debbieh

Unfortunately there isn't really much advice someone can give you about oral sex. The problem with advice about this is that everyone is different. Different people enjoy different things and different sensations. What might be great for one bloke might be uncomfortable for another. My advice would be to find out what he enjoys from him. In regards to pubic hair, I dont think you need to shave it all off unless you actually want to, but I wouldnt say it was a requirement. I have never shaved mine and I haven't had any complaints that it hasn't been completely shaved. Obviously it is better to keep it under control mainly for your own hygeine rather than for a sexual reason. Just keeping it trimmed down is perfectly ok, and you'll find that most women adopt this approach of keeping it trimmed down rather than shaving it all off. I hope this helps. Good luck.

I think you already know what to do about this one, and that is just to let him tell you in his own time. it sounds like he's getting close to telling you why he doesn't like them as he nearly did already. It sounds more like it is something to do with his past, something that may have caused his reluctance now. I don;t think its a phobia or anything. It sounds like he's so close to opening up to you about it and then once he has, he may even be able to begin to hug you.

If you are not interested in a guy, just tell him. Honesty with this kind of thing is always the best policy. Of course these guys will be angry with you, look at it from their point of view. They've met a girl they like, they hit it off and have a kiss or two, she gives them her number, they talk, they go out again, then she completely ignores them for no apparent reason. That's just confusing. How would you feel if someone you liked did that to you. Yeah it might not be a serious relationship or anything, but people do still have feelings, I would find that rude coming from anyone, even a friend, let alone from someone i thought was a potential mate and lets face it, this is the vibe you are giving off. I know you think you are trying to be nice by not hurting their feelings by outrightly rejecting them, but you are actually hurting their feelings more by letting them think something which is not true - ie that you like them back. So that is what you should do, be honest, just say "Thank you for asking but I really am not interested in anything but friendship - nothing more."

I completely agree with debaser. It's not a major lie. Just tell her the truth. Just explain your reason of trying to impress. She will probably appreciate the honesty and with any luck will admire you more for it. She may not even remember that particular statement, as lets face it, you don't even remember it exactly and you're the one that it's bothering - not her. It's up to you. You could just tell her the truth when and if it comes up and not worry about it till then, but if it really is bothering you that much, just get it out in the open.

It seems to me that the problem here is your insecurity. Maybe he lied about talking to this girl because he figured that you would react in this manner. He may have done it to save upsetting you rather than because he is hiding something. What I don't understand here is the whole talking to another girl business. Do you get upset when he talks to any other females, or is it just this one girl in particular? Has he done something in the past with this girl to make you think something is going on? Do you even think there is something going on or are you just annoyed that he lied about talking to her? Why did you want to call her? Was it to check up on him? If, as you say, this is the biggest lie he has ever told you, then I doubt that he has ever cheated on you, otherwise that would be a bigger lie so my question is where does this insecurity come from? I think this may be something that you need to deal with yourself, as he cannot possibly go through his life with you, without ever talking to other girls or having other girl-friends (and I mean friends that are girls - not romantic), it just is not possible - after all, half the population of the planet are female. Maybe I have completely misunderstood your post and your concern is regarding something I have missed, and if i have I am very sorry.

Hi all There are many posts in here regarding advice for those who are dating commitmentphobic people, but none that I can see regarding advice for people who are commitmentphobic. I am someone who suffers from commitmentphobia (and believe me, we do suffer). I don't know why I am as I am a happy woman who had a normal happy childhood. I haven't suffered any real pain in my life, but I have always been the same when it comes to relationships. I always shower people with affection at the beginning, I try so hard to get men to like me and want me, and the first few weeks are always brilliant. I get all the butterfly feelings and electricity that comes at the beginning. The excitement of "does he like me", "does he think of me as a girlfriend or is it just physical". The problem comes however when the relationship moves from being fun dates and getting to know someone, to the next part of it becoming more romantic and the dreaded "I love you". This seems to be the kiss of death. I all of a sudden feel myself picking holes in them, nothing is ever good enough and everything they do is just so irritating. I cannot seem to stop this. I have been like it since i started dating over ten years ago. I have been through periods of just not dating, my last one was two years without a date. I would unintentionally never put myself in a position where somebody could ask me out. And my instant reaction when somebody did ask was "No". I wouldn't even give them a chance. My friend finally persuaded me to say yes to the next guy that asked me out just so I would go out on a date for the first time in a couple of years. I didn't think it was such a big issue so I agreed. We started dating and again the cycle began. It was great at first - I thought he was great etc, as soon as he said he loved me, I just immediately - like clockwork - was unattracted to him. I don't particularly fear relationships and marriage. I do so want to get married and have children, the problem is that I am not attracted to men that like me, however I do fall in love very quickly with men that are completely unattainable. I know this is all part of commitmentphobia, and I know that in most cases therapy doesn't work for this kind of issue, I wouldn't even know where to begin as I don't even know why I suffer from it. What I would like is advice from people who have been in similar situations and what they did to combat it? Can it ever be overcome or is it something that will just pass in time? Any advice would be greatly appreciated as I really don't want to end up a lonely old maid, but then I don't want to have to force myself to be with someone with no attraction just for the sake of getting married and having kids etc.