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  1. Well, if your friends with her, then just invite her over some time, or go round to hers, and get a good chance to talk to her alone, find out more about her before you jump into anything. Its a risk really, if you feel like telling her how you feel then theres a chance youll end up with her and happy, but theres also a chance you will lose her friendship. And sadly, its down to you to choose whether the risk is worth it. Good luck
  2. If a guy finds you attractive just because of the fact you smoke pot, then thats probably not someone you want to be good friends with, let alone start a relationship with. Friendships and relationships are based on the person's personality (well, you wouldnt be so sure nowadays). But smoking pot is just an activity, just like cycling, coding, drawing, whatever.. It shouldnt be the only reason someone likes you, but it might get you some attention (not always the good type). I agree with what yorkrose says too, dont do something like smoke pot just to attract a person. Theres always a good reason to do something, but that aint it.
  3. I agree with most of the comments, that women are more likely to either cut, and tell others that they do. Some of it is because men hide their emotions in an attempt to seem stronger, some of it because girls are just generally open. There also seems to be a whole area that girls are more accepted for doing stranger things, when they are in trouble or doing something they shouldnt, they seem to receive more help than when a man calls for help (not talking about on this forum, just in the life around me), (i dont want to offend anyone with that comment, im pretty sure that its not true, its just either something which happens in my area, or i have a biased view of the situation), and that again, could also be because if a woman is comfronted about a problem they have, they are again more likely to talk about it.. if someone somehow found out about the things i do, self harming, suicidal thoughts, then i wouldnt open up to them, even if it was my best friend, id rather not open up to them, as i believe it would just cause them a burden more than it'll help me. I dont want to hurt other people, especially not my friends. women in general seem more opened about feelings and emotions than men, some men hide their emotions because they dont want to hurt their image, some because they dont want to hurt others.. It's impossible to simply group people, everyone is different, but that does seem to be the general feeling.
  4. But then again drahcir, with intelligence and knowledge comes others problems, such as consciousness of pain and hurt around the world.. Animals dont worry about problems in the world, they dont have to deal with relationships, with (funnily enough) suicide, death, etc.. Yes, their family might die, but it doesnt hurt them like it does a human (or at least as far as we know..). Self harming and suicide has nothing to do with intelligence.
  5. Theres isnt really such a thing as "excessiveness" of cutting, if your doing it to cope, then you do as much as you need to calm your feelings or depression, it trully depends on the person.. i usually just cut at my left wrist, a line perpendicular to the arm, and just go over the same mark (i dont want others seeing it), and i always wear a watch or wristband to cover it, if i did it in the arms, it would mean i wouldnt be able to wear tshirts, and hey.. this way i might just 'slip' one day, "chance" as they call it. Anyway, its good that you two know of each other self harming, you should really try to talk to each other about your problems rather than cutting to try and make it go away.. self harming is just like closing the door to keep out a tank.. it helps for a while, but some day the tank's just going to drive right through that door.. talking can help much more, and can also make you feel better as you are helping a friend through a tough time. Take care, gunblade PS: just noticed how late the reply was.. sorry about that, been away for a while..
  6. 1. Have you ever seriously considered committing suicide? (you can answer no and I will post that response too) Yes, Ive considered many times, and i still do, i sometimes lie awake for a long while just thinking about it.. 2. What led you to consider suicide? Depression, Loneliness, Hatred of myself for what i am and for what i do, the feeling that i hurt others more than i cause them good. 3. What caused you to not commit suicide? Mainly my parents, i've always really cared more about others than myself, i self harm every so often, and do harmful things, (its one way of coping..), but i could never hurt someone else.. and thats why the knowledge of how much me killing myself would hurt my parents has prevented me from actually carrying it through, also the reason they dont know of my self harming, they are wonderful people, and the last thing i want to do is hurt them in any way or form 4. Do you have any advice for anyone thinking about committing suicide? Either try to find a way to cope with the pain you feel, or commit suicide. As much as others tell you that there is a way to cope, everything is going to get better, they dont really know you trully. We are all different, and very few of us fully open up our feelings, its not always a bad thing, but it means that you have to look in yourself for answers. Do what your mind tells you, you are the only one who really knows you.
  7. Galrok, i agree with what you say.. seeking the help of another can hurt them quite a bit, especially if their just not prepared for what you have to say to them. Talking can help, but you must just make sure you talk to the right person, usually someone who has gone through something similar to yourself is the one which would understand the most, and would be able to handle the situation most. But then again, your never sure whether they will be stable enough to give out advice. .what you tell them might bring back bad memories, etc.. According to all the websites about self harm, most of the posts which people post and such, you should go see a therapist. Now if your looking for help, that might be a good idea.. just make sure that the therapist (or GP (doctor)), promises to keep what you tell them confidential.. as depending on your age, they might try and contact your relatives with this information. The good thing about therapists, is that they get training for these things, also its not someone you know, so you can talk to them, and it wont hurt them, as they do not know you, you are just a client to them. Of course, the bad side could be the price, but like everything in this life.. things come at a price. Self harm is like anything in life.. done every so often, its not bad for you, it can help, but do it too much, and you might get addicted (eg: smoking, alcohol, drugs..). So just stay sensible about how much you do it, if it helps you stabilise your feelings when you do it, then its fine.. if you just do it because its just something you _need_ to do, then it might become addicting. Oh, and as scary as thisisnotanexit makes it sound.. cutting in the wrist area is not as dangerous as he makes it sound.. its the only place i've ever cut, and even when it went deep, all it did was bring up blood, you would have to go stupidly deep to cut an artery, and even if you did.. so what.. it'll take the pain away for good, not such a bad thing. (my view anyway..) Gunblade
  8. People who ignore your advice, can be annoying, but sometimes, people have to experience something for themselves before they realise whether its right or wrong.. you can be there to try and help them, but ultimetly, its down to them. I dont know about the whole not getting a chance thing.. i dont mind it at all, but then i amnt the type that is really interested.. making others happy is what makes me happy.. so i just try and help whenever i can. i would say, if your interested in the person, then state your feeling towards them.. but saying that.. i cant even tell a friend how strongly i care for them.. Sometimes people are overlooked, and usually those are the kindest persons, as they are expected to be nice, and are not recognised for it.. Gunblade
  9. Well, another guy posting and well, it just depends on the person, you get guys who, if they like a girl, will ask them out within 5 seconds of meeting them, but there are others who are just much too shy to ask, and they are usually the nicest people, just quiet-ish. I've seen a friend (guy) of mine pursue another friend (girl), who he _really_ likes.. but hes just been too shy to ask her out, and maybe a year after they knew each other, and they got close friends, he told her his feelings.. but she rejected him, and hes been getting worse and worse lately, in general, and towards her... but thats another story. So that theory in the book, in my opinion, is a bad one.. Shy guys might take a long time to tell a girl his feelings, usually only when he knows her better. So theres no way to know really if someone really likes you, theres always probably hints, the way he looks at you, but not much else gunblade
  10. Well it got deleted anyway (i checked rules just before posting.. but either didnt block the swearing enough, or the religious-comment).. Me calling it lying, is just like you telling it to people as truth.. neither of us can prove it.. Nevermind though, the comment was out of line aparently, so ill just leave it at that. gunblade
  11. You never really know when youve met the one, I've known way too many people who've been in a relationship, which they said was "the one", and all too many times, they ended up breaking up.. Nothing is sure in this world, especially not love. gunblade
  12. As Jonny said, stretch marks are really common, I have some in the lower stomach area, and used to ahve some in the inside of the first half of my arm (bit between shoulder and elbow), but those seem to have disapeared.. I'm not sure when they appeared, but i dont really care about them, as i aint one to show off my body gunblade
  13. finittz, whether she hates him or not depends really on the way its said.. if she is jokingly saying she hates him, its most probably not serious, just one of these "man i hate that guy".. but in a joking manner, thereforeeee it means nothing, their just friends. but if she is serious in the tone which she tells you that in, then she might really hate him. Just like when she hits him.. theres two ways really, either she likes him, she feels quite shy around him, so she jokingly hits him on the arm or such just to lighten the mood, or just because she doesnt want an akward silent moment, or.. she might be hitting him because she really does hate him, or third could just be friend-hitting... them just messing around because its something to do. You can tell a lot by facial expressions of the person when they do an action or say something.. (I really have to start making sense.. second post today i just cant seem to write down what i really want to say, just comes out.. wrong). Oh, and you cant really say whether its "something girls do".. as everyone is different, it just depends on the person/the way they say it. gunblade
  14. Very good comments made, I havent known someone who killed themselves, but was very good friends with a girl who tried it, on the outside, she looked fine, you might be able to see every so often that she might be "down", but never around friends, its an external face which she put on.. In my opinion, the world we live in kind of forces that.. it just requires that people show themselves to be happy, i dont know how better to put it, but it just forces people to hide their depression, as most of society (saying most, as there are exeptions), usually dont want to deal with depressed people, they just want things happy, and to not have to deal with sadness, especially not when its in others. Sorry if that didnt make much sense.. it doesnt in my head either.. gunblade
  15. i thought the doctor confidentiality depended on age, if your underage ( but about seeking help, you should ask your councelor (or whoever you approach), to keep it confidential, and tell them that they must, if they disagree and say that they might report what you say to your parents, or cant promise confidentiality, then be careful what you tell them
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