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  1. I don't think it is right for me to ask her to choose. She would feel awful doing so anyways. I just wish there was some way that I could talk to him before hand and ease the tension, so when we see eachother at the dinner things will be fine. Unfortunately he had it in his head when we broke up that he doesn't want to be friends with me... that isn't why he broke up. He broke up because he wanted me out of his life.
  2. My ex and I had a rough breakup, but a great relationship. It ended without much notice, and a few mean words from him ( he fell out of love with me... my words) He is still in the possesion of my stuff too. It has been a month since I have tried to contact him.. his last response was impolitely " your stuff is in the mail". My problem is we have a mutual friend who has an Christmas eve party, and she doesn't want to count one of us out...but he doesnt want to have anything to do with me, an dI don't think I am ready to see him. If I don't go to this dinner, I will be left out.. and the night will suck... all because of my ex. But if I go and he shows too, things will definitely be uncomfortable. He may even go as far as treating me disrespectfully. I can handle being nice to him.. seeing that I was the dumpee, and I am a bit older too. I will say merry christmas and smile, then move to someone else.. hopefully. But since the breakup.. he is nothing but disappointing surprises. What should I do? Should I just bail on the dinner? How can I talk to my friend and make her feel better about being in the middle? I mean there is no real way... to feel good about it. But what can I do so she isn't in the middle anymore? What do you guys think the right thing to do is?
  3. whatever you do.. DO NOT CALL HIM I made the mistake after his break, because he did choose to split with me.. to call him.. and I ended up making him hate me... not care at all. And I think I lost all chance of him coming back. He will remember the last tast of you he had.. and it is up to you to make sure it was a good one!
  4. Wow! I feel like you described the same step I am in. Where hope meets disappointment. I want to talk to my ex, but he does not. I want reconciliation... and I assume he does not care. I think I took it to far for NC to work... but I don't know. Everyday is a new day. But do ex take time out and end up being ok to talk wit eachother...cause I hope most do. We never fought when we were together.. so why now?
  5. ask her in private.. do what makes you comfortable.
  6. I agree... the sooner the better. If I like you, I want to hang out with you right now.. before the jitters get the best of me.
  7. I would suggest you continue talking to her. She introduced herself for a reason. Talk to her, until you find out why.
  8. First off, an email... she probably won't get until Monday. It is a holiday weekend, so she could have gone off to see her family. Second... I agree with most everyone, you should wait. The thing is... I know the weekend is here, and if you wait until Monday, you won't have lunch until later... and if she works she probably likes to schedule ahead of time. I don't know if anyone has read the book just not that into you: but many of us females have... and it suggests after about 3 days.. if you haven't heard from him.. he's just not that into you... If you are interested, don't give up, call her Sunday evening around 7, and mention lunch again for two days later... have a suggestion of time and date ready, so she knows you are planning it and thinking about it.
  9. I am not sure what grade you may be in.. but I am guessing middle or highschool -dances. When she says hi to you... is she usually with her friends. This is important, if she talks to you on her own, or says hi in passing and her friends aren't around, then yes.. I believe you should ask her out. If she is always with her friends, I think you should move with caution. Talk to her about the dance, proceed slowly... read her body language and expressions. Ask her indirectly if she is going to the dance, and how she is getting there. Maybe she would like to ride with you, or go out for dessert afterwards. And remember... to us girls.. the last dance is the one we remember the most.
  10. Maybe you could just give out your number or email... that way you are putting the ball in their court. I have a guy friend who got tired of girls giving him fake numbers. He said he finally said... here is my number, I would love to hang out sometime. He even bluntly told him why he was giving his number and not asking for theirs. Another thing... some girls will give fake communication lines because they feel you won't use it anyways. What better way to save yourself the disappointment of him not calling then to not give him the number ( email in your case) in the first place. I guess, what I am trying to say... maybe - ask them flat out right there, hey you want to go for some coffee. Nobody wants to hurt feelings, so the chance that you have a girl say she isn't interested at the beginning.. is rare. I told a guy I wasn't interested once... I was forward and honest, and the guy and his buddy said I was a B****. So, I probably will shy away from being so honest again.
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