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i'd preferably like to hear from the ladies on this one because you understand your own better than guys do. I have two situations and i wanna know if there's more behind it than meets the eye. 1) This girl i know that i've been friends with for a while has been in a relationship for several years now. Her relationship with her man started well before we met and got to know each other. She called me her biggest regret from high school, in that she got to know me too late, and not too long ago she presented me with a hypothetical situation: if i knew a girl and i knew that she had a boyfriend, would i go out with her if i knew that she was in a relationship. She asked if i would be willing to be with her if i knew that she was cheating on someone to be with me, knowing that she's capable of cheating. Is there any meaning behind that? Like, in her hypothetical situation, was she trying to find out if i would be with her if she cheated on her guy, or was she just asking in general? 2)Different girl: There's a girl in my apartment building that i run into once in a while. Once we ran into each other in the elevator, and introduced ourselves and that was it. Then several weeks later, it was raining and she walked out of the building before i did. She had an umbrella and i didn't. She started walking, and then stopped, turned around, and asked me if i wanted to share her umbrella with her. Does that mean anything significant, considering that previous to sharing her umbrella we had only had that short encounter in the elevator?

It sounds to me like he's a little insecure. maybe afraid of rejection. i'm not quite sure why there's the idea that the guy should make the first move. i'd say jump right in.

i'm a guy. and i've had this happen to me plenty of times. my general idea is that i want to be friends with someone before considering a serious relationship, which is just a bad idea cuz i always get stuck in the friend zone, but i like to know someone well and know that i can trust them and get along (it's a defense mechanism of sorts). but to answer your question, the best way to tell a guy that you're not interested is to be perfectly honest with him. if you try to work around it, things will just get more awkward. so there isn't much to lose. you have to hope that he's reasonable enough to be able to accept the let down and handle being friends without letting it get awkward. tell him that it was nice of him to say all these nice things about you, but it makes you feel kinda weird. if you really want to be friends with this guy, the best way is to just come out with the truth, which is always tough to deal with, but it'll turn out better in the long run. my question to you is... why would you have kissed him if you don't have an interest? and also, make sure to be gentle about saying what you feel. don't call him a weirdo or a freak for having hopes of something happening. if anything, be apologetic - basically, try not to embarrass him so that he won't be afraid to continue this friendship.