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  1. all it is anyway is a commercial holidays... to make single people feel guilty because they have nobody to spend money on
  2. Hey I have been hooked on my ex for about 2 years now and we have not even been going out that long. I am still talking to him... and even though its a drag and emotionally drains me I continue... but maybe that book is the answer? I have not read it yet though but the articles sounds interesting.
  3. Hello Lachi! I am sorry to hear that your ex seemingly makes life hell for you? Cannot you move in with friends temporarily? Why is your ex so angry? Was it you who dumped him?
  4. Well since nobody had any insights... I thought I should let you know my thoughts. You are back in touch with her, and I guess thats good on the surface, but dont you really hope that she will change her mind and start wanting you back? Look how much you have grown during your time of NC. Just imagine how it was about 3 months ago when you last wrote... For a year you were hoping she might change your mind. Then you heard that she went out with your friend and you went NC and advanced so much in this short period, growing and learning that your happiness does not depend on hear. By letting her back into your life you are increasing your vulnerability. I know that there is always morals vs. rationality. In a perfect world... being friends is doable.... but for yourself so much more painful. I just do not want you to hurt unneccesary, but it is your choice if you think it is worth it.
  5. But does it not look really back on your CV if you only been in a job for about 3 months?
  6. Well I been in this position for the last 3 months now... Today I had my 3 month review and they told me if I do not get better, they have to let me go. Its organising pharmaceutical conferences. I have no science background and i found it really difficult. To be honest I found it impossible. But I tried really hard and learnt a lot during this time. When I had my review today they started picking on everything I have every done wrong, and even though they acknowledged my improvement they were not confident that I would be able to master the task, because I do not thave the scientific background.... However they knew that before I started. I have a politics degree! I did not lie on my CV and said I had a Phd in Neurology or something. I worked really hard and i know the first project was not the best, but I improved with time. I am working for the market leading company in pharmaceutical conferences. Now they told me that i have 1 last project to prove myself. However now I feel like .... what is it worth? If not this conference they are going to fire me sooner or later. Because I am working with lots of science graduates and some even have a PHD! Shall I just look for a new job? Or shall I stick it out and try to impress them hoping that for this time it will be enough?
  7. Its nice to hear from you again, and I am glad you are start to feel better. See NC did help you. Congratulations on seeing somebody again. Thats a big step.... I'm glad everything worked out for you
  8. Just remember that if she does not say specifically: "I miss you, I want to get back with you" she is just being friendly.
  9. Maybe you should talk to the co-worker first! If she tells you that you dont work enough...remind her of the times she left all her work to you? Try to sort it out between you two first and if that does not work - tell your boss. Maybe you could also test the waters before you talk to your boss and say things like... "do you think I should be allowed to touch the food if I have a cold?" guess thats how you can find out if she will share your viewpoint.
  10. I can completley emphasise with this story. Me and my ex broke up 2 years ago... he tells me he does not want to be with me... but then he starts calling me... wants to meet up... and I give in. We spend a good night together and then he wakes up in the morning goes home, and thats it. He does not call me again for months... until he starts missing me. I always hope that he will miss me one day enough so he stays! If there is an easy way I am very interested in hearing it... because I am emotionally drained!
  11. Hey Enotalone! Don't go there! Everytime I see my ex we end up kissing... he tells me how much he likes me... its always special and great! But he does not want to go out with me... and a kiss does not change it. Kissing your ex can be false intimacy. Because it needs more than physical attraction to make somebody commit to you again. x
  12. Moving on takes some people longer than others. I split up with my ex two years ago... and I am nowhere near over him. Mybe NC is the best way forward. If you are still talking to her, the attachement dont go away. Try it for 3 months or so and i promise you you will feel better. x
  13. If you made people pay for your advice you'd be a minted by now! Well done!
  14. Hm... I guess jealousy is weird because it always means that you cannot ever be happy with what you have. I was jealous of my ex for a while, because he had a good job, earned 40k , and seemingly can survive without me. I then decided to concentrate on myself. I started in a beginners job but moved on to a wellpaid job in a global company after half a year! My ex quit his job because the stress was too much. I guess people (especially those you once were involved with) rarely tell you what goes wrong in their lifes, because you always want to give the impression that you are doing fine without the other.
  15. I guess you need to check out if your presumtions prove right? If she did allow him to drive the car then you will just look like the sad, jealous exboyfriends and it will appear like you are trying to get them apart.
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