hintah

You 're addicted to her. You must go out and meet other women. Make Valentine's Dinner with someone else. Hold a Valentine's Day party at your house and invite people you like....a girl you just met, etc. She meant what she said, listen to her. You deserve better. All the best, Hintah

Just because she said okay, do what you want, doesn't mean it was really okay. She's upset because she thinks you preferred to go with your friend. Originally, you were supposed to be doing something with her...the fact that she invited a friend just means she wanted to have fun with you AND her friend. A woman never prefers her friend over her boyfriend (unlike some men who prefer their male friends over their girlfriends). You also embarrassed her in front of her friend. Imagine how she felt telling her friend you changed your plans. Women like to show off how great their guy is (as quiet as this is kept). You should have told your friend: You're welcome to come along and sled with us-it'll be two girls and two guys now. If you want to do something else, I'll catch you on another day. I have already planned an event with my girlfriend. Apologize to your girlfriend for: -bumping her off your schedule -embarrassing her in front of her friend. I hope this helps. -Hinta

Hi. Whatever you do, be very nice to her. I've been in her situation before. The guy just simply ignored me, and as a result I ended up feeling very hurt and rejected. This is a hard one, but this is how you handle it. Tell her, "I'd like to go out, but I'm not romantically available. I'm sure we'll have a good time, and I'll be happy to tell some of my bachelor friends how cool you are." If you'd still like to go out with me, let me know." I hope this helps.

Tell him: I don't know your situation, but when you're in between girlfriends, can you please give me a call. Have a note prepared with your phone number. I hope this helps.

Send her a note: In your note say, "I want to know you better so I'll go first. Here are five things about me." Include your phone number at the bottom. Make sure the five things are cool things. Like, I play the flute I've been to Japan I jumped out of a plane Just make sure they are things that are true. Don't be surprised if you find out her friends saw the note. If its a good note, you may get lucky and get more than one date. By the way, give her a note, not an email. Notes are old fashioned and more romantic. Just make sure its on good paper. All the best

I'm divorced. I found the courage when I realized I was living my life for him and not myself. Are you living your life to revolve around his needs only, and not meeting your own needs? It seems he has a host of issues. He's definitely not respecting himself-drinking and seeing other women. You're right to try and make things better. Will you be able to live with yourself once divorced? Think about that. If you think you'll have ANY regrets for divorcing him--don't do it. Make a list of the pros and cons of divorcing him. Honestly. I had to do that myself to get it straight in my head. Label one column PROS and the other column CONS, and make a list. Of course he wants you to stay. You're probably the only stable and reliable thing in his life. Since there's a young child involved, try to stick it out. Try to go get couples counseling, it may help. Pray, and go with your gut. All the best

Please, pretend you don't notice it, and leave it alone. If your husband's friend likes you, that's his problem. You don't need to seek confirmation and make it your problem too. He could simply be attracted to you (for the same reasons your husband loves you). Try introducting him to one of your friends. This may not solve the problem, but hopefully it will distract him, and let him know you're not interested in pursuing anything with him.

In your email, please don't say you're busy with work. A short simple and sweet email is enough. Let her know you were happy to see her name in your inbox (you were starting to miss it) and tell her what you've been up to, and that you miss her. If it seems too short, include that you'll write a longer letter later but don't say you're busy--that sounds awful to a woman.

Kali, You need to tell him you like him. Don't say "I like you" just ask him out. Simply say: "Let's go see that new movie Friday, okay?" He is probably way too shy to ask you. Young men these days wait for the girl to go first. If he doesn't know FOR SURE that you like him, he's probably not going to take a chance at getting his feelings hurt. Another question you could ask him is: "Are you booked for Valentine's Day?" If he says no, ask him out. It could be for breakfast, lunch or dinner. Perhaps you could meet in a park and have a meal there. I'm making all of these suggestions not knowing your ages. Just know that if you wait around for him, you may not get anywhere. Be natural, and be casual. If he says no, make a joke. For example, if he says no, I can't go. Say, okay, well I'll just dye now. If he says, "I have a girlfriend" say: Well here's my number, and when you're in between girlfriends, give me a call." Trust me, he'll laugh.

I was rejected by a guy who I thought liked me. This guy had been flirting with me, etc. I was almost sure he felt the same way. As soon as I admitted my affections for him, he dropped off. He completely ignored my telling him I cared. In other words, he never said "I like you too" even though I know he did. This happened last year, and I still feel angry about it. I can't understand why he never asked me out. It's like, he liked me up until I told him I liked him. I keep feeling like maybe he never really liked me in the first place. He's been called a player, and I wonder if he just wanted to see if he could get me to like him, and then when it worked, I guess his test was over. This theory is hard for me to accept though. I could tell he liked me by the look in his eyes, not to mention his body language. Why do guys sometimes not act on their attractions--what could I have possibly done wrong. I don't want to be angry about this rejection any longer.