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  1. Hi there So here is my story, I am 27 (and still a virgin) and I have been seeing my 34 year old girlfriend for about 4 months now. We are really into each other and have great time when we are together. The thing is that I now want to have sex with her (she knows that I am a virgin) but whenever I try to have sex I get nervous and have problems getting it up. When she gives me a hand-job or blow-job I have no problem cumming but when its time for sex nothing happens! This is really irritating because it has given my gf a complex and she thinks that I am not attracted to her or something (totally untrue). Has anyone been in a similar situation before and how did you get through it?
  2. When I had cancer, I had a lump on my neck. Some cancers manifest themselves as lumps or bumps, others do not. To find out, you need to go to your doctor for a simple blood test and they will be able to tell you. 0X
  3. I am a software developer. I have graduated from college about 5 years ago. Ever since I was 16 this was the career I wanted to do. Unfortunately up to now my career has been very disappointing indeed. My first job I did not like because the salary I earned was ridiculously low(I was there for 2 years), my second job (there for 1 year) I hated the environment and people I worked with and my current job I cannot stand the people and conditions underwhich I have to work. Unfortunately my career is disappointing on almost every level. I am not earning the salary that I thought I would, I am not working with the kind of people that I thought and I am not working at the kind of companies that I expected either. Another problem is that I feel that I take too much work on and in the end dont deliver much. I always get pushed around and minipulated to become responsible for things that arent my area of responsibility. I have not got a feeling of success regarding my career, I feel like a total failure. Have I chosen the wrong career or do I just need to find the right environment or my niche? If I have chosen the wrong career, how do I decide on the right one? Peace 0X
  4. I personally think that because its the guys job to ask the woman out, he is the one who will have to put himself up for the possibility of rejection. What usually happens is you are young and inexperienced with woman. Then there is a girl in your class that you might like (even though she might not like you). So you decide to ask her out and she does something really immature like tell you to pi$$ off or something like that. You (being young and immature yourself) take it all personally and think that all woman are like this and try to protect yourself from more pain in the future by not taking a chance with any more woman. But as you get older you realize that not all woman are like that, if someone does not like you it is their problem and if you hold a grudge against all woman because of what one woman did to you then that is really foolish. PEACE 0X
  5. Ok so here is my situation. I have been at my current job for almost 2 years. Unfortunately I not been happy since the first day. IN April of this year I was diagnosed with a chronic hepatitis b disease. Throughout most of this year I have been on treatment with some very nasty side-effects. Now during the time when I was sick my work did not show me any remorse, I was just pushed to work harder and harder. So I made a decision that next year in March 2005 I am going overseas to do some travelling. But now I have got a really good job offer. But the thing is if I leave my current job, I will loose my medical aid and will have to pay for my medication myself. Also is it worth taking this new job for 3-4 months and then just quitting when I want to move overseas? The problem is also is that I might have to stay here a bit longer to recover from my illness because the doctors cannot tell me yet if the treatment has worked. The results are looking good at the moment but I have not been cured yet. Some advice on this matter will be greatly appreciated. 0X
  6. I would really appreciate some advice for my situation. Recently at church every sunday I have (on 2 occasions now) noticed a really stunningly beautiful woman that always seems to sit in the isle to my right. But this sunday something really strange was going on with her. I may be mistaken but I think she was looking at me. She was in the isle to my right and sitting about 3 rows infront of me, but I'm sure that she looked back at me at least 3 times during the service. I did not look directly at her, but I could see her looking at me out the corner of my eye. Now the thing is I would really like to say something to her, but as you know it is a church situation. My other thought was to join some church activities with the hope that she belongs to one of them and we can meet. But I feel that is too much of a longshot. I just want to talk to her, but I need an excuse so that it does not seem too obvious... Any advice?
  7. I suppose you could always 'test the waters' by saying a simple 'hello' the next time you walk past her. Try to smile when you do this it will make you seem far more approachable. 0X
  8. I am not a doctor or anything, but by the sound of things it could be a liver problem. I dont want to cause unnecessary stress bcos I can be wrong but usually symptoms of that nature MAY indicate a liver problem of sorts. 0X
  9. This is a life-changing decision that you are thinking about. It will change what others think of you forever - and sometimes not for the better. This is something that can have serious setbacks if you make the wrong decision. If you really believe that this is what you want to do then do it. Just make sure that it is the right one for you, after all if you are happy and that is what you really want to do then seriously consider it. Do not do it because someone gave you a compliment, do it because thats what you want to be. Think carefully before you decide, but after all its up to you - just as long as you are happy. Peace 0X
  10. To cut a long story short. I met this girl through a friend of mine, she is really nice, pretty etc. We made plans to go out for a drink together but she stood me up saying the next day that she was getting back with her old b/f etc. Now (even though I dont know her very well) she keeps sending me emails, but nothing of the hi, how are you nature. The emails are more like pictures of waterfalls and animals, prayers, some funny stuff. I have not replied to even one of her emails yet, I honestly dont really know what to think. The point is the stuff that she sends me is not very personal, its more like stuff that someone has sent to her that she is forwarding to me. It does not bother me I just want to know why? Does she feel guilty about standing me up, does she want to make friends? Why does she keep sending me these emails? Peace 0X
  11. I would have to agree with everything that 1899 has said so far. One will notice that as you get older, once a person leaves school and then graduates from university that far there are less available members of the opposite sex around. All that I do is wake up, go to work, go home and sleep. There are far less daily opportunities to meet available women. The thing is that I dont drink alcohol, so going to a 'typical' meeting place such as a bar is not that enjoyable because I am stone-cold sober. By the way it is amazing to see how drunk people get throughout the course of the night. You have to be well dressed, confident and the most important (in my opinion) you have to know how to handle rejection. Statistically only 2 in 10 women will react positively to you approaching them. The confidence thing for me is a problem because when I was at school I had many pimples(I was called pizzaman), braces and I was very thin and tall. Now things have changed somewhat and actually quite a few woman have told me that I am good-looking, but I still have a bit of a confidence problem because I still sometimes think that I am as ugly as when I was young. The best is to try, no woman is going to walk up to you and say: "Here I am". It is better to err in action, than in complacency or no action. Peace 0X
  12. It is tough to try and cheer someone up especially when they are feeling down and depressed about themselves. If someone has told your friend that she is ugly you have to tell her that she is not, do not agree with your friends reasons. Tell her that those who are saying nasty and horrible things about her dont know what they are talking about and its better for her not to associate with them. Its difficult to comfort your friends when they cry. One night my best friend arrived at my house crying because his girlfriend had cheated on him and then broken up with him. Friends in that position need a hug to know that there are friends that care about them ALOT. You have to be there for them so that they can be there for you. Peace 0X
  13. I have been planning for the past 3 years on doing some worldwide traveling. I have spend the last 3 years saving money, getting visas, organising travel plans, etc. However since the beginning of the year I have been feeling really sick on and off. The doctors keep telling me that I just have a viral flu that I am not completely rid off. So I was all planned on leaving for London England on the 4th of April, but I still continued to get sick. My doctor thought that I had all of the signs of liver cancer. So I was sent for many tests to find out if this was the case. So the next day I went to my doctor: He said to me: 'I have good news and bad news. The good news is that you dont have liver cancer. The bad news is that you have hepatitis b and it is actively damaging your liver and you need to start 6 months treatment immediately.' Now this is the worst part. It is now June 2004. I have already lost 2 months off my visa and my medical aid (insurance) does not recognise the treatment that I need to have as a chronic illness. So I have to use the money that I have saved for the past 3 years to pay for my treatment instead of going travelling. At the moment I am sort of numb to any emotion, because I cannot believe what is happening, I also feel really sad because once my treatment is finished I will only have a year left on my visa but I wil have no money left to go travelling because it will all be spent on medical bills. I dont know how to deal with bad news like this. Sorry for the long post but if anyone could give me some words of advice or encouragement I would really appreciate it. Peace 0X
  14. First of all the reason why u r getting pimples is because your sweat glands are producing lots of oil because of all the hormones in your body as a result of the onset of puberty. All you need then is a speck of dirt in one of those sweat glands to block it up and hey presto a pimple. No one likes them and they are usually found on the face (why there of all places) and the back and shoulders. The first goldern rule is keep your hands off! Do not pick, scratch or squeeze at any time. Always keep your skin as clean as possible. Do this by using a face wash - I prefer Clearasil and also use a facial scrub. A facial scrub has micro beads that clean the skin and remove dead skin cells. If you still have a problem maybe you could go and see a dermatologist (skin doctor) who might prescribe Caracatan or some other medication for your skin. As for the chocolate thing, I'd say that's just a myth but I would also suggest keeping to a healthy and balanced diet. Yeah pimples really suck but everyone gets them and they all go away after a few months. The reason why I know a bit about pimples is because when I was growing up I had lots of them, braces and I was very thin - but now things are just a bit different. Just remember pimples are a part of growing up. Peace 0X
  15. A few months ago I met Ursula through a friend of mine called Jodie. I really liked this girl Ursula but she had a bf at the time so there was not much going on between us. Now a few days later my friend Jodie phones me and tells me that Ursula has broken up with her bf and we should get together and do something. So Jodie texts me Ursulas number and then texts my number to Ursula. Later that evening I get a text from Ursula: "Hi I am Ursula (remember me?). Jodie gave me your number, we should go for a drink one evening, let me know when. Bye" So I give her a call, we have a nice chat, a good laugh and decide to meet on Wednesday at 17:00 in the evening. There is a bar/resturant on the beachfront that has a fantastic view of the sunset. I said that I would phone her at 15:00 to arrange where we would meet and where we were going, etc. So wednesday comes (lovely day by the way) and I try to call her, surprise, surprise, her phone is off. So I just send her a text message and leave it at that. No reply. Later that evening I send her another text saying: "Couldnt get hold of u 2day. Do u still want to go for that drink?", she replies back: "Sorry I didnt call sooner, will call u 2mrrw". So the next day she sends me an email and says "Sorry about yesterday, but my ex came to see me on Monday and asked me to give him another chance, at first I didnt want to, but I am giving him 3 months to prove himself. Anyways the battery on my phone was dead too. I still want to stay in contact with you, so please still email me. Btw how was your weekend away up the coast? Jodie also tells me that u r going overseas soon where do u plan on going?" I mean for crying out loud, she just disses me the previous day on a drink/date, for her ex who is a total loser and never respects her. Then she tells me oh her battery was low, yeah right. Then she says but please still email me why? So that I can be her shoulder to cry on or rebound-boy when her white-trash boyfriend starts his nonsense again. All I want to know from this forum is what should I do? Is she lying or telling the truth? If she didnt like me why did she contact me, she is not going to hurt my feeling if she is just honest with me. Should I stay friends with her, leave her alone? If I am getting this much bull**** before we are going out, I dont want to begin imagining how much is on the way. What should I do? Thanx 0X
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