shyanne

female 37 (a) yes.....maybe 1989 or 1991 that's one date i'm not 100% sure of. for at least 10years before we got married. we married after 12 years total together. (b) we weren't ready to marry but loved each other. (d) we been together for many years and had a child (e) not the best (f) i guess you really have to love and get to know how someone is, what type of person they are... maybe how their family is, good morals cause that's important. sometimes you don't know that until dating for a few years or living with someone. (g) just by dating, meeting people in their family and getting to really know them. sometimes by even living with them first. that's when most true colors come out. i think. (h) i wish i was married before we had our first child. i think that's important. (i) that's a hard one... i would recommend it only if you loved each other.. because you get to know how that person really is.. sometimes just dating, even if you see each other lots is still hard to know.. you get to decide if the good out weighs the bad... sometimes when you live with someone they may have little things you don't like... so before you marry you can decide if you can handle the those things. marriage is a big decision, not something people should just do at the first "i love you"

first of all, it doesn't matter if your friends doesn't like him.. however, if your sure the same things will happen again it may be better if you don't try. follow your heart and only that.

i think 3 months of knowing someone is too early to be moving in... you should never move in with someone unless you love them. i don't see how people can love or know someone after only 3 months but some say that they can love.. love is a big word and a word that we shouldn't just throw around.

YES 100% i grew up believing that.. my mom would swear by it.

i think you should be very careful with online friendships.. it's very easy for people to mislead you and easy to tell lies... you seem to be a smart person.... your right about how it's not possible to fall in love with someone online. sure you can truly like someone but not in love.. you can't truly know someone until you meet them. i always wonder about people who talk about being in love with someone they never even met. i think they may not be very "relationship" smart. if you know what i mean. something just not right about that.

if your only interested in being friends..... you should treat it like a friendship. i mean, as a woman...i wouldn't be walking down the street holding my girlfriends hand.. by doing so, that would give the person the wrong impression. like maybe there is a chance for more. if you don't want more, you don't and that just wouldn't be proper to do. misleading if you will.

i think maybe you should go talk to a professional about how you feel.. they would be able to give you better advise and help.. doesn't matter if there is an afterlife or god... that's something you will find out one day when your time here is over. for now, you need to live life to the fullest and do things that truly make you happy for yourself.. your the only one that is important and only you can make things well for you... but i really think to help you get there, you first need to talk out your problems and how you feel with someone who can help and understand totally... which you won't find here.

i never gave much thought on life after death or any of that stuff until my grandmother and mom died... i now truly believe that we do have a soul that leaves our body.

men and women you had relationships with..... should never date your best friend or family members

yes this is very true. men and women should also respect each other.

i think any girl would feel the same way you do. he needs to understand how you feel too... if he doesn't, he's not worth your time.

yes i love your peom too. i can relate to parts of it

that was a great idea. best way for her to find out. people lie all the time. he can't lie to her if he doesn't know it's her. did he want to meet this other girl or just chat online? i think some guys just like to chat or get bad pictures because they're guys. guys are into that stuff or so i think. they will look at any sexy pictures women will send but doesn't mean that he would meet her for sex or want a real relationship. you should've asked him out instead of asking him if he had a girlfriend or sex with someone from there.

you have the right to ask again... i would.