
  9. That is normal for any relationship to have it's moments of "silence" or lost for words. This has happened with me & my bf even in person as well. It depends on the comfort zone b/w you 2. You don't have to be talking non-stop, but rather talk about things that are more of quality or interesting to e/o. Besides so many things could be going on in his head or your head, so there may be times better to not talk versus talking about little things when the other person could be doing other things that maybe keeping them distracted.
  10. If ever since he moved & you have always been the one initiating + your sixth sense feels that it's "different". Then you ought to consider stop initiating & let him contact you first. Some people become distant when they're busy with other activities or work or family drama. If it's none of the above, then perhaps it could be an indirect behavior to leading to a break up.
  11. In terms of marrying the family & not just the spouse, is quite common in eastern culture b/c it's joinining 2 families together. So that understanding of different cultures & their views of marriage will be helpful in understanding the mother-in-law alittle bit hopefully. Regardless of culture, you don't deserve to be verbally abused! So all you can do is remain cordial w/ his in-laws, w/o having to try to make an effort to be "buddy" buddy friendly to the mother-in-law. Hope things work out!
  12. Hi there. I've been with my bf for over 1 yr. However, both of us still stay in shape & don't let ourselves go. In regards to being a "challenge" as long as you don't let the other person walk all over you & have your own hobbies & me time, then you will have a better appreciation for e/o. That way the love or sparks stays alive.
  13. If you 2 officially broken up, then there really is no unsaid rule to continue celebrating one another bdays if you're no longer together. The fact that he's not calling you or initiating contact w/ you is a big sign, that he's trying to move on as well. I wouldn't be surprised if he's accepting your calls, to just be respectful & nice. NC is the way & to find another man who has the same common life goals & dreams as you do such as marriage. Don't waste your time on him.
  14. Since you mentioned that she has a busy schedule of work+school. Consider making plans to spend time together in a more romantic setting for a more face-to-face time to reveal your feelings to her. Remember regardless of feelings, do not come off too strong which can scare her off of the idea of you 2 even consider dating. Dating/relationships can hold more demands than just being friends, but as long as you're ready for the risk, then go ahead & take it. If she does not have as much time for you as a friend, then she may not be able to make as much time even for a bf. But as long as you are willing to have some compromises, it's possible.
  15. The only couples I know in which LDR worked when both sides had a steady income to be able to afford to see one another & had schedules that were flexible enough to make those visits.
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