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  1. I would bet he's still into you, though it puzzles me why he'd come visit you with his girlfriend... maybe since he has a girlfriend, he's put his sexual feelings for you on the back burner, but they're still there.
  2. It sounds like this relationship's run its course: you cheated on him in the past and it doesn't seem like it's something he's ever going to let go of - time to move on. Take a couple months to re-examine yourself and hopefully when you enter into a new relationship, you won't make the same mistake.
  3. We were driving home from the state tournament today and we were talking about my teammate Austin (everyone wonders about his sexuality) so I threw out the question, "Would what you guys do if Austin came out as gay?" and my two teammates who were in the car replied, "Uhh find someone else to wrestle." Coming out isn't looking good.
  4. He definitely sees it as a big rejection... he most likely had faced a lot of it in his life and is highly sensitive to it, hence his SAD. There's a good chance that he couldn't tell if he was progressing too slowly sexually and so he impulsively "stole home" in order to compensate. At this point, he probably thinks that the relationship is permanently damaged and he feels like he made such a big mistake that it could never be fixed. If you really want this guy back, then you need to impress upon him that this is just a learning point and that you don't think any less of him. Let him know that you'll try to communicate with him more effectively so nothing like this happens again. Most importantly, make sure he knows that you don't think he's a failure. If you do all these things and let him know how badly you want him back but he still refuses, then it's out of your hands and I guess he really isn't ready for a relationship.
  5. Thanks for the advice everyone. I would never come on to a straight guy anyway so the issue about the age difference is moot. However, I do think that most straight guys would have a problem wrestling someone they knew liked boys in practice... think about how awkward that'd be for them. I know they're ignorant but that's the way of the world, unfortunately. So is it still a good idea to stop denying it?
  6. Why lie? Because I'm on a wrestling team that involves lots of male-male contact. That's gonna be awkward for the straight ones. And what's three years? He looks older anyway. But my attraction to this kid really isn't the point here.
  7. He's definitely straight. I have no illusions about being able to get with him. The issue is the guilt I feel when denying my sexuality.
  8. So I'm 17, male, bisexual, and co-captain of my school's wrestling team. In practice, I work with this blond, blue-eyed, muscular eighth grader whom I find immensely attractive, but no one knows this. There is a part of the eighth grade class who knows I'm bi and so I've had a few of these sort of these conversations with my hot wrestling partner: Me: There are these kids in your class who whisper things like "fag" and "gay" whenever I walk by, when they're freshmen next year I'm gonna make their lives hell. Him: Yeah I know, they say you're bisexual... Me: I know, what's up with that? Him: Yeah, I know that's not true anyway. And everytime I have one of those I mentally kick myself because I hate the situation. It's ironic because he has no idea that I think he's incredibly hot. He's a nice kid who I don't think would actively make fun of me but it would make things incredibly awkward for us when we wrestle. I doubt it'd ever be the same. Also, I wouldn't be surprised if other, less mature people on the team found out and that would make it uncomfortable for everyone. I hate denying what I am but unfortunately I don't see any other way in this situation. The issue here is having people on the wrestling team know I'm bi... is this one of those time when it's best to remain closeted for the sake of the team? Has anyone else faced similar circumstances?
  9. Hey guys, Jealousy is something that has plagued me throughout my life. I have this on-and-off thing going with this girl and we recently broke up. Usually our breakups haven't lasted long and we haven't been with anyone else in between. During the summer of 2005, however, she hooked up with some guy just for some quick sexual activity and I hooked up with several people. It took me a while to get over her activity with that guy, and involved her having to constantly reassure me that she didn't think about him anymore and that I was better than him. I know it's not fair and that I'm the one with the problem, because even though I was with more people, she was hurt a lot less by it. I wish I could have her attitude. Anyway, so that was an example of what happened then and now that it looks like we'll be broken up for at least a few months if not forever, I'm very afraid that the same thing will happen. This is my greatest fear with this breakup... the fear of being hurt even worse because it'd feel like such a deep rejection to me. Now, I'm a very logical and left-brained person, but sometimes my emotional side messes with my head. I know that I can't blame her for what she does while we're not going out, but yet it's my biggest fear that if we ever got back together, it'd hurt me so bad. Yet at the same time I want to hook up with some people and I'd expect her to accept it if we got back together because I'd know that it was purely sexual and meant nothing to me emotionally. But if she gave the same reasons, I'd still be haunted by the knowledge that she was with someone else. I know that this is hypocritical and I want to fix this. So, a few things: 1. If you and your partner take a break and one or more of you hooks up with someone else and then you get back together, are you justified in being hurt? How can you forgive your partner and not be plagued with images from the past? 2. If you and your partner break up for good, how can you avoid feeling terrible if you learn that they either have had a hook up or are now with someone else? Thanks for your help.
  10. Alright, my girlfiend and I tried again today, and it was still really painful for her. I really don't think it's nervousness or an unreadiness to have sex because when I showed up at her house today, she dressed up really sexy by her own volition and was practically dragging me to bed. See, the thing is that she never even fingers herself... she masturbates with only clitoral stimulation. So me fingering her with just one finger feels tight anyway. So with me, we can get about 3 inches in but that takes some effort. Also, since I have to stay still and wait for her to adjust, my erection gets a little flimsy and then with her tightness, it's impossible to thrust. She wants really badly for this to work... what can we do?
  11. That was a pretty blunt post by silky, but maybe it's what you need to hear. If cold, hard common sense won't do it for you, then you've obviously got a deep-rooted jealously problem and I agree with one of the above posters who suggested therapy.
  12. Thanks for the replies so far guys. She was really wet when we tried both times so that's not the issue. Someone suggested making her orgasm before penetrating her, is that a good idea? I know that if a guy orgasms he loses his horniness for a little while, is the same true for girls? I've been going down on her beforehand but avoiding making her come.
  13. I have my doubts about that. We waited a year and a half before making love. I think it has more to do with the fact that the biggest thing she had ever penetrated herself with was two of her small fingers before we did it and I'm almost 2x wider than that. And also, there was no pressuring involved.
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