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roxy79

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  1. I guess what it comes down to, if he was really interested he'd be calling and since he's not... I should assume that he only went out with me on Monday "to be nice" and the date was nothing more than a "nice jesture." Because if he had as much fun as I did, he would have contacted me in some form by now, and he hasn't. Am I right?
  2. Eh. Thats was pretty harsh. I have not tried to get back together with him since we broke up. I have let go... trust me. It took me a long time to get over it... but I am over him. I honestly just don't believe he'd be talking to me and going on a date with me cause he wanted to be nice. He is NOT the type of guy to send that messge. He'd never do that... which is why I'm leaning towards what "Jordan" posted. I'm just gonna chill and see what happens. If he calls, great then I will go from there. If he doesn't, then I'll assume the rumors were true and leave it be. That's pretty reasonable, right?
  3. I'd like to believe that he said those things cause he isn't sure how they will react... cause they way he is towards me is awesome.. which is why I got excited that the date went so well... a step in the right direction. I'm trying not to listen to what the person said cause that person truly has no merit BUT it was said that he did say it, which sucks. He is very flirty and polite and kind towards me... the date he was the same except better. We laughed tons, flirted, got to know each other again,... a whole new beginning, small lip locks in the parking lot.. all of which led me to think "wow, he kinda digs me." then I find out he went "just to be nice." ouch. ya know?
  4. It is hurtful only because I never expected him to say that to people. You just don't say that period... you keep that to yourself if that truly is the case. But with someone who claims to never have any free time, he sure made a lot of free time for me monday... oh but wait... he was just being nice. There is a bit in between this story that leads me to believe that he is telling them this stuff, but what he is doing and feeling is different. I don't think he is telling them how much he and I have been talking and that he actually enjoys my company... cause apparently I've been the "butt" of their jokes for a while... but I think he is telling them one thing and doing another cause they tease him so much that if he tells them what he is really doing or why he is doing it, they might tease him more. at any rate, that's childish and dumb. I'm totally hurt by this "gossip" and I don't feel like contacting him period.
  5. welp. unfortunately I heard thru the grapevine today that he only went out with me on monday "to be nice." Isn't that just special. So.. I guess there is nothing more to say or do. Cause I feel like an idiot that I actually thought he wanted to see. Didn't realize it was a pitty party he was attending.
  6. Thanks Shadow. I agree with you. It's been 3 years!! We basically are strangers but we aren't... and that's what makes this different. I don't feel like he'll hurt me again... I dont want to be cautious! Why should I be walking on egg shells all the time? I want to give it a chance.. new time, new beginning, new people. I don't plan on smoothering him! I don't plan on taking up his free time. I'm not going to overwhelm him. I just want him to be able to be comfortable and relax and see that it is okay to hang out with me. I don't think sending him a text would scare him away... if he didn't appreciate it... he and I would not be conversing as human beings at this point. I think each situation is different. But knowing his him and his past, I think I know how to do things this time around. And giving him ample space is key, but I also need to let him know that I enjoy him.
  7. PS: He did say when we were parting Monday night "It was real nice to see you again, it's been a while, we should do this again." so.... with him saying that, I'm assuming he did have a grand time and he is still fond of me. Also the fact that we kissed a few times leads me to believe he still digs me. I figure if he was turned off by it or if it wasn't his thing, I think he would have said "good night" and ended the night. But he didn't, we kept talking.. and another kiss would be thrown in... talk some more and then one last kiss goodbye.
  8. I don't hold anything against him. What is in the past is in the past. It wasn't good timing for him back then and so maybe now it's a better situation for both of us. I think I will continue to keep it light with him. If I don't hear from him in a few days, I'll send a cute little text. I do not want him to feel threatened or pressured on any level, which is why I'm playing it cool and NOT rushing things. I don't think there is any harm in me contacting him. When we first met, he gave me his number, I didn't call for almost 2 mos, and he didn't try to persue me once. I might add that he and I see each other on a daily basis from afar Aug-Feb every year. (normally we dont get to chat, only hello's and how are you's.) I feel I know him well enough that I am able to put myself out there and extend MY hand to him. This was a HUGE step for him to meet up with me and I hope it cause he finally DOES want someone back in his life. (he's been single and hasn't dated any women since we broke up).
  9. But why wouldn't I contact him? I find that obsured. I've always contacted him, we've been flirting and talking with each since Septemberish... and I feel comfortable sending him a text etc. That's how I got us here! If I hadn't talked to him on monday, we wouldn't have had the date later that night. Sometimes you have to take things into your own hands, why leave it up to fate?
  10. Also... I do not think he is the "best" out there. I am seeing and dating a few others and I am continuing to meet other people as well. This all transpired two days ago!! When I said I've waited 3 years for this... I meant I still adore him and would love to date him again. But I truly did not wait as I was in at least one serious relationship since him. What I'm saying is I think we are a great match, so why not try again? I have learned so much since we broke up... I have grown tremendously and in a since, am a different person... yet the same. I do have others in my life, other than him now.. which I think will make a huge difference if we start dating.
  11. I would never mention my exes. Only if he asked questions. I'm happy and proud of myself that I have dated a lot since him, and did find a few to be pretty great, just not THAT great. I guess what I'm looking for is... how long should I wait before I contact him again. My life is way different than when he and I dated before. I actually HAVE a life now, whereas before, I did not. I truly don't have a lot of free time and don't feel the need to see or talk to him everyday like before. Which is a good thing! I just want him to see that I am doing my own thing, yet I'd still like to include him in it somehow. And I hope he wants to do the same. Maybe he is sitting back thinking about what a great time he had Monday as well and is wondering when we should get together. I'd love for him to make the next move and ask ME out, but part of me doesn't see that happening. He's very shy and never likes to put himself out there. what do ya'll think?
  12. Well that's what I'm assuming... I don't think he would be talking to me and really dont think he'd "go out" with me just to be friends. We haven't really been friends in 3 years, why start now? That's why i'm assuming he might wanna try again. He's 31 and he is NOT friends with any ex girlfriends. So why would I be the exception? right?
  13. Well I've waited 3 years for him! And have dated a bunch of tards since then and he's still the one who makes my heart patter. Is it okay for me to ask him out again? He is extremely shy and isn't one to put himself out there... that's why I'm thinking I may have to do the contacting until he is more comfortable with the situation. I mean it took him 3 years to feel like he could "go out" with me one on one.. so... I'm just not sure where to go from here.
  14. Ok. Quick recap. My ex and I broke up about 3 years ago (I posted tons on this). We stayed in a touch for a while after break up. Then I decided to cut him off. Didn't talk for almost a year. Hung out with him once last year in May. Talked on and off. Stopped talking for a good 5-6 months. Recently in November starting talking again. Now we talk a couple times a week. Had my FIRST "date" with him in almost 3 years on Monday. We met for drinks. Had awesome conversation. Laughed a lot. We kissed in the parking lot. We both agreed we should do it more often (or again). What do I do now??? I do not want to screw this up. I have been waiting (not literally) for 3 years for us to "go out" again, alone. We broke up because he said he could not be in a relationship and take care of someone else when he couldn't take care of himself. bad timing i guess. Any suggestions on how I go about this the right way?! I just hope that we are getting a second chance to make it work this time.
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