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  1. It is definitely doable. I have been in a long-distance relationship for nearly 4 years now. It is hard, but it is possible if you are committed and willing to work at it.
  2. Well, we are not that far apart anymore, but for a year, I was in Japan while my boyfriend was here in the US, Chicago area. It was really tough at times, but we are still together. It takes lots of trust, tons of communication and openness, and an effort on your part to remain busy while you are apart. Departure was the hardest thing for me, but he will only be gone for six months, correct? Six months is a very short time and it will go by before you know it. Good luck.
  3. Hey Guest- There really isn't much you can do but trust your boyfriend to make the right decision. Tell him that you are uncomfortable with their friendship. If he said no to getting back together, that is a very good sign. He does not want to be with her, he has you, and since you can't be with him all the time, you'll just have to trust him with this. Good luck.
  4. As a person going through a job search right now, I'd like to point out that I've seen several open positions for market research that make a nice sum of money... In the end, it is your life, your decision. Do what makes you happy. We have a good 40+ years of our lives that we have to work. There is no point in going into a field that you will not enjoy. Job satisfaction is very important in the overall quality of your life, so I think you made a very mature decision in doing what is best for you and not what your father wants. My parents weren't thrilled with my choice and changes in my major, but they got over it. Your father will, too, especially when he sees how much money people make in market research.
  5. Thank you both for your replies. I am also a little concerned that this could interfere with future interviews, but oh well. Thankfully money isn't too tight.
  6. You need to let your doctor know that the medication isn't helping. Did your doctor recommend a counselor at all? When I was on medication, I was told that treatment is most effective with medication and counseling. I found a good way for me to cope was to talk walks at night and get some fresh air. I got out of the stressful environment, I was able to physically walk out my aggression, and I got exercise, which is supposed to be very effective at getting rid of stress. If you like running, I think that is an even better option. My father bought a punching bag, and it is another great way to relieve stress. Cross-stitching and sewing is a great idea too! Very addictive, nice suggestion Lil R.
  7. Hey all. I am a college graduate, and I eventually plan on going back to school to get my Master's. I am hoping to go back to school in Fall of 2006. My undergrad degree is in Religious Studies, and my 10-year goal is to become a professor at a university. I returned from a year abroad in mid-September of this year. I spent the year teaching English to children and adults in Japan. It was a great job, but I decided it wasn't such a good fit for me, so I left at the end of my contract. Now I am back and trying to find a job. As many of you are aware, this is proving to be a very difficult process. I have been unemployed for close to 2 months now. Had a couple of interviews, but no offers yet. The holiday season is coming up, and while I do have a fair amount of money saved up, I am unsure as to how long I will be unemployed, so I am a bit nervous about spending it. Many stores are beginning their hiring for seasonal jobs. I have picked up a few applications in hopes that I can get something to get me through the holiday season, in case none of my current prospects work out. However, I have heard horror stories about graduates who worked retail jobs because the job market was so bad, only to find out that at a later date, prospective employers ruled out that cadidate because he or she was not working in his/her field. I am worried that if I take one of these seasonal jobs, it will damage my future career. My plan is to continue looking even if I have a seasonal job because I need a career that will sustain me in the long-term. I do not wish to remain in retail or sales for the long term. I am also preparing the documents needed to obtain a substitute teaching certificate for my state. If I have a steady job, the substitute thing would be hard to do as you need to be able to go on a moment's notice. Teaching sounds a lot more appealing to me, but at the same time, I need a steady income. It is a bit of a problem. This whole job search is very exhausting and frustrating. Have any of you experienced a situation like this? Am I better off just remaining unemployed or will future employers not be concerned with the fact that I took a retail job for a while? I appreciate any feedback.
  8. As I went through college, I watched a lot of people get engaged like this. Most of the engagements broke off shortly thereafter. I do agree that they are too young. You change so much during your four (or more) years at college, and there are smaller, yet significant changes every year. Additionally, they cannot even afford rings, how will they afford a place to live? My younger sister got engaged to a guy while they were in high school. She was 17 years old and sure she knew what she wanted. Needless to say, she soon learned that she was not ready and that she had plenty of time to wait. She is no longer seeing that guy. During the period that she was with this guy, she also distanced herself from me and had a very hostile attitude towards my whole family. Eventually she came around, and we are closer than before. Your brother might be going through a similar phase, thinking he knows everything and doesn't need to talk to his sister. He will most likely grow out of this and understand how much he needs you. I understand how much it hurts you, and really all you can do is just be there for him as you already are. You may also wish to mention to him that you notice that he is more distant than before, and ask if there is anything you can do about that. In my experience, this was not really helpful as my sister would just get angry with me. But, it might work for you. Good luck and hang in there.
  9. Zimetra- I'm sorry to hear that it didn't work out, but I do wish you all of the best. I hope you'll meet someone better for you in the near future. And stop by once in a while, I know we'd love to continue hearing from you here and in the other forums as well.
  10. I agree, I think since it is such a short time it would be in your best interests to stick it out. The homesickness will pass soon, and on the days where it is almost unbearable, remind yourself that you will be home soon. Good luck and I hope you enjoy your time there. ^_^
  11. I just got back from a year abroad - a year away from my friends, family, and boyfriend. It was definitely hard to be away from them, and I was very homesick. The experience was completely worth it in the end. I met some amazing people, visited places that many only dream about, and experienced a different way of life. And it does get easier to deal with the homesickness as time goes on. The first few months are the worst. How long will you be away? Are you only doing a semester abroad or are you planning on doing all 4 years there? Also, what are the possibilities of visiting and getting visitors? I was in Japan while my family and friends were in the US, and I was lucky enough to get a few visitors... Ireland and England are much closer geographically, but I don't know about costs involved at all.
  12. Yep, it's 100% normal. You have hair everywhere on your body, it is just more pronounced in some places. Some people are more hairy than others, but the anal region tends to be less hairy than your vaginal area. It can be trimmed/shaved easily, but be careful as it is pretty difficult to see in that area.
  13. Many colleges encourage people to start their own clubs and you can easily do so via the student government on your campus. Community colleges do have a lot of commuters, but my school did as well - we had less attendance at our events than a big university would have, but we still had pretty good turnout. Making friends can be tough, so don't be too hard on yourself. Even if it isn't at school, is there a community park district or a YMCA-type thing that offers sports classes or clubs? You mentioned that you had a problem with smoking and drinking... is there a support group in your area that can help you? People often make friends in those type of groups... you don't have to be an alcoholic or a complete druggie to join some of those programs. Good luck, and I really admire you for trying not to fall back into your habit of smoking and drinking. That is a very difficult thing to do.
  14. I am Catholic, and I majored in religious studies in university. I believe that God is neither male nor female, and that God is the ultimate form of love. thereforeeee, it seems ridiculous to me that God would hate people because they happen to love a person of the same gender. Organized religion can be slow to change, but it is changing. Many churches are already quite accepting of homosexuality. At my university, we had a nun who had a lesbian niece. She ended up blessing her niece's union with her life partner. Many churches have openly gay ministers. Don't be afraid of being who you are. You might have to search around a bit, but you can find a church that will accept you and even support you for who you are.
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