shygirl23

My BF and I have never actually had sex, but our favorite position to act out is reverse cowgirl. He absolutely loves that (of course, if we were actually having sex and he got to experience all of them, then we might pick a new favorite position). I think he likes it because he gets to watch me "ride" and because I have my back to him, he can't see what I'm doing with my hands so he can pretend that I'm really ****ing him. Most of the time, when we're messing around, doing HJs and BJs and whatever else, I'm on top of him in some way or another.

I always kind of took it to mean that if you had sex 100 times, then you'd wind up pregnant 3 times. Which is the same as 3% risk, now that I think about it. Then again, 3 women out of 100.... The "experts" who figure out these statistics need to clarify!! Even if it all does mean the same thing.

I ask my boyfriend to do that all the time. I think it's a huge (ha ha) turn-on! I usually end up taking over before it's over though. He likes it when I masturbate for him, too.

Thanks, both of you. I just got back from there. We talked about it for a long time, had one of our worst conflicts ever, worked it out, and now I think everything's settled. Misery12, you seem to know a lot about me! I thought my post was probably just a lot of goobledegook, but you seemed to infer a lot! I'm probably not in a good mood most of the time, because I'm already so fed up and lonely when I get ot see him. I also have been calling him a lot when I have problems or when I'm angry. And he is usually the one who ends our calls. Even if we both agree that we need to get off the phone, he's the one who does it (of course, this is mostly due to the fact that I don't like being the one who hangs up first--I don't really know why, I never have liked it). Maybe that would help. And, SarahMarie, that's exactly what I did today. Things got kinda hairy for a while, but things are fixed. This problem comes up every now and then of course (I mean, he does have a life besides me and he can't always spend hours talking to me... I understand this), it's just been pretty bad for about the past week. Normally, I wouldn't think too much about it, but so many things keep going wrong and I just happened to need him when he wasn't there. But anyway, enough lingering over this. You guys were a big help and I'm pretty sure that it's resolved.

Hello, everyone. It's been a while since I've been on here, huh? Well, I'm back and, as usual, I have a problem. My boyfriend and I have a pretty serious relationship. We try to spend a lot of time together, especially since this is our summer vacation and school starts again at the beginning of August. Plus, he's leaving to go visit his relatives for two weeks. He leaves in five days. By the time he gets back, summer will almost be over. Our time is quickly slipping away. Last summer, for the whole two and a half months, I only saw him twice. Twice. Once right after school was out and again the say before it started back, and no time in between. I was depressed the whole time. I felt so lonely that I cried myself to sleep every night. I don't have any other friends besides him. I used to have one really good girlfriend, but once my boyfriend and I started going out, I pushed her away and stopped doing things with her to spend more time with him. Sounds pretty horrible, doesn't it? Well now he's the only person that I've got. I just thought that since we don't have much time left to see each other, that he'd want to spend more time with me. He always used to seem to want to. Well, lately, (and this is just the past week) he's been busy and we couldn't do anything together. And finally, after several days of not seeing him, we finally have a chance to do something together. But as soon as I asked what he was going to do that day (you know, hinting that I wanted to see him), he told me that he was doing something with his friends. So, that was that. No big deal. He did come over the next day, but I wound up getting sick (I have really bad stomachaches that get so bad that sometimes I double over or can't even walk and I felt like that while he was there) and I wound up laying on my bed crying until he had to leave. He said I could call him when he got home and we could talk. So, I called him later and after five minutes he said he was tired and wanted to let me go. I had been crying the whole time I had talked to him. Anytime he's sick or upset I stay on the phone with him until he wants to get off and here I needed him really badly and he was "tired." I couldn't even walk, I felt so bad. So, I let him go. I realized afterward that I was too upset and called him back. He patiently listened for a while and then we got off again. He apologized and everything, but I was still upset. I kept my hopes up and thought that maybe we could do something together the next day to make up for all that lost time when he was busy. But, guess what. He went to his friend's house again. So I figured that I could talk to him when he got home that night. But he stayed at his friend's house and told me that he couldn't talk very long. So I planned to do something with him the next day (yesterday), but then he told me that he was doing something with his dad and that he would call me later. I waited until late last night and he didn't call so I finally called him. He was at his friend's house again, staying the night. I told him about everything that's been upsetting me and we talked it out for about 30 minutes. I explained that I didn't like getting shoved aside and how much I hated it when I needed to talk to him and he just suddenly had to get off the phone. Guess what he did? He said that he had to let me go. So, after a few minutes, I called him back and told him that that was exactly what I was talking about. I guess I made him feel pretty bad, and I wish that I hadn't, but he needs to know that this behavior bothers me. He got pretty upset and wanted to get off the phone and go to bed, so I let him. Now, we're planning on doing something together today and I was under the impression that our plans would start at 11 am, after he finished doing everything that he had to do today. He didn't call me until 1 pm, and he hadn't even started on his chores or whatever yet. I'm getting fed up. This morning, as soon as I woke up, I did everything that I had to do just so I could see him sooner. This is driving me crazy. I'm afraid to get my hopes up today, because something will probably come up. He said that he's trying to balance his time between me and his friends, and I know how hard that is (I mean, I couldn't even do it… I lost all of my friends when I met him), but he's spent three times as much time with his friends this week than he has with me. I don't have anyone else. No friends or anything. So, when I'm not with him, I'm alone. What do you guys think? Maybe I'm just being too clingy. I'm not jealous of his friends, I'm just lonely and upset, and I feel sort of pushed aside. By the way, we're both almost seventeen. Yeah, kind of young, huh? Oh, and also, we aren't having any major problems. He's not about to break up with me or me with him or anything like that. Don't read too much into it. I just need a little guidance.

Just about any girl would be flattered. Not only that, but some would probably really, really like it, and most girls would probably be in a very similar position anyway. There's nothing at all to be ashamed about. You shouldn't try to hide it. Just a little note: If you feel so ashamed that you simply cannot resist the urge to hide your erection, don't use a baseball cap or anything like that. While some of us girls might not notice a guy's erection (unless we're looking for one, of course), we are going to notice if you always keep a hat in your lap whenever we're around. But I still stand by everyone else... don't try to hide it.

I've never been able to deepthroat. I try everytime I go down on my boyfriend, but either he's really big or my mouth is really small (or both). Plus, I have problems with my jaw dislocating, so I can never get him in very far. He doesn't seem to mind. He's never asked me to do it for him. I just learned all of the other little places to concentrate on. I have found that I can get him in a little farther in certain positions. There are many ways to do it (him standing, sitting, lying down, etc.). You may want to try a different position. Of course, good tongue, lip, and even (when your mouth needs a little break) hand technique counts for a lot!

I wouldn't mind watching. My boyfriend has never masturbated in front of me before, though. The last time that we were "together," he almost did, but I took over. I was laying next to him, whispering all of the things that I was about to do to him in his ear, while stripping at the same time. I was grinding against his leg and after just a few minutes, he unzipped his pants and started pulling it out. I guess he would have taken care of things himself if I hadn't taken over instead. I wouldn't have minded watching, but it's so much more fun to actually participate.

I disagree. If you don't like doing it (for whatever reasons), then you shouldn't feel obligated to. Sex doesn't just revolve around him. You need to take your own feelings into consideration. I think you gave several veritable reasons why you don't enjoy oral. You have your reasons and your preferences. I think you should go with what you're comfortable with and forget about what everyone else thinks. Does your boyfriend mind receiving oral only once every few months? Does he actually ask you to do it (repeatedly)? If he's at all understanding about it (and he should be), then, if I were you, I wouldn't do it anymore.

I wouldn't really worry about it. There may be some things that you can do, but some people are just naturally quieter.

Neither me nor my boyfriend are really very noisy. Sure, we have our times when one of us can't help but moan, but we usually have to be quiet so we don't get caught by parents. Sometimes I want to scream, but I always put my hand over my mouth and just kind breathe in a really high-pitched way. Even though we try not to be noisy, we move around a lot. It's quite a problem for me, because I'll be moving around so much that he can't keep his mouth on me (we haven't had sex, just oral and such). And a couple of times I've even accidentally kicked him. And hit him in the face. And pushed him off the bed. Boy, is he brave... Anyway, I got a little off-topic there. I'm with whoever it was that said to build tension. Tease him for a while. Do try something new. Ever do striptease? A lot of guys like that. Why not buy some of that sexy Valentine's oriented lingirie? And strip for him.

Are you guys actually doing something at these times or just sitting around? Don't expect it to just pop up out of nowhere. Next time you two are together, if things seem a little slow, then jump on him. Make out, run your hands over him, whatever. Just do something to get him going. Chances are, when things heat up, you shouldn't have a problem with him not having an erection. Also, does it really bother you to stimulate him when he isn't erect? I'm just curious. For a while, my boyfriend wouldn't let me go down on him until he was erect. He didn't care either way, but he thought that I wouldn't want to. I don't know where he got that idea, but I convinced him otherwise, and now I start on him whether he's erect or not. If he isn't to begin with, then you can bet that he is once I start. Of course, if he is having problems getting an erection, then there could be a problem (not neccesarily serious though... don't panic). He could have something else on his mind. Where do you usually do things like this? From what I remember about your post, you're kind of young (about like me, right?), so that probably doesn't leave too many private places for you and your boyfriend to "interact." If you're in the house with parents or whatever, then yeah.. I could see that there could be a problem. Don't panic. This doesn't neccesarily mean that he's lost interest in you. If pouncing on him and giving it your all doesn't work, then why don't you just ask him about it? Maybe he's just not in the mood or something. Don't fret!

First off, I'm a girl. I love giving my guy oral! I'm not ready to have sex, so this is our alternative. He doesn't seem to mind, though. It's actually become standard procedure. Just about anytime we're together and alone, I go down on him. It's so great being able to do something like that for him. And, knowing that I'm getting him off turns me on too. I don't mind the taste. Of course, he's never ejaculated in my mouth before (he always warns me when he's about to and then I finish with my hands), but his precum doesn't have an unpleasant taste. Besides, there's not really that much of it there anyway. It tastes a little salty, but that's all. My first few times were a little scary. I asked him to wear a condom. I don't know why, but it did make me feel more comfortable. Just be gentle. Find those certain places (the fenulum, perineum, etc.). I'm not sure how many guys like this, but don't just focus on his penis... give his testicles a little attention too. I always find teasing fun too (kiss his stomach, thighs, etc. before you go in for the big one).

Maybe a diagram would help. link removed Try a search on Google. Often, feminine products (tampons and the like) companies have great websites that offer diagrams.

I found this discussion very interesting. Though I know about it, I've never tried anything like this before. I think I'm pretty much on the same page as most others. I don't see anything wrong with it, though I feel that there should be definite limits. I think I remember reading an article on this. If I'm not mistaken, it said that our bodies actually have more tolerance for pain when we're aroused. Also, since our receptors are already overloaded with endorphins, a little pain only increases the intensity of the pleasurable feelings (to an extent, of course). Many will argue that it is a type of sexual dysfunction. I'm no expert so I won't flame that one. Or maybe it's just some little something that gets people off. As long as it doesn't reach an extreme (whatever that may be to the individuals), I'd say that there's not a thing to worry about.