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  1. so i visit a local restaraunt just about every other day for lunch. quick in and out with some grinders or something. problem is now i go there for more then just grinders. i am finding myself attracted to a woman that works there. im 29 and im guessing she's alittle older then me or right around my age. her "bubbly" prsonality is what really gets me. i find myself driving back to work with a smile when i see her. we have never had more then small talk. time just doesnt allow for it due to my need to get back to work and her actually working. anyway.............i dont see a ring on her finger and i have no idea what her "status" is but i have this burning desire to want to get to know her better. im new to the "dating scene". how do i go about this? would i be a physco if i simply asked her if she was available? at the same time the place is usually swarming with people so i dont want to make her uncomfortable or make myself look like a goofball. what do i do? we have noticably gotten "friendlier" but that just may be her everyday dealing with customers. maybe im just crazy for being attracted to the woman that collects my money and gives me my grindes. LOL any ideas? what are my options? after being single for to long and not even really being interested in dating. i find myself all giddy like alittle school girl about this woman. what the???!!!!
  2. I dont know where to start. for the first time in many years ive learned, decided, etc. that i need to change. i just need to know where to start. this is going to be a rant. over the last 4 to 5 years ive become a very bitter person. i seem to come off as "angry" or "upset" or even "unaproachable". im 29 years old and im a male. i have been single for approx 3 to 4 years. i come from a broken family that was caused by my father. at 29 im still at home helping mom. my sister moved out years ago with her fiance. ive been "trapped" here and been "man of the house" since i was 13. ive stayed for many reasons. right now its due to the fact i make crap money at my courant job. i dont believe in paying "rent" for something i won't own. saving money seems impossable. i have all these emotions that i never used to have. like "watery eyes" when i see something only a woman would cry at on TV. i get frustrated easily, i lack confidence and even the will power to get close to people. evereyday i wish i was'nt in my shoes. i dont wan't to go out and party every weekend like everyone i grew up with. when i get dragged out i feel out of place. in reality i am. i opt to stay home by myself most weekends as i have a few hobbies that require getting up early(fidhing) its to the point now that i get very few calls to even go out. i never used to be this way thats what bothers me. all through school i was "that guy". had tons of friends varsity soccer captain, voted best looking, etc, etc. even after school it was that way for along time. the last 4 or 5 years ive kinda just been a zombie. cold to any kind of relationship. i dont ask girls out even though id really like one. i fear getting close to people now. i could talk to anyone before. i have zero girlfriends. all my friends are guys. i really only hear from a few of them. the rest i suppose have kinds drifted away. im a mess. where do i start? im almost 30 years old and my life is miserable. 4 years ago i lost a girl that was very important to me. soon followed by the dimise of a newly started business. i was in a very bad place then.since then ive just dragged through life being a miserable kinda person. inside im a pile of goooo. im lost. 12 years ago i had life all planned out. good job, house, wife, kids. at almost 30 i have none of the above. how depressing. ive often though about moving just to try and rid myself of this seed that i have planted in peoples heads that i am miserable. life is slipping away before my eyes. i need to do something.
  3. oh my god!!!! "burning wax on my lady parts"..................you poor thing!!!! i wouldnt let anybody with anything that was burning near "man parts". they got socked in the mouth. now i could get alittle "kinky" and try the burning wax on the chest or something. "man parts" cant like hot burning wax. ouch. cant they invent some "cool" wax or something. that just seems so painfull!!!
  4. skank stamp..............havent heard that one before!!!!! LMAO!!! although im all for showing your "patriotism" im not a big fan of american flag tattoos. you see them everywhere. after 9/11 tattoos of flags went up 200% if not more. im a big van of "custom" tattoos..........something nobody else has. as for the comment you made "no weird crap like dragons or stuff like that"..............."to each there own buddy". dragons make excellant tattoos. i happen to have one that overs 1/2 my upper torso. whats weird to you isnt to all. you come off as a person that may have run off and gotten a tattoo to look "cool" or to "get girls". why would you get a tattoo with every intent of "hiding it"? whats the point? tattoos are art like paintings they should be seen. whats a painting worth covered in a sheet? nada. this is just my $0.02 on the subject.
  5. if he's started using meth his road to distruction will be a quick one. the two drugs i never tried were heroin and meth. mainly because meth wasnt really available during "my time". meth has made its way to the east coast and im glad it wasnt here 10 years ago. heroin always just seemed like a dity drug that i just didnt want to try. i didnt like the idea of being "hooked" after only one try. so i never bothered. my situation may be unique.........................i was a mess through highschool. that was my party time. at the ripe age of 18 i made a decision to leave school. may have saved my life. i grew up real quick. i quit the "hard stuff". i havent touched anything except weed in over 10 years. some of the drugs he is messing with are no joke. especially the meth. bad news. i feel the only thing you can do is save yourself. remove him and all other users from your life. i know its hard................but you need to do it. blieve me..............there is life after this guy.
  6. sweet....................looks like im getting waxed and finally getting rid of this nasty hair. im not grossly hairy but what i have i feel is to much. OF WITH THE HAIR!!!!!!!
  7. im a guy and have considered waxing some areas due to tattoos. kinda like covering a painting with a sheet. how long does this generally last? does it promote ingrown hairs? how bad does it hurt??? is this something i should do myself? or should i go to a salon or something? is it normal for a guy to go to a salon to get waxed??? im a lean guy. unfortunately the genes in my family left me alittle hairy. all my life i have hated it. at times ive kept my shirt on because of it. ive been considering trying waxing.......but am alittle nervous about the hole thing being a guy. is this more normal then i think it is??
  8. at 5'-11" and wieghting between 142-145lbs i was surprised to see that i was in the normal range. thats cool!! you seem alright aswell......cool!!!!!
  9. jeremy...................you nailed it bro. exactly what i was thinking. it was 10 years to a t when i got this big dragon started. 9 hours of outline and we start shading next month. i choice the chinese fire dragon because it represents me perfectly. chinese art such as dragons, koi, etc, etc, all carry a meaning.
  10. i hope i dont come off as a jerk for saying this but........................... i thought your topic was good until i read "no sleeves or dragons or weird stuff like that" that comment in its self tells me your not open minded enough for a tattoo. obviously your "girlfriend" isnt open minded. one of the many great things about tattoo's is the huge variety of work you see out there. what you percieve as "weird" may not to someone else. i always live by the saying "to each there own". i have a(in your words) a "weird" chinese style dragon that basically covers my left side from my hip to my shoulder. what makes this tattoo any weirder then the flag tattoo your getting?
  11. i dont get it. im 29 years old and would give my right leg to be settled down, married, and in a posistion to have kids. this guy is 46 and obviously married to a good woman and he's chasing other woman???? he's an idiot. he wants kids........he better get doing then. if you leave him.....................i live in CT. id make the drive to NYC!!!!!! holar!!!!!!
  12. i feel for you. my mother and sister both got migranes regularly. sometimes it seemed every month one of them was down. they are debilitating. both of them would experienece spouts of vomiting whenthe migranes were around. could have been the medication both used. i beleieve it was called IMITREX. i believe you can get it in a pill form but both of them had the shots. they worked quicker to relieve the pain. i dont know of any home remedies. im sorry. i do know how tough they can be to deal with though. goodluck!!
  13. i totally disagree with anyone that says "shyness means lack of confidence". i think that comment is a total crock.
  14. lol............you sound like me. bottom line is.............some girls do and some dont. be yourslef and nothing else. some people are just "lean". i hate being called "skinnny".
  15. wow...........your on some pickle. i can only comment from what i have read above. i think your wife has some issues that need to be dealt with. if she wont do it with you then leave her and let her figure it out on your own. believe me dont do it for your child. i admire your want to keep the "family" together. im a product of a single mother. at 29 years old i turned out pretty good. you can still be a huge part of your childs life even if you decide to divorce. you are in a situation i hope to never be in bro. i really feel for you. it sounds you may have married for the wrong reasons. a child on the way is no reason to tie the not. i hope you can sort this all out. have you sat her down and told her all of what you have said here? what was her response? if she doesnt change i would leave for your own sanity. your wife seems to be dragging you down. up until the child was born was this around the time things changed? i ask this because it appears that your wife had the need to have a child. with the miscarriages mixed in she........it must have gotten to her. i went through this once with my ex. its something i think about often. i wonder what if.................. anyway im sorry to hear this story. its pretty sad to be honest. please let us know what happens.
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