Leslii

If you are too scared to kick him out then you have no business being with him. You are afraid of him. You only live once. I know you don't want to leave your house but he needs to get forced out. Get a restraining order. Also tell the judge you are worried he may come back. Change all the locks. Lock your windows and put in an alarm system. Get a roomate. Or maybe you could go stay with someone for a while until things cool down. He will drag you down with him. Misery loves company! You sound like you have had enough, so end this dysfuctional cycle now and move on with your life. You only live once. Enjoy it instead of wasting it.

She left you for anther guy and you took her back when it didn't work??? You need to think about this long and hard!!! So you are back together and what she did is painful but only time will dull the pain. Lots of time. It something that you can't force yourself to get over. Heartache can linger for a long time. If she does pull another stunt like this again, don't take her back.

He is dominant and wants you to be submisssive- I hope you are NOT!!! This guy is a total jerk. Something is not right with him. It is time for you to move on, even if it hurts. You can't be a puppet for some OLD DOMINATING JERK who lives 4 states away. Who does he think he is disappearing and reappearing when he feels like it. But you are allowing it even if you don't like it. Stop this dysfunctional relationship and move on. Why does he do it??? First of all because he can. Or maybe he wants to see you beg for him. Maybe he needed space. Or another woman and when it didn't work out he knew you would be there so here he comes again. But whatever the reason he should be respectful enough to let you know. Don't allow him to walk in and out of your life when he pleases, this is your life not his. You need to get some guts and stand up to this guy.

Dragonslayer, Hide your money!!! Don't put it in your account. If they used it to pay bills that is one thing but if they use it for thier own enjoyment then that is weird. 3 more years honey.

DragonslayerX I don't know if you will ever seek help, but I hope you do. Your messages are heartbreaking. You need to deal with this situation. But you are 15 , can you survive 3 more years? Please hang on!!! Life is enjoyable. You may not believe it now but it can be and it will be. When you can surround yourself with good people, life will be much better. You will appreciate kindness and hopefully you can be a loving,kind,nice great man. I still hope you talk to a counselor maybe something can be done. Please take care ok!!!!! You are better than them, remember that. You can prove that someday. I will pray for you.

just because they are your parents doesn't mean they are good people. It is thier job to povide for you. Some people do not make good parents. In fact yours sound terrible- they beat you!!! There are alot of lousy parents out there and you got stuck. I feel so bad for you. You sound so unhappy and misersable. Why don't you talk to a counselor and see if foster care is an option for you. You can't live with people that beat you and make you feel like you want to die. Parents are suppose to make you feel safe. Go talk to a counselor you need someone to help you deal with them. Good Luck

I am sure you are grieving for your ex. You wouldn't grieve about being alone and uncertain about your future. You may have had a bad relationship but you can still feel tremendous pain when it is over. You get used to a person in your life and when that person is gone it can be such a shock. So I am sure that it is her that you miss or your the life that you knew with her, because now your life is different. You may want to be in a relationship at sometime but I don't think that is something that you would grieve about. We grieve over people we have lost.

You are only 20, why so desperate at a young age? Do you NEED to be married.? You have the "anybody is better than nobody" syndrome. SAD!!!! You could learn to love someone,if you talked yourself into it. But I guarantee that it is alot easier to hate someone than to love someone. You asked for thoughts on it..... it is gross, disgusting and inhumane. I also see it as emotionally abusive and controlling. YUCK!!!!!

It seems like you need someone a little more mature than what you have now. It is really hard to "change" men. They change when they want to-if ever. He sounds a insensitive and impulsive. Who says you have to be in debt your whole life. He is making excuses for outrageous spending. You point things out to him and he doesn't respond to your feelings. You can try talking to him but you are both very young. It is your job to make your life happy, not his. A man can bring you joy but you can't expect him to make you happy. That is our job. But if he is making you unhappy I suggest that you should rethink this relationship. Don't settle for something below your standards. Be picky and pick wisely.

You told him you needed space, we all know what that means. So you were being somewhat honest. Being with someone for 2 years is a long time at your age. One of the greatest things about your college years is the new people you meet. This is the time in your life when you are changing and you are beginning to find out the real you. Don't limit yourself to one guy- you'll regret it. For some that is fine but in your case I think you need to go out and explore a little. You are too young too be tied down and you obviously feel it. You just feel guilty for hurting your boyfriend. But ,better now than later. Who knows maybe he would have called one day and said he "needed space".

If she has put you through all that why would you want to put your own children in her misery. Just because she is your mother it doesn't give her the right to emotionally abuse you. She is a very ill woman. She wants to drag you down with her. Misery loves company!!!! Don't fall into her trap. You may also want to get counseling.If she has been like this for years you may have some emotional scars that need healing. I can't imagine what you have been through. You need to cut the cord. Get away from her. Get your children away from her. She doesn't need to drag them through her life of destruction. She has already done it to you. It is time for this to end.

She sounds like an idiot. Who cares if she was with him first. Does she think that matters. You are with him now. She is in competiton with you for some reason. Jealousy I am sure. Good Luck!!

idon'tgetit, What you say sounds ideal but to me the world doesn't work that way. It is obvious that it doesn't work that way for most people. Just look around. It would be nice to grow and change together. But when we do grow or change what we want in a partner changes also. Which usually means a new partner, no partner or many partners. It may hurt but that the way it is. Who and what we find attractive is a mate will not be the same as we get older. The older we get the more sure of what we want and need. We live in a selfish society and if we don't like something we change it, hurting people in the process. The younger you are, more likely you are to behave this way. The older you are the more life experiences you have had so when life throws you some changes you are able to adapt and still keep your partner. Of course this isn't true for everyone. Some younger couples can have a very strong relationship. Some couples who get together at a later stage in life can have a horrible relationship. But we do need to experience different things in life which sometimes means different relationships. When my friends and I look back at our past relationships we can't believe we were attracted to these guys. At the time I thought they were great. But now I wouldn't have any interest in them. They probably feel the same way about me. They were not bad men but we all change and I know I would be very unhappy if I would have chose to settle with one of them. My taste in men is different now. I don't regret past relationships. In fact I see it now as a learning experience. Back then I didn't. We learn and grow from heart-ache. It is not fun, it can be miserable.

idon'tgetit, Why is honesty overrated? Is lying better? I think most people would rather hear the truth unless they live in a world of denial and they convince themselves of thinking something. Honesty doesn't make the pain go away any faster but lying wouldn't either. What should he have told her??? Should he have made something up LIKE MOST MEN DO. What do I consider much older? 30. I wouldn't get married to someone until I was at least 30. That doesn't mean that is for everyone. But all of my friends who married young said they would have waited. Most of my younger friends who married young are now separated or divorced. What you want in a mate or find attractive in a mate changes as you get older!!! Because people change. We are still changing and growing long into adulthood.So then we sometimes want something else in a mate. What we found attractive in a mate before may not be what we want now.

You are in severe denial. You don't need to be face to face for closure. It is obviously over. It has been for along time. When someone says they don't want to see you why would you push it? From the sound of it you would take her back in a second if she wanted you back. She had a man behind your back. She is not a good person. You should want better for yourself. What do you mean she might be pregnant because she was unfaithful???? Do you know that she had unprotected sex? Did she give you these details? I am cofused by this odd statment. If she is pregnant and it is the other mans child you really need to get out of her life and stay away.