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Eating out is the BEST. Only an extremely ignorant man wouldn't like it. And that's the truth.

I was gonna make a topic of this exact same thing but I got beaten to it. It's strange that it happens huh? I really don't understand it. Anyways since my 2 year relationship ended, I've managed to replace my ex with girl friends. It works just the same. Other females think that they're my girlfriends when they're just friends and they become interested. That's why I'd rather hang with girl friends than my guy friends a lot of the time.

I had to laugh when I read that. I've been guilty of that so many times and luckily it's gone how I pictured it most of the time. I hate to say it (though I don't feel guilty) but 2 months ago I went to an old high school aquaintences funeral with the ulterior motive of seeing a few old girlfriends from back in those days. And sure enough 3 of them were there. I hadn't seen them in a few years. But I knew this "chance" meeting could very well turn into a probable meeting so I went. I don't know. Would you all say I'm bad for that? I hope I don't come off as coldhearted cuz I'm not. But I really wanted to see them and it was the perfect opportunity

You bet it does. And it's no coincedence that you two make eye contact with each other quite a bit. 1.You like him 2.You've caught his attention Only thing now is to open up conversation and see if he's looking at you so much for the same reasons you're looking at him.

Taking a break in a relationship is counter productive and you're taking a risk. Attempt to talk it out instead 1st.

Bro, you need to think with your head and not your heart. She's been with other guys and she doesn't want to tell you how many? And you have unprotected sex with her? And you're still with her and accept this? Cmon man, use your logic here. And have more self respect. You're having her sloppy 2nds,3rds,4ths,5ths,etc. Contrary to what alot of ignorant people believe, no one needs to sleep around with others to figure out that the previous person they were with is the one. Analyze your situation and check yourself man. I mean don't you think you deseve better for yourself? Alright later

At this point the best thing you can do es is nothing. I know it seems strange but it's the truth. Ask yourself, what haven't you already done to try and sway him? You've basically done everything. If he's wants to come back he will eventually, but let time pass. Who knows by then it might have been so long that you may not want him back. Think about that.

Cmon man. Look I'm telling it like how it went down. I know the difference between trying to make the customer feel at home AND a full on flirt session. And I doubt her after store hours calls to my cell were courtesy calls. And no I wasn't looking to see if she had a ring on or not. I was looking everywhere but her hands.

^^What you just described there, I've been through that exact situation before. She's gonna decide to either be with you or not. It's totally her decision. It doesn't matter if you're speaking with her not. Remember that. By not being her friend, your sending her a clear message. And it also puts a stop to what she's putting you through. It also helps you clear your mind. If she seriously wants to get back with you she'll let you know.(Eventhough I question how much desire she actually has if she's with someone else). But in the meantime don't just wait around. Be proactive and do things to help you move on. Give NC some time. Then you'll be able to see what her true intentions are regarding you. What I did with my ex was I told her to call me if she wanted to work things out. And if she didn't then not to call me.(Maybe you want to do it that way). Well she called nearly 3 months after no contact whatsoever to try and work things out, but unfortunately for her it was too late. Like I said try NC and give it some time. She may change her mind but you may too.

She can compliment you and tell you that she wants to be with you all she wants but the fact is that she's not with you. You can't be friends with her when you still hold strong feelings for her and hopes of getting back together with her. My advice is to stop being friends with her until you can get those feelings to subside. By the time they subside you may not even want to be friends with her any longer since you may not see a point to it by then. If you can't get those feelings to stop then at least your taking positive steps to getting over her eventually. Plus that time that you don't talk to her may make her change her feelings towards you and vice versa. And yes being friends is all to her advantage. You really don't have much to gain from it. So do what's best for you bro.

I sent you a PM es

Conventional wisdom says that she doesn't feel it for you bro. She and her cousin both gave you negative answers. If you can handle just being friends then by all means talk to her. But if you have an ulterior motive to be her friend then you should stop talking to her. #1 involves hope. Hope just creates illusions and prevents you from thinking straight. So that shouldn't really be an option.

What's up Dallasite? That's cool what's happened to you. Call it fate or whatever you want. What's important now is to just be smooth and let things flow naturally between the both of you. I think asking her to lunch is a great way to catch up. Dinner can be left for the possible 1st date. Believe it or not most people tend to think dinner is for more intimate conversations than lunch. That's why I suggest lunch. It's more informal you could say. I don't remember where I read or heard all of this but it makes sense to me. Anyways one major advantage that you have is that you both already know each other and have history together. At the same time there's alot of catching up to do. So yeah just be cool about it and take things day by day now. Best of luck to you

That's real talk right there. Only the relationship veterans can totally understand the meaning of that. To the rest it doesn't make much sense. And you can't say something like that unless you've experienced it and know what it's like. Anyways I feel you on that hockeyboy.

Well bro, you revealed yourself too much to her. This is your ex after all. It's all games and competion right now for the both of you. You shouldn't have shown any emotion when she mentioned the other guy and her plans. You should have just went along with it and played it cool. Don't let your emotions get the best of you. Play it like a game of chess and just use your head not your heart. Look all humans have the natural desire to feel wanted. How do you think she felt when you displayed your displeasure with her about going out with another guy? Yea, you bet it made her feel good(eventhough she cares about you). How about you reverse it. Imagine it was you who had someone to go out with. Don't tell me you wouldn't gloat even a little. And knowing that it bothers her would be a total esteem booster for you(even if you care about her). Like I said, it's all games right now. And you gotta know how to play the game. She kisses you, then goes out with another guy. Just take it in stride, and let things flow naturally. Don't get caught up thinking about it too much cuz it won't help you. I can't really help you on the whole issue of having prospects though. If you want to date other women to get your mind off of her then that's good. But if you want to date others just to show her up then I wouldn't bother cuz that's risky and it could drive her away which I don't think you want BUT it could make her jealous and want you back. You know your situation better though. I'm assuming she broke up with you. Unfortunately she has the upperhand right now because she can date others and still know that you want her back(you've proven this through your actions). You on the other hand have to play it cool and act like it doesn't faze you in the meantime if you want to have a chance with her again. But ask yourself a few questions. Is everything you've done and are doing worth it? Are the chances that good? Are you limiting yourself? Bottom line just do what's best for you and your well being. Can't stress that enough people. BTW how old are you both?