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  1. I'm reading "Buyology: Truth and Lies About Why We Buy" by Martin Lindstrom. I'm also reading a book titled, "The Founding Fathers" by Michael Levy. I love delving into the social sciences -- namely history, economics, geography, and psychology.
  2. Ask out by e-mail?? Come on man, that sets off "wuss" alarms. Try to gain some confidence to do it in person.
  3. I think the best thing you can do is meet her, but without having any expectations. Remember that infatuations over the internet don't always translate into real-life relationships.
  4. My internship with the company I've interned for since January of 2006 told me today that my internship is done since i've reached the part-time/intern status limit. They said they'd love to talk about future full-time opportunities once I graduate. For those of you who have done internships and then gone on to a different company, or who have worked at several different places for some time, how has the social life varied in each place? In other words, have you felt more comfortable/more chemistry with people at one place more than the other? And why do you think that's the case? Is it because one place dealt with older people as opposed to younger ones or vice-versa? I'd like to hear your thoughts and experiences. Since this internship is ending I have to find another one now and it's like starting all over again. I'm going to have to meet new people and I'm hoping I'll have good chemistry with the people I meet at this new place. Looking forward to your comments.
  5. Hey guys, I've started a few threads about an internship I've been in for over a year now. Although the pay is good and the people are nice, I was debating whether I should stay or leave because I didn't want to spend the rest of the year doing the same things. I mentioned how I felt that staying in this company would limit me to doing the routine stuff I've been doing since month one. A few weeks ago I asked the director I worked with if it was possible to move me to another desired area within the company, but it never materialized. Anyhow, on Thursday, I went into the VP's office to say hello before leaving and he asked me if I could stay a few minutes. It turns out that 14 months and 2 internship extensions later, Human Resources said that I've reached the limit as being able to maintain "part-time/intern" status within the company. The VP said they're delighted with me and would offer me a full-time job, but since I don't graduate until December, they obviously can't do that. Thus, it looks like my internship may finally be over. I am aware that most internships only last 3-6 months, so I've been lucky to have been with the company this long. He added this: "I will try to do what I can to extend it but I'm not promising anything." He then gave me his business card, stated that I could use him as a reference and for reference letters at anytime, and that he wanted me to work with another recent full-time hire in the next few days in explaining my responsibilities to her. I think these tidbits were subtle indicators that he was trying to say it's over, but he didn't want to be too upfront about it. He also stated to stop by his office on Monday for his official word on all this. Why didn't he just say it's over already once and for all? I think he didn't because he wanted to let the cat out of the bag very slowly and subtly. That way I've absorbed it by Monday and it isn't as much of a shocker. Do you agree? (He also stated that he wants to keep the lines of communication open once I graduate). Regardless, I was already planning on leaving the company this year. I think this is a favorable outcome, because at least now I won't feel bad about leaving and regretting it later on. Instead my departure will take place because of the finality of the internship. I'm going to miss the benefits that this company provided (good pay and reputation/close to home), but I think I'm craving a new learning experience. After being in this rather large company for a good amount of time, I think it's going to look good on my resume and will give me the leeway to command a good hourly rate. I will not settle for less now, and once I find a new internship I will have two on my resume prior to graduating college. After my ex-supervisor and the woman who trained me left the client team I work with last summer (ex-supervisor left company/trainer went to a different account within the company), I never enjoyed working here as much anymore. The team took on a drastically new look (with 3 new people that eventually came in) and unfortunately I was unable to forge a strong connection with any of them as I did with the two others. Thus I seemed to lack a mentor; none of the directors I worked with seemed willing (or available) to take responsibility for me and supervise what I was doing. I guess they trusted me enough not to supervise me but honestly I felt like a lone wolf on occasion. All good things must come to an end and I think it's time to move on. Do you guys agree with my points? Although he said he would tell me definitely on Monday whether the internship is over, based on his actions, do you infer that he tried to tell me subtly that it already is? Thanks.
  6. Today my g/f invited me to her house to celebrate her brother's birthday with her family. I politely declined because I had a big quiz today (and 2 left to do this weekend). She came to my house to visit before leaving to the family get-together, and before leaving, she asked me "when do I come back tonight?" I asked her if she was fine coming back at around 9 PM and she said she didn't mind (I even told her that it'd be ok if she preferred to see me tomorrow instead of today, but she insisted she didn't mind coming back tonight). I said fine - I figured I'd be done with the quiz today at 9. 9 PM came rolling around, then 10, and I didn't hear from her all night. It wasn't until 10:30 PM or so that I finally spoke to her on MSN Messenger. She apologized and said that she assumed I had come to realize she wasn't going to come after all since I didn't receive her call. I think what she did was kind of inconsiderate - she basically left me hanging. If she simply would have called to let me know she wasn't going to come, I'd be happy with that. Do you guys agree?
  7. Hi, I'm currently in marketing but am considering looking into PR for my next job to gain some practical experience before graduating from college. What does PR involve? Is it a highly stressful career area? Is it low-paying? Do you merely need to have excellent writing skills? Do you need to be super extroverted? Any info would be most appreciated.
  8. wow you guys really hit it on the head. I agree with everything you've said. As the number of people grows, there just seems to be less attention directed at you, the conversations become less serious (and a lot more mindless chit-chat), etc. It seems like you don't get to know a person as profoundly when dealing with a group, because you have to be talking or paying attention to a multiple number of people. That's one reason, for example, that many people oppose group dates.
  9. Hi, I don't know if some of you have experienced this, but I'm seeking some feedback. I'm the type of person that isn't shy whatsoever to interact with someone in a one-to-one fashion. This semester I've already spoken to several people in my classes that way. When I'm dealing with one (and sometimes even two) people this way, I don't mind taking the initiative in being the first one to talk. However, when dealing with a group of people (4 or more, particularly if they know each other well), I am not as sociable. This includes dinner table situations when there are various people present, when I'm doing a 5-person group project, etc. As the number of people involved grows, I seem to become more of a "social loafer" and prefer to let other people do the talking. I am unsure if this questions my ability to be self-confident around a growing number of individuals. I don't know if it's the possibility of saying something dumb and having more people look down upon me because of it (as opposed to just having 1 or 2 people present). My g/f and I went on a cruise the other day. The cruise was sponsored by her college (where she also happens to work) and at the table we were surrounded by her female co-workers and acquaintances. I was at least hoping that some of those girls would take their boyfriends so that I'd be able to talk to them, but none of them did. I felt very left out and uninterested in socializing with them. Now, if the table would have consisted of my g/f and I, and only ONE OR TWO of those girls as opposed to 5, I'm sure I would have been more talkative. Anyways, my point is that with me, less people = more sociability on my part. That's just how I've always been. Is anyone else this way? I would love to read others' comments. Thanks.
  10. Hello, I've recently posted about this here a few times now. This month is going to mark 13 months that i've been a part-time intern (while being a full time student) at an advertising/media agency. Last year was great in the sense that I learned many new things. But in the past 3/4 months or so, I feel like I haven't learned anything new, and that these people are putting me to do a lot of routine stuff where I'm not allowed to put my skills into action. Yes, I've talked to them about it. What I basically asked is if they could move me to a different area (research) within the company, but they pretty much implied that they could not because they need me to do the same stuff in the area that I'm in - otherwise they have to hire and train someone else to do it. They've also told me that since I'm part-time, they cannot rely on me for big projects since I don't put in enough time. I currently work with the research director on a small project but it really doesn't involve much "brains." He told me around Sept of last year that there was a chance they would indeed move me to work directly under him, but that fizzled and never came to fruition. I think once I told him that I put in 15 hours a week (and that I have an irregular schedule where I don't necessarily come in the same days every week due to school), it somehow might have drawn a red flag that he can't rely on me as he would a full-time person. I think that such a situation is not a very favorable one for me. I graduate from college in December and I wish to be able to learn different things in different areas and gain exposure to different types of work before I get my marketing degree. The area i'm in specializes in media buying which is not really what i'm interested in, even though we handle a big client. I feel that if I stay in this area for the rest of the year, I'm not going to grow much nor learn anything new. Everyone on the team always seems too busy as well (I'm now with a totally different team than the one I started with at this company because my former supervisor left as well as the woman who trained me but that's a different story). Leaving this company would hurt for two reasons - good pay and great reputation. At the same time, I'm somewhat bored of doing the same things. I know that internships don't normally last so long - they're usually a few months. They've extended the duration of the internship twice now, which is good, but I don't want to be stuck doing the same stuff for another full year. It seems as if both sides have their own best interest at heart (them keeping me in this area so that they don't have to spend time training someone else and me wanting to grow and learn more before graduating). I know that "room for growth" in an internship doesn't make a lot of sense, and I know that working in this other area I want to move to was not originally what this internship was for. That's why maybe i've reached a threshold and it's time to move on to something else. It's pretty much balancing good pay and company reputation against finding a company that's more aligned with my interests. I must admit something else - where I currently am does give me a lot of flexibility with my schedule. So flexible, in fact, that they allow me to do work from home and still get paid for it. They give me so much flexibility that this, combined with having to do the same stuff (hence no new training for new tasks) has made me lose interest in going to the office more than 2 times a week. And they don't seem to mind at all. I might consider bringing this up again with the VP - the most senior person in this company. If they tell me the same thing again ("sorry we need you in this area, we can't move you") I think i'll pretty much tell them that it might be time to move on. But I need your feedback and opinions - would this be a good decision? Any comments ?
  11. Hey all, I was hoping you could give me a little guidance here. I'm currently studying to earn a Bachelor's in Marketing and a minor in Psychology. The side in marketing I've been most interested is that of research. I'm currently doing an internship in a media/advertising agency and have thought about leaving soon to possibly get a different internship in market research. The thing is this: I think I may be suited for tasks that involve writing and grammar as opposed to analytical, math-oriented tasks. I'm a perfectionist when it comes to writing and enjoy doing it very much. I also love marketing and consumer behavior. I've looked into the qualitative side of market research, but that area in marketing seems extremely limited. Most jobs involve the quantitative stuff. It's come to my attention that perhaps I should look into public relations, which involves promoting a company's products and putting a positive spin on things. Although I master the writing, I do have to work a little bit on oral communications. I can give great speeches orally when I set my mind to it but I don't like doing them that much. Can anyone give me some guidance? Does PR seem more for me?
  12. I've heard that being to yourself can be a good thing or a bad thing. It's a bad thing in that you limit contact with other people/ they don't get to know you as well. It's a good thing in that you keep a little mystery going - makes people want to get to know you better. But I think the bad may outweigh the good in this situation somewhat, because being to yourself means not taking an active interest in other people. If other people see that you're really not interested in them, they're not going to show interest in you (or so people say). Do you guys agree? But what if a person truly values time alone? I'm not saying being completely isolated from the world. What I'm saying is - having a girlfriend/boyfriend, a good share of friends, but not necessarily being a social butterfly. Staying home over the weekends doing your stuff for school and going out once in a while with your SO and friends but for the most part staying home (and away from bars/clubs/etc). As far as in the workplace, i'm talking about being nice to everyone and talking to people once in a while but not "getting too close" e.g. (happy hour, going out to lunch with people everytime you're there, etc). This also includes actually enjoying some time eating lunch by yourself somewhere else. If any of you saw the Surreal Life on VH1 (season 3) I'm talking about being like Jordan Knight acted on that show, although a bit nicer and more sociable than him. So my main question is - is it bad for people to view you as a generally quiet person who, although nice and well-intentioned, prefers to stick to himself/herself? Does this hamper one in the workplace? Is it bad to being more receptive to certain people with which you feel you identify more and not others?
  13. Scenario: If you've been working as a part time/intern at the same place for over a year now and you suddenly realize that you've pretty much been doing the same stuff since you started... not much direction/mentoring from people within the company (everyone always seems too busy).... You ask for new roles/responsibilities but they balk because you're part-time and don't want to have you participate in bigger, more time-consuming projects. The guys that you report to now are always busy and don't give you much attention (and sometimes don't pay much attention to your work). You feel lost (ever since your supervisor left the company over the summer/the girl that trained you got moved to a different account) and don't feel a sense of guidance within the company anymore.... BUT You get paid well and the company is very big and well-known... they're also very flexible with your school hours (partly because they don't really care) Overall point: you're not learning anything new 1. Do you leave the company ASAP? 2. Find another job as well-paying/flexible before you go 3. Stick it out to see what happens (despite that you might have to do the same stuff for months and months more) ? Thanks
  14. Shy, My guess is that you're very young. I experienced similar "online encounters" when I was a teenager, and like you, I was already thinking that I loved girls I hadn't yet met in person after knowing them online for a few months. I honestly think that this is pure idealization - you're becoming fixated on how you perceive this guy rather than on who he really is. How do I know? Because you yourself don't know who he really is if you have yet to meet him in person. Take it from someone who has experience with these things. Interactions over a computer do not always translate into "happily ever after" stories in real life. I'm not saying that your situation cannot work out in person, but don't get your hopes up too high. Like other posters have suggested, try to meet people in real life. You might dismiss everything I'm saying, but don't be surprised if you do meet someone in person one of these days who sweeps you off your feet and makes you lose interest in this online fantasy. Usually people are more compelled to try out online dating when their real-life options are either limited or unattractive.
  15. I've been in a great relationship with my g/f for almost two years now. We are super clingy with one another, but almost to the point of getting jealous when one watches a movie rental without the other being present, upset when a friend invites one of us out but the other gets left out, etc. We both claim it's a "healthy" jealousy/selfishness that shows we're always yearning for each other. We both just have a couple of close friends. None of us has ever flied on a plane. She told me that her college might be taking a group of students to fly to another state in the midwest in March and that she may be going - it's all paid. As you can imagine, I don't like the thought of this. I always pictured her and I going on a plane for the first time together. She has yet another trip to go on a few weeks before but that one is not that far and will require bus transportation. The plane one bothers me because I am unable to go (because of school) and am not in a position to be spending money on a trip that way. I'm trying to figure out if we really get jealous/upset because we want to partake in these things together and it doesn't pan out that way, or because we want to "join in on the fun." I was honest with her and told her that if she was to go, it would upset me a bit. Are we both being too selfish/possessive with one another in your view?
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