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corvidae

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  1. I'm ugly and single, so both those options would be an improvement.
  2. I've always thought of women as being like men, only with key physiological differences that allow our species to reproduce. Maybe I'm just crazy.
  3. A woman's preprogrammed response is to say 'no'. Worth bearing in mind.
  4. Isaac Newton lived and died alone without having a (documented) relationship.
  5. I disagree with all of that. Some men like smart women, some men don't. Also, I know plenty of examples of men who are 'too smart'. I'm highly educated (not trying to blow my own trumpet, but I am) and that essentially means a lot of women from less academic backgrounds simply live in a different world from me, and rule me out as standard. Physical attractiveness is important, but it's also the thing that everyone can see. You can't 'see' intelligence from accross a room, so it's the attractiveness people go for initially. BUT if they then find the person isn't compatible in terms of intellect or personality, most men would back off. This is how it works in my experience and in the circles I move in.
  6. No not really. Depends on the guy. I personally watch someone I'm interested in very carefully to determine whether they are interested in me. One key sign is if they act differently with you than with others. To be honest, I think you'd be able to tell.
  7. I wish for Goodness sake that the women on these sites would say hello the men once in while. What is up with woman that they can't make any effort?
  8. I hate good-looking men too. Let's knock on their doors then run away.
  9. I don't men are intimidated by intelligent women. At least not in my experience. Maybe it's the crowd I hang out with. I have a friend called James who has been told by two women that they regard him as too smart to go out with.
  10. Why shouldn't a woman put her feelings out there? Aside from subjective preference. And why shouldn't a man ask for some reciprocal effort? What ever happened to 'do unto others as you would have them do unto you'? PS. I'm not religious, I just think that's a good way of looking at things...empathy is the way forward!
  11. When it comes to dating and relationships a highly referenced problem is that of 'understanding'; or rather the lack of it. Speaking as a man (I'm not qualified to speak as a woman), one way this problem manifests itself is in 'unrealistic expectations'. To my mind, unrealistic expectations refers to the problem where person A has a particular expectation in their mind of what person B will do or say if they are interested in pursuing a relationship, and if person B does not then fulfill the requirements of the expectation, then person A will assume they are not interested. A perfect example is where women expect men to approach them if they are interested, and that a lack of approach indicates a lack of interest. This is a general example. A specific example can be taken from a friend of mine who told me that if a man does not speak to her, she assigns that man the label of 'not interested'. So in her mind she has the expectation that if man X is interested in her, then man X will speak to her. Lack of conversation means man X fails in the expectation and my friend then loses any interest she may have had to begin with. Her body language becomes closed, and the man is unlikely to approach even if he was originally considering it. By setting up entirely internal expectations in our heads, measuring people against them, then using these expectations to make clear-cut, unambiguous decisions about that person, means that a lot of confusion arises. In any given situation it is impossible to say "if that person were interested in me they would do " because there is no universal mode of behaviour.
  12. How dare you! I'm very offended. Anyway, the problem with internet dating sites is that the men out number the women by quite a bit, and also women tend to get a lot of messages everyday, whereas the men get none or very few. In other words, it has the exact same problems as non-internet dating.
  13. I agree. But you have to make the most of what you have NOW. I'm not saying give up and day, I'm saying choose life. Choose to live NOW, with what you have NOW. And then let come what may, but don't place your chance for happiness all on one thing.
  14. I have no idea how you get around the whole sex thing. I myself simply never have sex. And live with it. No-one said life was easy, butI make the best of it, and I dare say I am as happy as anyone else.
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