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  1. sharky988
    No you shouldn't contact her!!! Dude, every single response to every single thread you've posted here has urged you NOT to contact her. Missing her doesn't mean you're "meant to be" -- it only means you haven't had enough time apart to stop missing her yet. And you shouldn't read this thread, because your ex is awful and dating other guys and you need to separate from her emotionally -- not cling to false hopes of getting back together with her.
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    My then-ex wasn't patient -- because I respected him enough NOT TO STAY IN CONTACT. I broke up with him, for good, didn't try to stay friends or communicate. He went on and lived his life -- and so did I! But yes, I was still in love with him at the time of the breakup. And all through the breakup, I was still in love. And as the months went by, I missed him more and more. And then, YES, in one single conversation, we were completely back together and remained so for over 20 years -- so, despite YOUR belief our reconciliation was "wrong," it worked out pretty well in my case! I never considered him to be a Plan B, though. We were young and after school I had big life decisions ahead of me and had to decide whether to return to NY or stay with him in LA, and he wasn't really ready to commit, and to be honest I wasn't either! He was most likely dating others and continuing his life during the breakup -- as was I! He SURE AS HECK wasn't obsessing and plotting to try and stay in touch or get me back..... I'm sure it only would've annoyed me and pushed me away if he had because I really WAS trying to give myself time and space to get over him. Best of luck with your ex, though!
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    It's only hard work when BOTH parties aren't on the same page! Patience? Nope, not if both want to get back together! I reconciled and it was EASY AS PIE. We were both still in love, both wanted to get back together, so with a single conversation IT HAPPENED. You only have to struggle.... and work.... and wait.... and worry..... and plot.... and scheme.... when YOU'RE the only one who really wants to get back together!
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    Wow. So, blocking him is "childish"? But staying in contact is..... what, mature? Helpful to your healing? Sweetie, what's childish is giving in to temptation to unblock. You KNEW he was going to contact you sooner or later. Please say you've re-blocked him now!
  5. sharky988
    No, they don't always "realize eventually" or come back -- in fact, usually they don't, regardless of whether you change or not. Reconciliation is rare. You should take the breakup seriously and not continue living in denial.
  6. sharky988
    maysan if you've read all of Boomshine's threads, you'll see that he does try and push his relationship as an example of how calculated contact can be used to manipulate an ex into taking you back -- based on what he's read in those "how to get your ex back" ebooks they sell online. So yeah, I do think it's harmful for those people who are recently broken up and especially vulnerable to those types of scams -- and yes, I'd hope anyone with a shred of self-respect would aspire to be more than an on-again off-again FWB with someone they're in love with, and I'd always encourage others not to settle for so little as well. And now I'm done with addressing your critiques on my posts for good, my friend. Best of luck to you!
  7. sharky988
    This is exactly what you said last time.... then she went off with someone else and you posted all this vitriol about her here .... now she's broken up with him and taking up with you again as FWB and suddenly you're all great and fine with that? You ARE posting your story here as an example -- and in doing so, encouraging others to follow suit and settle for scraps and FWB.
  8. sharky988
    If you choose to settle again for FWB with the woman you love and call that a victory -- that's your business. My point is, don't encourage others who are freshly broken up and vulnerable to settle for so little because "anything is possible." FWB is FWB -- to you, that might be a step toward reconciliation. But I'd do my best to stop anyone from following your example.
  9. sharky988
    Thanks -- I'll definitely strive to better meet your standards in the future!
  10. sharky988
    This is a public forum and as such, you're welcome to your opinion -- as am I.
  11. sharky988
    Friends with benefits -- just like last time! In other words, if you're willing to settle for scraps, your ex is fine with using you as a Plan B every time she's between REAL boyfriends.
  12. sharky988
    Given how she's already used you as an emotional safety net while sleeping with another guy, I'm sure she WILL contact you.... as soon as she's bored or lonely or looking for someone to stroke her ego. And unless you protect yourself by BLOCKING her access to her before this happens, you'll likely be reeled right back in to the same horrible situation you were just in with her!
  13. sharky988
    Given your situation as described in your threads, I tend to doubt it. Please don't let your former roommate's reconciliation give YOU hope for a similar outcome with someone who's treated you so horribly -- or use it as an excuse to initiate contact as the dumpee!
  14. sharky988
    Again -- ?? She broke up with you and you eventually got her to take you back as a FWB -- then she dumps you a second time for this other guy -- and you wrote all these seething posts about her.... and now you're thinking of trying to get back together AGAIN? Last time you played the "we don't need a label" card as well.... have you learned nothing?
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