cosqui32

Yeah, be honest because youd be more of an a-hole to make her think you were interested and not say anything cause you didnt know how! everytime passes by it just makes it worst! tell her that you did not mean to make her feel that way but you like having her as friends, tell her your not what she thinks....be honest! good luck

I agree with most of the replies!!! I grew up liking boys, because thats the rule, even had crushes, but as i got older id catch myself checking out girls. In college i realized that i tended to have sex with the guys but thats it, and with the girls i cuddled and felt more open! But I still love men and the way they are, but i also love women in a more committed way! I had 1 serious relationship with a guy for 3 yrs, but i just didnt love him like he wanted, i am now with a woman and very happy, its been 2 years, and i we hope it comes to 100 more! note: the woman i am with was married and has a daughter, she never been with a woman until she met me, she was just curious and she loved it...although i asked her once if we were to ever finish would she fall for another woman, she said no, because she couldnt. why? i dont know, but i will ask her just to post it here!! LOL point being that she was just bi-curious, i realized i was bi, so i guess its just different for everyone. i have a lesbian friend who says she knew always and that she is a man trapped in a womans body, but i have other lesbian friends that say they love being woman and love women! so its a very open topic! so many reasons!!! but i just know mines !!!!LOL

AIDS will NEVER be stopped unfortunately, it was always there, but we can minimize the outbreak, being faithful is helpful but you have to consider about poeple's past, for example someone could be faithful with someone but have a heroin problem, or had multiple partner before committing to someone. like i said sex is not the only way to get the virus, its all about protection, preventing situations as much as possible where you can be in contact with the AIDS virus, people need knowledge of this disease and learn how to prevent with common sense. but i do understand what u mean drahcir, something simple could make a change, but unfortunately the world needs more precaution than that! Hope Every one had a great New Years!!!!!!!!!!!

well AIDS is not the only sexually transmitted disease. They may not have AIDS but there ARE different diseases too! Protection is a must, obviously not for pregnancy (DUH) but you never know. Especially if you have multiple partners, but of course if you have a committed relationship, and both have been tested, and that is the only person you gonna be with then you dont need protection, but testing once in a while is good to, because not only can you get diseases through sex but needles, and contact with infected blood, i mean you NEVER know, things happen. I have a personal friend who got infected in the most innocent way, he witnessed a car accident, and ran to help, the car was on fire and he pulled the bloodied guy out, of course he had no time to put gloves and stuff like that, he being a chef usually have small cuts or small burns, which cause small open blisters, got in contact with this guy who had AIDS, never went through his mind, unfortunately the man was very hurt and passed away, a month later a family member of this guy called my friend and told him about the AIDS, of course my friend was scared, sad, everything, but went in time to get treatment, but to know sucks. so if you have multiple or a partner protection is always wise, and testing yourself is good too.

that is true, when a straight person find out that you are gay, les, or bi, then they think you like them or something... i hate that

i know what you eman with the older and younger thing... its stilla taboo for the older generations, evn though some have come to accept becasue of how thing are changing, but not all. the younger accepts it because they are more liberal, and accepting, and beacause the media has helped for people to see it and try to understand even if they dont really...i dont know if that made sense but there is different point of views in the generations but not only that, there are different point of views depending where you come from... for example i am hispanic, my grandparents are from el salvador in central america, when i go over there, my cousins who are my age, do not agree with homosexuality or bisexuality. they were raised very different, third world countries, especially central america, are very religious, and have strong beliefs, el salvadorian are mostly pentacostles, i dont even know if you spell it like that, but they are. and everyone is raised like that, another example people from india, and who are buddhists, they see things like that, like a huge taboo...i bet those who are in the closet will never come out, because its so prohibited... many people accept it, but will never understand....and will always have there way of seeing things... although i feel nowadays, its definitely more easier to accept than 10 years ago... well thats how i see it...

I agree, be bold and ask, because it seems that only one affected by this is you. You never know, the outcome can be better than you think, and if not, at least you know...and you canget on with your life, even if it is going to be hard but, life was never fair!

LOL I just read this whole post at 14 i had a curfew of 10,(on the weekends) but this world is changing no doubt! I have a brother who is 14, and he tells me that there are already 3 girls in his class that are pregnant. I was like WHAT? I am 24, and i just had my first child a month ago, i freaked out because its a whole new way of living, and i think about what if i was 14, thats scary.... Please be careful, there are some dangerous people out there, you have so much time to have sex and relationships....your are still a child, and drinking and having threesomes, whoa, i look at my son and man i really freaked out now, next thing you 10 year olds are drinking... you probably dont like the fact that all these adults are telling you this but, one day you will understand... hope everyone have a happy new years, and god help those people affected by the tsunamis!!!! bye every 1

I agree, you need to talk to her, there has to be an explanation... maybe the hiding is just getting to her now and is just stressed out about the situation... but definitely talk to her.... goodluck!

i agree, it seems that they want enhance THEIR sex life, not really have something with you...I wouldn' do it, it seems you will get hurt, especially if you already attatched... although the decision will be yours...hopefully you will think about what everyone says, we kind of see an outside view on this... goodluck!

i think you should, especially if you both feel the same way...why not...consider your self to be lucky, most people always like someone who does not like back or does not even know it... and are stressing about that...so go with the flow have fun.... life is too short....

yeah, i agree with ballys, just allow yourself to meet new people, and you never know who might cross your path check out local listing for events for Gay and Lesbians, I dont know where you from, but I am from Jersey, live about 30 min from NYC...and there is always something, I met alot of friends that way, although I did meet my love in a whole different country but, hey its a start....

35 is isnt that old! LOL well dont worry you are not the only one, when I was 18 i was so inl ove with this married woman, too at the time she was 28, with a 1 year old daughter. its a long story....I posted it a few days ago...check it out if you like And now, I am her secret lover, been together like this for 2 years...and we are so in love....so when you wanna talk pm me okay! I know how you feel....

i did not mean to get away from every one and everything, i do believe you always need a friend, and if your girlfriend is that persona, good for you, I was just saying that, dont put to much mind on this, go with the flow, and when you need to talk about your feelings, look for you friend...know what I mean jellybean. Like I said, your young, your right, i dont know you, true some teenagers are more mature than others, if you thought I said you were immature, that was not my message, live day by day and try not to stress little things. When the time comes it comes, and about telling your family if you find out you are, well I was in the closet until August of this year, I was really afraid, especially of rejection. But that was a whole other story!

I knew I liked boy and girls when I was young too, and that is confusing, and thinking about sex makes it even more. thats great you are waiting till your 18. I recommend to give yourself some space from relationships, and meditate on yourself and your life. I started to write and draw, if your noy into joing stuff in school, do outside stuff, or do what i did, work part time after school and summer. You will see every year that passes by you are becoming more mature, your young and you got alot of years to come. I know you probablyhate when older people tell you that, I hated that too, but trust me, 3 years from now, you will be thinking differently, and will be better to make your decisions, especially about yourself. When you know you know! welcome to life! And if you happen to "to do it" before your 18, you know thing happen, and still are confused, keep posting, it seems that there are more people out there feeling or felt the way you do! like the sit says, NOT ALONE! good luck