tahlia

My ex was quite big and there were a lot of positions we couldnt do because he hit my cervix and it really hurt. On the other hand a small penis is hard to keep in there...i.e. can fall out easily. I would definitely go average length...but it wouldn't hurt if it was a little wider hehe. In any case it doesnt really matter as long as ur man pleases you in one way or another

An exercise bike will give you a similar workout however there will be a lot more focus on your leg muscles, i.e. your legs will hurt more - your quadriceps. hamstrings and calf muscles particulary so make sure you stretch. Maintaining a straight posture will help tone your core or stomach muscles and your will also use your back muscles. Bikes like treadmill can be cardiovascular exercise, so when u work for over 20 minutes of continual exercise you should start to burn fat which is good news for the love handles! Bikes are great because they are low impact and you are less likely to sustain an injury than when running (unless you fall off of course!) They can just be a little uncomfortable on the rear if you know what i mean Goodluck

Thanks for your reply guys, it helps to know other people are in the same situation. I'm 22. Thats a great idea to join some other social groups, maybe i'll take up some dancing lessons, i'm pretty shy when it comes to meeting new people so i guess it will be a challenge but so be it.

I can only imagine how hard this must be for you..from a prime example of really bad timing hey? dont you hate it when that happens. The thing is if he still really loves you then hopefully in due time things will work out. You obviously have a very strong connection. Have you talked to him at all, i mean guys can be pretty stupid sometimes, he probably wants you more than you realise but doesnt know what to do about it. Maybe you could even visit him and let him know how u feel in person. I'm only suggesting this beacuse if you truly believe that this guy is the one for you and that u love him dont give up, don'e let go because another chance may not come around again for this. If he feels the same way then u are really doing the other girl a favour. I did the same thing a coupel of years ago and didnt say anything and now the guy i loved has been in a 3 year relationship and i have had no one since, i should have taken my cahnce. I know it sounds drammatic but thats my two cents.

it can definitely ahppen in fact i think many great and long lasting relationships can eventuate because you know each other so well. I mean you know all the things u love about them and all their habbits and everything and you still like them. I've been in your situationand its hard because you dont want to do anything that might jepordise the relationships. I see two different possibilties..1) you take a chance now. i'm not sure how old u are but be careful that you are mature enough and are looking for that something special before you start it. For me i knew i really liked this guy but i also knew that i was too young to want anything really serious and long term and i didnt want to lose my friend when or if we broke up. Many people would argue this was stupid and in a wasy i see it was cause he is now in a long term relationship of 3 years, i still think it wouldnt have worked out then though. or 2) Wait until the perfect time in your lie presents itself..granted that may never happen...i'm still waiting but who knows, if its meant to be its meant to be.

I'm sure there are heaps of peopel out there feeling how i do now. I havent been in a proper relationship for a couple of years. A year ago i really liked this guy who was one of my best friends and he hurt he badly, used me to be honest, which left a lot of bagage. I had a lot of trust issues but have been over it for some time and I have been lookingfor someone to fill that void. All my friends are in loving relationships so i always feel like the loser single when we go out. We are a close group of friends so i never really meet anyone else and don't know how to or where to find a new guy. Now everytime i go out i feel so empty and depressed that i cant enjoy myself. I know people say that you dont need a man, but i do need love.. i've never really had it before..or had it returned. Has anyone been in a similar situation? How have they coped? I dont want to become a reclsuive and be depressed all the time. People say it happens when ur not looking but i've been waiting for someone for quite some time and no one who is actually looking for a relationship has come my way..only people who want a casual relationship. Something which i am not willing to try again. Any help?

Yeh its a huge turn on to watch him. It also gave me some good tips about how he likes it eg speed etc. I think the feeling was pretty mutual, i think he quite liked to watch me touching myself too. I think it builds up he anticpation for both parties.

Can i just ask how u keep yourself? Cause its not much fun going down on a guy who doesnt at least trim as well. I would think most women would at the least shave their bikini line. But i guess it is her choice. Just stop giving her oral and i'm sure she'll trim up pretty quickly.

same thing happened to me when i was on the pill. However i didnt want to stay off it for thr risk of getting pregnant. Some people say a lower dose may help this. HAs anyone had the same problem and found anything to remedy this?

i like the boxer briefs - you know they are like briefs but are little shorts. I dont really like boxers especially when they hang out of guys jeans. Briefs are ok if u have a good body - just like speedos. As for hair i think that trimming should be sufficient, i dont think i'd like all the hair gone but having a bit less would definitely make me want to go down there more often.

I agree with sahsa here. I dont think its greedy at all to want to reach orgasm during sex when ur partner always does. In fact i think its selfish of the guy to not at least offer to finish her off. from my experience sex pretty much ALWAYS results in the guy being satisfied, at leats physically, i went out with one guy that didnt care about returning the favour as I cant orgasm with sex alone, and it got very frustrating. Sure if u are really horny a quickie can be fun, but theres no way i'm orgasming from 2 minutes of sex with no foreplay. The worst thing about a quickie is if ur guy wants to have it right before going out and if ur not using a condom, or even if u are it feels u leaving yucky and uncomfortable - you just want a shower afterwards but u cant cause u have to go out. Thus its usually really inconvenient for the girl.

Do u orgasm when u masturbate? Why not show the girl how u like it to be done, what works for you so to speak.

I used to shave and trim but i tried a brazillian wax about a month ago and it was great. Yeh it was painful and the downside is that it does grow back faster than u would like but its still a hell of a lot easier than having to shave every couple of days and u avoid razor burn. Plus it feels so much nicer and cleaner when u get it ALL waxed off. I think guys love it too, one of my guy friends said that he liked trimed but once his gf got a brazillian he realised how much he preferred that over trimming. Its all up to self preference of course. Whatever u do, do it for yourself and not just cause u think ur guy will like it. I feel...more hygenic with a wax and its convenient thats why i do it!

I know that she had every intention of finishing him off but even if she didnt she should not be made to feel bad for it. She shouldnt have to do anything she didnt want to do. He can always finish himself off if she changes her mind - i think as a one off she should not be considered in the wrong. Secondly to be honest to most of u guys out there sex doesnt do a lot for most girls. Many can not orgasm from it yet we will often go through it because u guys love it. Some guys may finish sex and then not return the favour to their partner. I see this as a much more selfish act than just a bit of teasing and then stopping. Quite frankly a lot of u guys can get turned on pretty quickly by not that much eg kissing or a bit of revealing clothing. I dont see that if u kiss ur partner and he gets turned on that it should mean 'thats it we have to have sex now cause i'm turned on' what about her?

Are you going down on her after sex? If u are not using a condom a lot of your ejaculate will be running out at the time you are giving oral sex. She will also be more lubricateda s a result of sex. My advice is to try it before you too have sex. Besides that i can say learn to live with it, like we have to live with ur ejaculate. It doesnt feel that great having it inside u or getting it in your mouth after a bj or when a guy wants to cum on your breasts or something. And it doesnt taste good either. Its all about sacrifices and comprimises. You cant tell me that a little bit of her juices on your chin really worries u when u can see how good you are making her feel.