Berglynt
-
Posts
79 -
Joined
Berglynt's Achievements
-
I would just reply hello and leave it at that. Just reply if there is something to reply to. She said hello, so I see no harm in responding in kind. Think about what you need to do. I'm not familiar with your situation, but I believe in leaving a line of communication open if you want to reconcile.
-
That means she lost the attraction she had for you. Have you changed a lot from the time you started dating? How long were you two together?
-
Did you find out the root cause of the break up? She was the one who ended it? What reasons did she give you?
-
Is that enough time apart? That is hard to say. Some relationships come back after a few years, so do not wait for her. I cannot see what you can possibly say to her that would make her come back. You have told her everything, yet she persists. Do not give up hope, but move on. Do this for yourself. I know it is easier said than done, but take your time and work toward it.
-
Break ups are hard, NC can be very difficult depending on the situation. If NC is the best course of action for you, just get back to it and start again. Keep the negative thoughts away, especially the ones about your self. It is hard enough as is. Just work on yourself and try to heal during this time.
-
It is hard to say. It may have been that there was something that bother her or that she felt something was lacking in the relationship. It doesn't have to be something that you did, it could be something that you didn't do. Are you communicating with her now? Maybe it is time to have a friendly sit down chat with her and flesh everything out. It could also be that she is really protecting you, but I do not know your ex or your exact situation.
-
Sorry that you still haven't heard from her. You can continue NC, or take a more pro-active approach to trying to get her back. I can't tell you which to take. When does it get easier? With time, and the decision for you to let her go for good. That should be when it starts getting easier. I don't think it ever will truly heal, unless the relationship was bad. Some people need more time than others, so consider that as well. Sometimes NC is all it takes to get someone back, it makes them realize what you were to them, other times NC makes them think you do not care anymore and so forth. It really depends on your situation and the person involved. We all know that the main purpose for NC is not for getting an ex back, but it does play a part in it. Do what you need feel you need to do. Sometimes they need a little nudge, just don't over do it. Space out your contact attempts, at least a week apart, if you get no response. Make sure you leave a message; something friendly, vague, and will pique her interest enough to contact you, or something that brings back a good memory when you two were together. You should limit how many times you are really willing to try before giving up as well. If they never respond, then you have your answer. Just make sure you have the correct contact info.
-
I don't know. Was the break up bad? It is hard to say why she told you that. It is also hard to believe unless something went south really badly and she is holding a grudge over it. If not, she may be saying that to protect herself or both of you because she currently has no intentions of RC. I don't know your situation or your discussion that led to her response, so it difficult to offer an opinion on the matter.
-
As I said to Chinafish, If you shared anything siginifcant (time/event) with your ex, they will not forget you. I know you want to talk to her, to hear her voice, but if is not for a chance at RC, it will do you more harm than good right now. It will be like a short term fix, and you will end up craving it more. Kind of like an addiction. Posting the song means nothing if she doesn't act on it. My ex sent me multiple love songs (4 over a span of 3 days), but told me they meant nothing. I did not believe her but there was nothing I could do. I just said ok and moved on from it.
-
It's hard to say he may be reaching out. If you shared anything siginifcant (time/event) with your ex, they will not forget you. It is only natural for them to miss you after you two have been together. If it means anything or leads to anything else, it is hard to say.
-
Depending on what you are trying to do exactly. Since you are in this forum, you should definitely reply. Do not immediately reply to his text,take a few hours, or a day. Keep your answers short and direct. If he is not actually asking you a question, you have no need to reply.