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  1. Not actually true. The pain from regret goes away once you meet someone else. In fact, it is possible to look at regret as better than rejection. Think about it: If you go for it and you are rejected then that may stop you from asking the next person out because you assume you will be rejected again. BUT... If you don't go for it and feel regret then the next time you meet someone you will definitely not want to screw up again so there is a greater chance that you will go for it. It feels like a second chance (or third, or fourth ) And that opportunity to make up for your inaction in the past will definitely spur you on.
  2. I don't even know when it is. Most years I don't even realize it happened. I've never had a girlfriend during Valentine's day (or Christmas either) which is a cool thing because I didn't have to buy any presents! Actually, of the girlfriends I have had, I have never been with them over their birthdays either. So I have never had to buy a present at all! (except for a few little things just for the hell of it)
  3. I know, thats how I feel, but apparently that is a turnoff to a lot of girls.
  4. Wow! You admitted that! I never admit that I studied computer science any more. As soon as I say that immediately the girls are like "Geek Alert"! Seriously, I have had girls immediately lose interest as soon as I brought that up. And now, the way the market is, its worse! its like "Unemployed Geek Alert"! (just joking )
  5. Ha, I majored in computer science which is 5% female and they were all asian too!
  6. Yes, you're right, but there is one thing I need to clear up here. We are not all equal. Some people are better than others. Like, for example, Mother Theresa is better than Adolf Hitler. Or a man who loves and cares for his wife is better than a man who is identical in every way except he beats his wife.
  7. Now that I have moved away from university I have trouble finding guy friends too for the same reason. At university it was a differnet story. Now, my only guy friends, apart from old friends from uni that live far away, are guys I play golf with. And we only ever meet at the golf club and they don't have girlfriends either Oh yeah, and few of them are my age. Kind of on a separate note: I was just thinking about why I am afraid to ask girls out and I think the main reason is that I am afraid of embarrassing them or putting them on the spot. I don't care about being rejected myself but I don't want to make them feel awkward unless I know they are already seriously interested in me.
  8. How exactly do you "dance" with someone at a club? Other than grinding. I was at a rave on saturday (actually most of it was sunday I guess ) and you can only dance "next to" someone, not with them. I think it would be physically dangerous to try to dance to rave music when connected to another person. I guess its different if they're playing R&B or something and most clubs are playing R&B these days (which is why I don't go clubbing anymore) In most clubs these days it is too loud to actually talk to anyone anyway. And from my experience I haven't really seen that many people getting together in a club. It happens of course but its a small percentage (like maybe 5% or less?)
  9. What you "want" and what you will "accept" are two different things. Everyone wants someone who is the best. They may deny it but think about it. If you were offered two people who were nearly identical except one had some slight advantage over the other, which one would you pick? You would pick the better one. Now, if you were presented with another person who again was nearly identical to the one you picked but ever so slightly better you would probably prefer to have the new person. Now just keep repeating this process and you will end up with the perfect person. BUT, you may "accept" any of them, even the lowest, depending on your standards. So, everyone may want what the original poster described but what will people accept??
  10. Yeah, I think about that too but then I realize How the hell am I going to know she is the one? I'll probably end up just walking right past her and never see her again. The only way this "meeting you soulmate walking down the street thing" is ever going to work is if you stop every person you come accross and initiate a deep conversation with them. Its not like their is a sign over their head saying "I'm the one"!
  11. Yeah, you can't just "wait around" for love. Lots of shy guys don't even have female friends or acquaintances. So you can't say "Every girl that I've liked, the feelings developed from our friendship." These guys don't even have any friendships to be developed. How do you get girls to be friends with you in the first place? Love isn't going to find you if you don't get to know any girls in the first place. I was in a coffee shop today and I saw this guy sitting with three girls. How does he do it?? I'm not really shy and even I can't do that. But I've found that, for some reason, I'm not really compatible with girls my age. It seems I only ever get along with girls who are either a lot younger or a lot older than me. Maybe its because I am kind of a different person and if there is an age difference then you expect the other person to be different but if you are the same age then they want you to "fit in" with their life, their friends and just be normal. I can't find female friends my age because I like different music, different TV shows, different food, different activites etc. and it just scares them away. I'm not a freak or anything, I actually seem like a perfectly normal guy and girls seem to come on to me at first but once they get to know me they become disinterested. So I can't just wait around for someone to find me because the chances are too low and I have to actively (and up to this point unsuccessfully) try to find someone who I am compatible with. Unless you are a normal guy you can't just wait around. I did a test on some website a while back and it said that about 10% of girls matched what I was looking for but only 30% of those girls were looking for someone like me. So thats 3% of all girls who are compatible with me and then how many of those are single? Probably a lot because they are in the same boat as me but lets say 2 out of 3 so that 2% of girls or 1 in 50 that would be good for me. So I have to go out and try to meet and get to know 50 girls before I find someone. That is going to take a while! And also, if you are over, say, 22 then you need a good job and money or the girls will think you are a loser.
  12. We had kind of moved the conversation more into the general starting about 1 page ago. My comments do not really apply to the specific situation of the original poster. I'm just putting up a hypothetical scenario in which the teacher and student are in real love. Which is more important then? the relationship or the job?
  13. Your brainwaves need a medium (ie. a brain ) to survive. So they couldn't really leave your body and become one with the universe. I mean you are eminating waves from your brain all the time. Are they becoeming part of the universe already? They just dissipate. Brainwaves are just sort of a product of the functioning of your brain. They are not the brain itself. Once the brain stops functioning (due to lack of blood, oxygen etc.) it stops producing waves. You can't prove anything 100% (except in mathematics where a proof is not accepted unless it is 100%) so it may be that the universe is some kind of illusion and that we go somewhere else after we die. We can't know for sure, there is no real evidence supporting any afterlife theory. Even the theory that everything goes black and its over. Personally, I don't care if there is or isn't an afterlife. If there is then that is cool! but if there isn't then I will not be around to realize it! Do you get my point? Its not like you have to lie there staring at darkness for eternity! Either their is an afterlife and you are their to experience it or their isn't one and you are not around to know that there isn't one. I am not afraid of dying I am only afraid of how I will die. If, without any warning, I suddenly died right now I wouldn't care! Because either I wouldn't be around any longer to care, or I would be in heaven! You can't lose!! Another thing I think is that the Earth is like a giant organism and I am just a part of it, like a cell in the human body. When I die it is not all that important because the Earth still lives on. I said above that I am only afraid of how I might die. Like, for example, I think being deep fried would probably be one of the worst ways!
  14. When you are in love with someone you would care more about them than your job. And if you are in a big university then the chances of having the same teacher twice are rather low so you could just keep it quiet for a couple of months until the term is over.
  15. Rape is such a difficult subject and I think as a man (and I'm not being sarcastic or anything here, this is what I truly feel) but as a man I'm not qualified to comment on it. It's just not possible for a man to understand what it really means. So I will cease to discuss this further because I don't think I can help any more.
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